AbaNxila abaziqondi impembelelo yokuziphatha kwabo
Ukuba ungumhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho yomntu ophuza ngaphandle, ungase ufune iindlela zokuqonda kangcono ingqondo yomnxila. Kungaba nzima ukuba ungayifaki ukuziphatha kakubi komntu oselayo, kodwa into yokuba abadakilayo ababaziyo ukuba izenzo zabo ezinxilayo zichaphazela njani abo bathandekayo.
Sebenzisa le nkcazo ukufumana umfanekiso ogqithisileyo wobunxila kunye nokuphucula iimpendulo zakho ngexesha lokusebenzisana nomntu onxila.
Oku kunokuthetha ukubeka imithetho yomgaqo kunye nokujoyina iqela leenkxaso ezifana ne- Al-Anon , eyenzelwe ngokukodwa ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zeentsapho zezidakwa.
Amaqela ezenkxaso kumaLungu eNtsapho
Abasetyhini kunye namadoda abatshatileyo kwizidakwa badla ngokukhawuleza ngamaxesha okuxhasa malunga nentlungu yokuthanda umntu ozinikela ngokuzithoba ngokusela. La madoda namabhinqa bazizwa bengenakunceda njengotywala ngaphandle kokuzilimaza ngokwabo kodwa bachitha imitshato yabo kunye neentsapho zabo kwinkqubo. Njengoko utywala obunokutshabalalisa, abatshatileyo baya kuphulukana nokukwazi ukuva novelwano kumntu oselayo . Abaninzi bacinga ukuba iinzame zabo zokuncedisa utywala ziye zenziwa ngaphandle. Nangona kuqondakala ukuba abantu abathandayo abanxila banokuziva bengenabubele kubo, kubalulekile ukuba baqonde indlela ubuchopho obunxilisayo busebenza ngayo.
Ubutywala bubaluleke kakhulu Ubunzima obunobungozi
Utywala azinakho ukukhulelwa kobunzulu nobubanzi bezenzo zabo zobunxila kubathintela kulabo abathandayo.
Bangakwazi njani? Amakhono abo okuqonda awanakho; ngokwenene, xa betywele, ubuchopho buyingozi.
Enyanisweni, amandla abo okucinga, ukuzinza kwengqondo, kunye nokuqina kwengqondo zichaphazeleke kakhulu kwiqondo elithile kangangokuba amaninzi amaziko angonyango awanakukufumana ingcamango yokuqesha umntu onxilisayo ngaphandle kokubini ubuncinane, ngokukhethekileyo iminyaka emithathu eqhubekayo kwaye ngqondweni.
Kwaye akuqinisekisi ukuba bafumene ubunzulu.
Intukuthelo, ukukhawuleza kunye noyiko
Ngokuqinisekileyo, izidakwa ezisemgangathweni ezithulekileyo, ezinokuthula, kunye nokunyuka kwiqondo lokuzimela zikhona. Ukwabelana ngendawo nabo kufana nokuba nabafileyo abaphilayo, kodwa ubuncinci bayathula. Ngokugqithiseleyo kunoko, ke, izidakwa zifumana enye indlela yokuxhaphaza okanye ukuphazamisa iintsapho zabo. Emva kwexesha elithile, oku kuholele umlingane ongenangqondo ukuziva umsindo, ukuthukuthela kunye nokwesaba kunokuba uvelane nomntu oselayo.
Umfazi njengoSitha
Kumntu onxilisayo , umlingane wakhe ongenalwazi ngumtshaba. Abo bangabinxila ngokwemvelo basongela ubomi bomnxila. Ngokuya e-Al-Anon, "utshaba" lenze kube nzima ukuba utywala alinqabe ukuqhubeka. Ngandlela-thile, nangona emva kotywala kunokuyeka utywala, loo nto intshaba iyaqhubeka.
Iintlanganiso ze-Al-Anon zinexesha elihlekayo, kodwa liyi-wry kwaye idla ngokumnyama. Amalungu entsapho amaninzi ahleka ngokwabo ukuba indlela yokucinga yabo ifakwa ngayo xa bezama ukugcina ingqiqo yesiqhelo .