Ngokuqhelekileyo inkcubeko ibonisa i-BDSM (ubukhoboka, ukuziphatha, ukulawula, ukungeniswa, kunye ne-sadomasochism) njengengenangqondo, inobungozi kunye neyingozi. Thatha ama-Shades amahlanu amaGrey, ngokomzekelo, izizathu zamaKristu eGrey zokunandipha kink ukususela ekuxhatshazweni kwabantwana. Iidrama zobugebengu zethelevishini zivame ukubalula abafestile njengabahluzi, abaphula umthetho. Akulona nje amajelo afumana amafayile eBDSM ngale ndlela. Ngaphambi kokukhishwa kwe-5 yesiqhelo seNgcaciso yeSifo kunye neSatistim of Distress mentals ngo-2013, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwi-fetishism kunye ne-sadomasochism kwakubonwe ngentsholongwane yengqondo yabasebenzi bezempilo.
1 - I-BDSM ayiyinto entsha yokuziphatha ngokwesondo
Isimo sengqondo ngesondo se-kinky sitshintshile. Ngenxa yokuthandwa kwamabali anjenge-Fifty Shades of Grey, i-BDSM ifumene ingqalelo ephakamileyo. Inkcubeko yasePapa ayizange yenze i-kink yangoku fad, nangona kunjalo. Abantu baye bahlala benomdla wokulala ngesondo. Uvavanyo lwe- Durex kwi-Global Global Survey lathola ukuba ama-36% abantu abadala bayavunyelwa ukuba basebenzise uhlobo oluthile lokukhonza ngexesha lokuthanda. Ngaphindwa ngo-1956, i-Kinsey Institute Study yabonisa ama-50% amadoda kwaye ama-55% amabhinqa ayenomdla wokuzila. Singahle sibe ne-kinky ngokwesondo kakhulu kunokuba sihlala sinabo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo sithetha ngoku.
Izifundo zakutsha ezinikezelwe ekuqondeni i-BDSM kunye nemiphumo yayo emzimbeni ibonise iziphumo ezimangalisa. Akunabo kuphela abaphandi abahlulekayo ukufumana ubungqina bengozi ye-BDSM ebangela, bafumanisa ukuba kunenzuzo embalwa yezempilo.
2 - iMpilo yengqondo ephuculweyo
Ngo-2013, i-International Society for Medicine Sexual yashicilela isifundo kwizengqondo zengqondo zeBDSM. Injongo yayikukulinganisa intlalo yengqondo yeekinksters ngokuvavanya iimpawu zobuntu eziphambili ezifana nezindlela zabo zokuncedisa ubudlelwane, ubume bentlalo, kunye nendlela ababuhlungu ngayo xa befaniswa neliqela elilawulayo. Abaphandi abafumananga nje ukuba iikinksters azizange zonakaliswe ngokwengqondo kodwa zenziwa ngokuqhelekileyo zilungelelaniswe ngaphezu kohlobo lwazo lwe-vanilla.
Ngokubanzi, isampula ye-BDSM yayizikhuselekile ngakumbi kwiintlalontle zabo kwaye yayinengqondo ephakamileyo yokuphila. Babenomdla ngakumbi kwabanye, baxhamla ngakumbi, bavulelekile ukuzama amava amasha, bekunciphise ukuxhalaba, kwaye babengenakuvalelwa kwabanye. Okuthakazelisayo, babekwazi ngakumbi iimfuno zabo zesini kodwa bengavumi kakhulu. Ezi zixhobo zihamba ngokusesikweni nangendlela yokukwazi ukubonisa imida kunye neminqweno.
Zonke ezi ziimpawu zingabonakalisa umsebenzi omkhulu wengqondo owenziwe ngabahlali be-BDSM abachaphazela kakuhle impilo yabo yengqondo. Lo msebenzi kunye nezinga labo eliphezulu lokuziwayo landisa ubudlelwane bobuqu ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwekamelo lokubangela ukuba uvuyo lukhulu.
