Izicwangciso zengqondo ezinokukunceda unamathele kwiinjongo zakho
Ukuqala konyaka omtsha ngexesha eligqibeleleyo lokuguqula iphepha elitsha, mhlawumbi kutheni baninzi abantu bakha izigqibo zonyaka omtsha. Unyaka omtsha uvame ukuqala ukuqala, ithuba elide lokuphelisa imikhwa emibi nokuseka iindlela eziza kukunceda ukhule ngokwengqondo, ngokomoya, kwintlalo, ngokwenyama, okanye ngengqondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, izigqibo zenzeke lula kunokuba zigcine kwaye ngasekupheleni kukaJanuwari abaninzi bethu basishiyile isisombululo sethu baze bahlaziywa kwiipatheni zamandulo.
Ngokomphando othile, kuphela iipesenti ezi-9 zabantu abenza izigqibo zonyaka omtsha bazive bephumelele ekuphumezeni iinjongo zabo. Ezinye zezigqibo eziqhelekileyo ziquka ukulahlekelwa ubunzima, ukwenza ukhetho olungcono lwemali, ukuyeka ukutshaya, nokuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nosapho.
Ngelixa abantu abaninzi banomuvo wokuthi abafezekanga iinjongo zabo, kukho iindaba ezilungileyo. Ngokomnye uphando olushicilelwe kwi- Journal of Clinical Psychology yabona ukuba abo babeka izigqibo ngeziganeko zonyaka omtsha banamathuba amaninzi okutshintsha indlela abaziphatha ngayo kunabantu abangenzi ezi njongo zonyaka.
Ngoko kutheni izigidi zabantu zisombulula ukutshintsha ekuqaleni konyaka? Uchungechunge lwangoku nje lwabaphandi abaye bathi "isiphumo esitsha sokuqala" lijonge ukuba iimpawu zokumaketha zesikhashana zingashukumisa njani iimpawu zokuzifunela. Ukuqala komnyaka omtsha kubonakala njengethuba lokuqala olutsha, kungenxa yoko abaninzi abantu babeka ngezinye izigqibo eziphakamileyo ngokugqithiseleyo ngeli xesha. Ngeli xesha ngamanye amaxesha angabangela abantu ukuba balume ngaphezu kokuba bahlakulele, amaxesha anjalo angakhombisa namathuba amaninzi okuyisa ukunqoba ubunzima.
Ngoko ke unokwenza ntoni ukwenza kube lula ukuba ugcine isigqibo sakho esilandelayo?
Khetha Iinjongo eziKhethekileyo, eziPhambili
Unyaka wonke, izigidi zabantu abadala zigqiba "ukunciphisa umzimba" okanye "zenzeke" ngexesha lonyaka ozayo. Esikhundleni sokukhetha injongo enjalo engcolileyo, gxininisa into enokwakheka ngakumbi ongayifaka ngokuqinisekileyo izinto zakho. Ngokomzekelo, izibonda zibophezela ukulahlekelwa iipounds ezili-10 okanye ukuqhuba umqhubi wemizuzu. Ukukhetha iinjongo eziphathekayo, ezifikelelekayo kukunika ithuba lokucwangcisa indlela oza kuzalisekisa ngayo injongo yakho phezu kwexesha lonyaka.
Khetha iSisombululo esisodwa
Nangona unokuba uluhlu olude lweZigqibo zeNtsha zoNyaka, uRichard Wiseman, uprofesa wezesayikrasi kwiYunivesithi yaseHertfordshire, ubonisa ukuba ufanele ukhethe enye kwaye ugxilise amandla akho kuyo kunokusasaza phakathi kweenjongo ezahlukeneyo.
