Ukujamelana Neengxaki
Ukubuyiswa kwezibonelelo kukunika abantu amandla angokwengqondo ukuze bajamelane noxinzelelo kunye nobunzima. Yimithombo yengqondo yamandla abantu abakwazi ukuyibiza ngexesha leemfuno zokuba baphathe ngaphandle kokuwahlukana. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba abantu abanokuzimela banokukwazi ukujongana nosizi olunjalo nokuvuselela ubomi babo emva kwentlekele.
Ukujongana nokutshintsha okanye ukulahleka kuyinto engenakukuphepha yokuphila. Ngexesha elithile, wonke umntu ufumana amazinga ahlukeneyo okungaziphendulela. Eminye yale mingeni ingaba yincinci (ukungena kwiklasi ofuna ukuyithatha), ngelixa ezinye ziyingozi kwizinga elikhulu (iziphepho, iindubhu, ukuhlaselwa kwamaphekula). Indlela esijongene ngayo nale ngxaki inokudlala indima ebalulekileyo kungekhona nje kuphela kwisiphumo kodwa nemiphumo yengqondo yesikhathi eside.
Yintoni Ukubuyisela?
Ngaba wakha wazibuza ukuba kutheni abanye abantu behlala bezolile xa bejamelene neentlekele kanti abanye babonakala bengabikho? Abantu abanokuzigcina bepholile banaloo nto i-psychologists ekubiza ngayo ukuzinza, okanye ukukwazi ukujamelana neengxaki kunye nezithintelo.
Abantu abancedisayo bayakwazi ukusebenzisa izakhono zabo kunye namandla abo ukuhlangabezana nokubuyiswa kwiingxaki kunye nemingeni. Ezi ngxaki zingabandakanya ukulahleka kwemisebenzi, iingxaki zemali, ukugula, iintlekele zemvelo, ukukhawuleza kwezokwelapha, umtshato okanye ukufa komntu othandekayo.
Esikhundleni sokuwela ekuphelelwe ithemba okanye ukufihla kwiingxaki ezicwangcisiweyo zokuqhelana nokuziphatha, abantu abanomdla bajamelana nobunzima bokuphila. Oku akuthethi ukuba bafumana ubunzima obungaphantsi, intlungu, okanye uxhalabo kunabanye abantu. Kuthetha ukuba bahlangabezana nobunzima obunjalo ngeendlela ezikhuthaza amandla nokukhula.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, zinokugqithisa ngakumbi kunokuba zazikho ngaphambili.
Abo bangenako ukuzinza kunokuthi banokugandatheka ngamava anjalo. Baya kuhlala kwiingxaki baze basebenzise iindlela ezingekho kakuhle zokujongana nemingeni yobomi. Ukuphazamiseka okanye ukungaphumeleli kunokubangela ukuba bangabhubhili, bacekise, okanye baziphathe ngendlela eyingozi. Aba bantu bahamba ngokukhawuleza ukubuyela kwimimiselo kwaye banokufumana uxinzelelo lweengqondo ngenxa yoko.
Ukuxhaswa akuthinteli uxinzelelo okanye kuphelise ubunzima bobomi. Abantu abanalo lo meko abanakuboni ubomi ngokusebenzisa iilensi ezinemibala. Baqonda ukuba izinto ezithintekayo zenzekile kwaye ngezinye iixesha ubomi bunzima kwaye bubuhlungu. Basoloko beva intlungu, intlungu, kunye nokulahleka okuza emva kwentlekele, kodwa isimo sengqondo sabo sibavumela ukuba basebenze ngeemvakalelo ezinjalo baze babuyisele.
Endaweni yoko, ukunyamezela kunika abantu amandla okujongana neengxaki zeentloko, ukunqoba ubunzima, kunye nokuqhubeka nokuphila kwabo. Ekuhambeni kweembambano ezifana nokuhlaselwa kwe-9/11 kunye neNkathazo yeTyntan Katrina, abaninzi abantu babonisa iimpawu ezibonisa ukuzinza. Abazange bakwazi kuphela ukuhlala beqinileyo ebusweni belahleko engapheliyo, babekwazi ukuqhubeka baze banike inkxaso ngenkxaso kwabanye abantu abachaphazelekayo ezi ntlekele.
Nangona ebusweni beemeko ezibonakala zingenakucingeka, abantu banokubangela amandla okungahlali nje, kodwa ukuphumelela.
Izinto eziba negalelo ekuvuseleleni
Abanye abantu bavela ngala mathuba ngokwemvelo, kunye neempawu zobuntu ezibanceda zihlale zingenakwenzeka xa zijongene nomngeni. Nangona kunjalo, ezi ziphatha azikho nje iimpawu ezingenayo izityalo ezitholakala kubantu abambalwa abakhethiweyo. Ngokweengcali ezininzi, ukunyamezela kuyaqhelekile, kwaye abantu banakho ukwazi ukufunda izakhono ezithathayo ukuze zenzeke.
Inkxaso yentlalo yinto enye ebonakalayo ebangela ukuba kuqiniseke.
Abantu abanezakhono ezinomdla bavame ukuba nenkxaso yentsapho kunye nabahlobo abancedisayo ekukhuthazeni ngexesha leengxaki.
Ezinye izinto ezinxulumene nokuqina ziquka:
- Ukubamba izimvo ezintle ngokwazo kunye namakhono abo
- Umthamo wokwenza izicwangciso ezifanelekileyo kwaye unamathele kubo
- Ukuba neendawo zangaphakathi zokulawula
- Ukuthetha kakuhle
- Ukuzijonga njengabaqaphi kunokuba baxhoba
- Ukuba nolwazi oluphezulu lweengqondo nokulawula iimvakalelo ngokufanelekileyo
Hlola amanqaku angezantsi ukuze ufunde kabanzi malunga nokuzinza, vavanya izakhono zakho kwaye ufunde indlela onokufunda ngayo iimpawu oza kuzifuna ukuze usinde kwinzima.
Funda kabanzi malunga nokuqina:
- Iimpawu zoKhuseleko
- Indlela yokuphucula ukubuyisela kwakho
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