3 - Ingcinezelo encinane
Uphando lubonise abathathi-nxaxheba be-BDSM ukungena kwiqondo elichitshiweyo lolwazi olufanayo kunye neengcali ze-yoga zezobugcisa okanye i-runnerner "ephezulu." Kuyaziwa ukuba le mi sebenzi inokuzuza inempilo ngokuncedisa amanqanaba ethu e-hormone cortisol. Oku kusikhusela kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zempilo eziquka uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu, ukhuseleko olukhuselekileyo kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwe-insulin. Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwi-BDSM inokuba nempembelelo efanayo.
Uchungechunge lwezifundo ezisuka kwiYunivesithi yaseMntla Illinois lubonise ubungqina bolu bume be-consciousness edibeneyo ne-BDSM. Kwisampuli enye yamatampu athatyathwa kwiintlawulo kunye nezikhundla ngexesha leemidlalo ezibuhlungu. Amaqabane aphezulu abonisa izinga lokunciphisa i-cortisol emva kweseshoni ephelelwe.
Umsebenzi weCognitive emva kwiseshoni zeBDSM ezibuhlungu kwakujoliswe kwisifundo sesibini. Abalingani abafumana intlungu babonisa imisebenzi enciphise kwimimandla kunye neendawo ezikhethiweyo zobuchopho. Ezi ndawo zidibaniswa nokukhumbula imemori kunye nokulawula okulawulayo. Abaphengululi baphetha ukuba ukuhamba kwegazi kule mimandla kuncitshisiwe, kubangela ukuba isimo sengqondo sitshintshile. Abaninzi kummandla we-BDSM babiza le meko yokuba "yi-subspace" yamaqabane athobelayo kunye ne "topspace" okanye "ukugeleza" kubangelwayo. Akunakuvuyo kuphela kubabathathi-nxaxheba kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kuthathwa njengamava okomoya.
4 - Ulwalamano oluphuculweyo
Kwisifundo seYunivesithi yaseMntla Illinois, malunga nokutshintsha kwama-hormone kunye nokubambisana ngokubambisana kwi-BDSM, abaphandi banqume ukuba ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiziqwenga ze-sadomasochistic eziphumelelayo kwandisa ukuvakalelwa kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nabalingani.
Siyazi nokuba ukwenza izinto ezinobomi kunye namaqabane abathandanayo, kunokuba kwenziwe imisebenzi efanayo, kwandisa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Iingqungquthela zeBrain ezingama-53 ezizibini ezitshatileyo ezibonisa ukuba ukwabelana ngemisebenzi yamanqaku kubangela inkqubo yokuvuza kwengqondo kwaye ikhukula nge-dopamine kunye nezinye iikhemikhali ezinokuva. Oku kufana noko kwenzekayo kwingqondo ngexesha lokuqala lobudlelwane. Le yile makhemikhali afanayo athatha ukumncinci ebusweni bethu kunye neendlumbane kwiimvumbo zethu xa sifumana uthando olutsha.
Nangona le ngcaciso ayizange ibandakanye ngokuthe ngqo imigaqo yeBDSM phakathi kwemisebenzi yayo yokuvavanya kunye neyokuzonwabisa, ngokuqinisekileyo iyafaneleka. Kanye njengoko unako ukuguqula i-chemistry yakho engcono ngokutyelela ipaki yokuzonwabisa, uthatha iklasi yobumba, okanye udlala umdlalo omtsha othabisayo kunye nomthandi, unokubongoza kwakhona ukutshintsha kweekhemikhali kunye ne-BDSM. Ukudlala okanye ukongeza ezinye izinto ezinokuzithengisa, ukuvuselela iveli kumsebenzi wakho wokulala kungabangela ukuvakalelwa kwintsebenziswano kunye nolonwabo olubanzi phakathi kobudlelwane. Uphando luye lwabonisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo imibhangqwana esatshatileyo ibe nempilo engcono yomzimba nangokwengqondo kunokuba abahlobo babo abonwabileyo.
U-Sunny Megatron ngumninimzi kunye nomvelisi olawulayo wezoSondo kunye no-Sunny Megatron kwi-Showtime. Kananjalo ungumdlali we-BDSM wokuphila, ulwabelana ngesondo kunye nomqeqeshi wekink, kunye nomlobi / ulwalamano lobudlelwane.