I-American Psychological Association ibonisa ukuba kugxininise ukuziphatha okufanayo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kunokukhokelela ekuphumeleleni kwexesha elide. Ukuthabatha konke ngokukhawuleza kunokuba nzima. Kungaba nzima nakakhulu kuba ukubeka iipatheni ezintsha zokuziphatha kuthatha ixesha. Ukugxininisa iinzame zakho kwiinjongo ezithile kukugcina isisombululo siphumelele ngakumbi.
Musa ukulinda kude kube neNgcinci yokugqibela
Ucwangciso luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokufezekisa nayiphi na injongo. Iingcali zibonisa ukuba kufuneka uchithe ixesha elithile ukucwangcisa indlela oza kuthatha ngayo utshintsho olukhulu lokuziphatha. Ukuba uqala ukusebenza kumgomo ngaphandle kwanaluphi na uhlobo lwesicwangciso esikuyo, unokukhawuleza ufumene naluphi na ixesha ojamelana nalo naluphi uhlobo lwesithintelo, ubunzima, okanye ukuchasana.
Unokuqala ngokubhala phantsi injongo yakho, ukwenza uluhlu lwezinto onokuzenza ukuze ufezekise loo njongo, kwaye uqaphele nayiphi na imiqobo engayima endleleni yakho. Ngokwazi kakuhle into ofuna ukuyifeza kunye nobunzima obunokujamelana nayo, uya kuba ulungele kangcono ukunamathela kwisisombululo sakho kwaye unqobe iingxaki ezinokuba nazo.
Qalisa Ngezinyathelo Ezincinci
Ukuthatha ngokugqithisileyo isizathu esivakalayo sokuba kutheni izigqibo ezininzi zeNtsha zoNyaka. Ukugqithisa ngokukrakra iikhalori, ukuzenza ngaphezu kwendawo yokuzivocavoca, okanye ukuguqula ngokunyanisekileyo ukuziphatha kwakho okuqhelekileyo kuyindlela -yomlilo yokudambisa izicwangciso zakho. Endaweni yoko, gxila ekuthathe amanyathelo amancinci ekugqibeleni anokukunceda ufikelele kwinjongo yakho enkulu.
Ukuba uzimisele ukuqhuba i-marathon, qalisa ngokuya kwijog ezimbini okanye kathathu ngeveki. Ukuba uzama ukutya okunempilo, qalisa ngokutshintsha ezinye zokutya zakho ezifunwayo ngokutya okunomsoco. Nangona kubonakala ngathi kuyisiqalo esicothayo, ezi zintshintsho zincinci zenza kube lula ukunamathela kwimikhwa yakho entsha kwaye ukwandise amathuba okuphumelela kwexesha elide.
Gwema ukuphindaphinda ukungaphumeleli kwangaphambili
Esinye isicwangciso sokugcina isisombululo sakho soNyaka omtsha kukuba ungenzi isisombululo esifanayo kunyaka emva konyaka. "Ukuba abantu bacinga ukuba banokwenza oko mhlawumbi banako, kodwa ukuba sele bezama kwaye behlulekile, ukuzithemba kwabo kuya kuba phantsi," kuchaza u-Wiseman kwingxoxo-ndlebe ne -Guardian .
Ukuba ukhetha ukufikelela kwiinjongo ezifanayo ozenzile ngazo ngaphambili, sebenzisa ixesha elivavanya iziphumo zakho zangaphambili. Ziziphi izicwangciso ezazisetyenziswa kakhulu? Nguwuphi owona mncinci osebenzayo? Yintoni eye ikuthintele ukugcina isigqibo sakho kwiminyaka edluleyo? Ngokutshintsha indlela yakho, uya kuba nokubona iziphumo zangempela kulo nyaka.
Khumbula ukuba Utshintsho luyiNkqubo
Imikhwa engafanelekanga ukuzama ukuyitshintsha mhlawumbi ithatha iminyaka ukuphuhlisa, ngoko unokulindela ukuba uyitshintshe kwimiba okanye iintsuku, iiveki, okanye iinyanga? Kungathatha ixesha elide kunokuba ungathanda ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho, kodwa khumbula ukuba oku akukho uhlanga ukuya ekupheleni. Emva kokuba uzinikezele ukuguqula indlela yokuziphatha , yinto oya kuqhubeka usebenza kuyo yonke imihla yobomi bakho.
