Yintoni esinokuyifunda ngokuqina kwengqondo kubadlali behlabathi abaphezulu?
Grit. Ukuzimisela. Ukunika amandla . Ubungqina. Ngaba unayo oko kuthatha ukuba uqhubeke nobunzima? Ukuzikhethela kwaye uqhube phambili nangona kubonakala sengathi ubethe udonga lwezitena? Ingqondo yengqondo ibinzana elisetyenziswe kwingqondo-ntsingiselo ekubhekiseleleni ekuqinisekeleni kunye namandla abantu abanayo ukuba balwe ngamajoni baze baphumelele.
Yiyo ingxaki yengqondo eyenza ezinye iimboni zehlabathi zikwazi ukunyusa ukudinwa, ukuchaswa, kunye nokulimala kwamanqaku kunye nokuphumelela. Umgangatho ofanayo owanikela ngamagosa onke amaqhawe amandla okugqiba loo mizuzu yokugqibela kunye negunya ngokusebenzisa idilesi yokugqibela ye-reps.
Ngoko unokwenza ntoni ukuze uhlakulele isimo sengqondo esichukumisayo sengqondo esiza kukukhonza ngokubhekiselele kwimigudu yakho yokuzilolonga umzimba kodwa nakweminye imiba yobomi bakho?
1 - Qonda ukuba Yintoni efunekayo ukuba isondele
Ingqondo yengqondo yinto enceda ukubeka abadlali abaphezulu ngaphandle kokhuphiswano. Ukuhlakulela le mpawu, kubalulekile ukuqala ukuqonda ukuba yintoni eyenza aba khuphiswano abaneengqondo ezahlukeneyo kwipakethi.
Nangona ivela kwintsimi yokuqeqeshwa kwezemidlalo , ngokubhekiselele kwikhono labadlali ukuba bahlale beqinileyo, beqinisekile, kwaye banokukhuphisana, umqondo ngoku usetyenziswa ngokubanzi ukubhekisela kwimimandla yengqondo evumela abantu ukuba baphathe ubunzima bokuphila.
Iingcali zeengqondo zichaza njani ukuqina kwengqondo? Kukho ingxoxo phakathi kwabaphandi malunga nendlela yokuyichaza ngayo kuquka oko kuqukwayo kunye neendawo zobomi ezisebenza kuyo. Ezinye iingcali, umzekelo, zibonisa ukuba ukukhathazeka kwengqondo kumele kugwenyelwe ikakhulu kwinxalenye yemidlalo kanti abanye bakholelwa ukuba ngumgangatho oqhelekileyo ochaphazela ezinye iindawo zobomi.
Kwincwadi yabo, Ukuphuhlisa i-Mind mentality , abaphandi uPeter Clough noDoug Strycharczyk bachaza ukukhathazeka kwengqondo ngokuthi "Umgangatho obeka eninzi kwindlela abantu abajongene ngayo ngempumelelo nomngeni, uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ... kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziimeko eziphilileyo."
U-Clough kunye noogxa bakhe bachaza njengento efanayo nomntu wobuntu obunezinto ezine ezibalulekileyo:
- Umngeni: Ukujonga iimingeni njengamathuba kunemingcipheko.
- Ukulawula: Ukukholelwa ukuba ulawulo lwakho lobomi kunye nesiphelo.
- Ukuzibophezela: Ukuba nekhono lokunamathela kwimisebenzi kwaye ubone ukugqitywa.
- Ukuzithemba: Ukufumana inkolelo enamandla ekwenzeni kwakho ukuphumelela.
Bakhuthaza ukuba kufana neendlela ezininzi kwiingxaki zengqondo kwaye ukuqina kwengqondo akufanele kube yintsimi kwimidlalo. Abadlali be-Elite bangabonisa uhlobo lokuqina kwengqondo okubenza bawine, kodwa izakhono ezifanayo zingasebenza kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi bemihla ngemihla.
Ngaba ingqondo yengqondo yendalo yemveliso okanye iyakhula ? Ubukho obufumanekayo bubonisa ukudibanisa okunomzimba oluqinileyo. Nangona abanye abantu babonakala nje beza kuba yingqondo ngokuqhelekileyo, abaphandi bacetyisa ukuba yinto enokufunda nokuqiniswa. Ukuqeqeshwa kwezemidlalo ngokuqinisekileyo kubonisa ukukwazi ukufumana ezi zakhono. Ngoko yintoni enye onokuyenza ukuze uhlakulele umgangatho wengqondo yengqondo?
2 - Kholwa kwiCandelo lakho lokufezekisa iinjongo zakho
Ngomhla ka-2002 uphando lwabadlali abalishumi abakhulu behlabathi abadlali bezemidlalo, enye yeyona ndlela abaqhubi abaphezulu ababizwa ngokuba yimpembelelo enkulu kwimpumelelo yabo yayingenakuzithemba.
Abantu abanobuchopho abayicingi nje ukuba bayakwazi ukuphumelela, bayazi ukuba bayakwazi. Nangona uphando oluninzi lwengqondo olubhekiselele ngqo kwihlabathi lezemidlalo kunye nemidlalo, ungayisebenzisa enye yale migaqo kwimimandla yobomi bakho.
Ingaba uzama ukulahlekelwa isisindo, ukuyeka umkhuba ombi, ugijime umqhudelwano, okanye uphumelele emsebenzini wakho, ukukholelwa kuwe kubalulekile. Gwema ukuzithethelela okungekho nto kwaye gxininisa amandla akho ekuhlaleni nokuzikhuthaza.
3 - Gxininisa kwiiNtshukumo ze-Intrinsic kunezoMvuzo woPhandle
Abadlali abaphezulu behlabathi abafumani intando yokunyamezela nokuphumelela kuba bafuna ukubongwa, imali, okanye enye imivuzo (nangona ezo zinto zingathandabuzeki). Esikhundleni saloo nto, zibangelwa yimikhosi ngaphakathi. Izizathu zokungena kwi-intrinsic yizo ezivela ngaphakathi komntu kwaye zibandakanya ukwenza izinto ngenxa yazo. Ezi zizathu zangaphakathi ziqhuba abantu ukuba benze okubhetele, baqhube nzima, baqine, baze babone ukuba bangahamba kangakanani.
Abantu abanobuchopho abanengqondo abazigxila kwimiphumo enokuthi bangayilinda ekupheleni komngeni. Kunoko, babona ukuthatha inxaxheba kwaye banqobe imingeni njengokuba bavuzayo kunye nabo.
4 - Musa ukuvumela ukukhutshwa kukuhlawule
Abadlali beentliziyo ezinzima bavame ukuhlawulela kwiintsilelo kunye neengqiqo zokuvuselela. Ungayisebenzisa le nto kubomi bakho. Esikhundleni sokudimazeka, gxininisa ekwakheni isisombululo sokunyusa ucelomngeni kwaye uphumelele iinjongo zakho.
Kwenye uphando lwabadlali bezemidlalo abancinci, abathathi-nxaxheba abaninzi bancomela ukuba ukuqina kwengqondo kudla ngokukhawuleza kumava amaninzi. Ukujamelana nobunzima emdlalweni wabo kunye nokuphila kwabo kubomi babakhokelela abaqhubi abaphezulu ukwenza iindlela ezintsha zokulawula uxinzelelo kunye nokugqwesa ekujongeni ubunzima.
5 - Yiba yi-Self-Directed
Abantu abanobugwenxa abavumelanga ubomi babenzeke-badala ubomi abayifunayo. Ngokuzibekela iinjongo kwaye emva koko uthatha inyathelo lokulandela ngokulandela ezi njongo, abantu abanengqondo abanengqondo bayakwazi ukufumana izinto abazifunayo ebomini.
Xa behlolwe ngemibono yabo yinto eyabancede ukuba bahlakulele ukukhupha kwengqondo, abadlali be-gymnasts abaphakamileyo bavakalisa ukuba neenjongo njengenye yeempembelelo ezinamandla kakhulu: "Ndaqonda indlela yokubeka iinjongo kwaye ukuzama ukufikelela kubo kungandinceda njani ukuba ndifike kwizinga eliphezulu," i-gymnast yabatshela abaphandi.
Nangona ngamanye amaxesha bangela ukuba kubonakale kunzima, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba bazimisele ukufaka umsebenzi. Kwabadlali, oku kuhambelana nokubambelela kwiimimiselo zoqeqesho kunye nokujongene nokuncintisana nemicimbi yezemidlalo. Ubomi bemihla ngemihla, oku kungabandakanya ukuthatha amanyathelo imihla ngemihla ekufinyeleleni iinjongo zakho, nangona ukufikelela kwezo njongo kubonakala kukude okanye kungenakwenzeka.
Ukuba nzima ngokwengqondo akuyona into eyenzeka ngokukhawuleza emzuzwana; kakhulu malunga nemikhwa yemihla ngemihla ebanceda abantu balwe ngamaxesha amanzima ukuze baqonde iinjongo zabo.
Oku akuthethi ukuba akufanele ukwamkele uncedo okanye uhambe wedwa. Kwabadlali abanomdla baxhomekeke kubaqeqeshi babo nakwabalingane babo ukuze bancedise, baholele, bavuselele ukuba basebenze nzima kwaye bafezekise amandla abo.
6 - Gcina Ugxininiso Xa Ujongene Nokuphazamiseka
Abadlali be-Elite bayakwazi ukuhlala bejolise kwiinjongo zabo, nangona xa ubomi buphonsa ukuphazamiseka endleleni yabo. Awusoloko uhlala ube nesimo esipheleleyo kunye nenkxaso yokuphangela iinjongo zakho. Ezinye izinto ziya kukuncintisana ukuze uqaphele.
Abantu abanobuchopho bentliziyo bayakwazi ukugcina ingqiqo yabo kwaye baqhubeke besebenza kwiinjongo zabo ekujongene nalezi ziphazamiso. Xa uziva ulahlekelwe ingqalelo , khangela iindlela zokuphinda uphinde uphinde uzibuyisele kumkhondo.