Ungavumeli Ukugqithisa Okuncinci Kukukhuphe
Ukudibanisa i-backback yenye yezona zizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuba kutheni abantu bayeke kwiZigqibo zabo Zonyaka omtsha. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza uphinde uphelele kwimikhwa emibi, ungayibukeli njengokwehluleka. Indlela ekujoliswe kuyo injongo yakho ayiyiyo ngqo kwaye kukho njalo iya kuba yimingeni. Endaweni yoko, jonga ukubuyela kwakhona njengamathuba okufunda.
Ukuba ugcina ingxelo yesigqibo, bhala ulwazi olubalulekileyo malunga nexesha lokubuyela kuphinda kwenzeke kwaye yintoni eyayiyibangela. Ngokuqonda imingeni ojongene nayo, uya kuba ulungele ukujongana nabo kwikamva.
Fumana Inkxaso Kuhlobo Lakho Nentsapho
Ewe, mhlawumbi uvile le ngcebiso ngesigidi, kodwa kungenxa yokuba inkqubo ye-buddy isebenza. Ukuba nenkqubo eyinkxaso enamandla kunokukunceda uhlale ukhuthazwa. Chaza ukuba zeziphi iinjongo zakho kubahlobo bakho abasondeleyo okanye usapho kwaye ubacele ukuba bancede ufezekise iinjongo zakho. Kulungile, nceda ubhale uncedo lwabanye ngokujoyina iqela elinika injongo yakho.
Hlaziya Iinjongo Zakho
Ngethuba leentsuku zokuqala zeSigqibo soNyaka omtsha, mhlawumbi uya kuziva unethemba kwaye ukhuthazwa kakhulu ukuba ufikelele kwiinjongo zakho. Ngenxa yokuba ungakhange ujongane nantoni na okanye isilingo esinxulumene nokutshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo, ukwenza ukuba utshintsho lubonakale lulula kakhulu.
Emva kokujongana nenyaniso yokuzihudula ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ngo-6 ekuseni okanye ukufaka amazinyo akho ngeentloko ezilethwe yi- nicotine ukuhoxiswa , ukunyanzelisa kwakho ukugcina isigqibo sakho soNyaka omtsha kuya kuqala ukuhla. Xa ujamelana nezihlandlo ezinjalo, zikhumbuze isizathu sokuba wenza oku. Yintoni oyifumanayo ngokufezekisa injongo yakho? Fumana imithombo yokuphefumlela eya kukugcina xa amaxesha enzima.
Qhubeka Usebenza Ngeenjongo Zakho
NgoFebruwari, abantu abaninzi baye balahlekelwa okokuqala kwintsiphelelo ababeyifumana emva koko emva kokuba benze isigqibo sabo soNyaka omtsha. Gcina lo phefumlelwe luphila ngokuqhubeka nokusebenza kwiinjongo zakho, nangemva kokuvalelwa kweengxaki. Ukuba indlela yakho yangoku ayisebenzanga, hlaziya kwakhona izicwangciso zakho kwaye uphuhliso isicwangciso esitsha.
Cinga ukugcina isigqibo somagazini, apho ungabhala malunga nempumelelo yakho kunye neengxaki. Bhala phantsi izizathu ezenza usebenzele injongo yakho ukuze ukwazi ukubhekisela kuwo ngamaxesha xa uziva ungenasiphelo kwaye ungakhuselekanga. Ngokubambelela kunye nokusebenza kwinjongo yakho unyaka wonke, unokuba ngumnye wabambalwa abakwazi ukuthetha ukuba ugcine ugqibo lwakho loNyaka omtsha.
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