7 - Qonda ukuba Kuya Kuphakama kunye neLows in Life
Abantu abanobuchopho abalindele ukuba ubomi bube ngelanga kunye ne rosi ngexesha lonke. Enyanisweni, balindela ubunzima, kodwa banokholo kwizakhono zabo zokusinda, ukulungelelanisa, nokubanqoba.
Ngokomphando, abadlali bezemidlalo baxela ukuba kudla ubunzima kunye nokukhuphisana okukunceda ukukhupha kwengqondo. Kuphela kwimeko ebunzima bokuba abantu bafunde oko banako.
I-8 - Gcina indlela oyiLawula ngayo
Ngokomphandi uPeter Clough, ulawulo luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yengqondo yengqondo. Abo baxhamla olu hlobo lombono wengqondo banomuvo wokuba balawulwa ngokwabo kwisiphelo sabo.
Kunokuba bafeze ukusilela kwabo okanye ukuphumelela kwimikhosi engaphandle, iingqondo ezinzima zininzi zendawo yokulawula yangaphakathi . Abaziboni nje ngokuba ngababukeli bokungabonakali ebomini babo. Kunoko, bakholelwa ukuba banendima ebonakalayo ekudaleni zabo ukunqoba.
9 - Qinisekisa Ngayo, Nokuba Xa Kunzima
Ukuzibophezela enye yenye yezona zinto eziphambili eziboniswe nguClough kunye nabalingane bakhe. Cinga ngendlela abagijimi abakwazi ngayo ukulawula ngamandla ngenxa yokudinwa kunye nentlungu yokufikelela kumgca wokugqibela. Iingqondo ezinzima zizinikezele ekuboneni, nangona xa kunzima kwaye nokuba bacinga ukuba bangaphumeleli.
Uninzi lwabalandeli abakhulu kakhulu lubonisa ukuba ukhuphiswano, kunye nempumelelo eyenzekayo kunye nokungaphumeleli okuza kunye nalo, ngenye yezinto ezibalulekileyo ezifaka isandla ekukhuseleni kwengqondo.
Isifundo esivela kwiimbaleki eziphezulu zehlabathi kukuba nangona izithintelo zilukhuni, ukunamathela kwizibophelelo zakho kukunceda ufumane izifundo kunye namava okufuneka uphumelele kwikamva. Ikufundisa ngamandla akho, yenza ukuba uqaphele ubuthathaka bakho, kwaye kukunceda uqaphele ukuba izithintelo kunye nokwehluleka akuthethi inkcaso-xa nje uthuli kwaye uqhubeke.
I-10 - Yenza i-Positive Spin On It
Ukusebenza ngokusisigxina kwinjongo yakho, ekuhambeni kwexesha, kunokuncedisa kwisimo sengqondo esichukumisayo. U-Mahoney kunye noogxa bakhe bafumanisa ukuba ngokuqhuba umzamo oqhubekayo, abantu banokuvakalelwa ngempumelelo, ukuphumelela, kunye nemveliso, yonke into eyenza iinjongo ziphumele phambili.
Xa izinto zicelomngeni okanye zingathandeki, ukugxotha phambili nokufikelela kuloo mvakalelo yokufezekisa kunokukunika amandla okucinga ukuba uqhubeke.
11 - Fumana inkxaso
Abadlali bezemidlalo behlabathi abafikeli phezulu kwimidlalo yabo bonke. Kwiimeko ezininzi, bachitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabaontanga abanika inkxaso , amathuba okuqeqesha, kunye neendawo ezintle zokuphuhliswa kobuqu kunye nobugcisa.
Bahlobo, intsapho, oogxa nabo, kunye nabaphiswano bakho banokukunceda ukuba 'bangatsho ukuthi' bafe '. Khangela abantu obaxhamlayo ukuze bancede bavuselele le miva yokusebenza kanzima, ukuzimisela, i-grit, ne-positivity. Funa abantu abaza kuncedisa impumelelo yakho kwaye bakhuthaze ukuba ufezekise iinjongo zakho. Fumana abacebisi kwaye ujonge abantu abanokukhathazeka kwengqondo ukukhuthaza ukuphuhliswa kwesi sakhono sengqondo ebomini bakho.
ILizwi
Ukuqina kwengqondo kunesigxina esinomzimba esisisigxina, kodwa uphando kwizinye iimbaleki ezinamandla kunazo zonke zehlabathi zibonisa ukuba lusekhono olunokuphuhliswa. Khangela iindlela zokusebenzisa ezinye zezifundo ezifunyenwe kwiimbaleki ezikhutheleyo ngengqondo kwiindawo ezahlukahlukeneyo zobomi bakho, nokuba uzama ukuthola amandla okunamathela kumsebenzi onzima wokusebenza okanye uphumelele kumsebenzi onzima. Njengoko uWinston Churchill wamemezela, "Impumelelo ayiyiyo yokugqibela, ukungaphumeleli akuyikufa: yinkalipho yokuqhubeka ibala."
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