Ukuba kuphela unokuzilawula. Ukuba unamandla amaninzi, ekugqibeleni uyakulahlekelwa loo ma-pounds angama-10. Ukuba unako ukuzithiba ngakumbi, ungagqiba ukuyeka ukwenza izinto , ugcine umhlala phantsi, unamathele kwisenzo somsebenzi, kwaye ugweme izinto ezintle ezifana notywala kunye noogwayi.
Le nto ihamba ekhwela ngamandla nje.
Ukunika amandla njengendlela ebalulekileyo yokuphumelela?
Njengoko i-American Psychological Association ithi, amaMelika athambekele ekufakeni isitokisi esininzi ngamandla. Ngokweengxaki zabo zonyaka kwi-American Survey, abantu babone ukungabi namandla okuba nenani elilodwa elibambelela ekuphumeleleni iinjongo zabo. Utshintsho lunokuba lukhuni kwaye inxalenye enkulu yabantu bakholelwa ukuba enye yezona thintelo ezinkulu ezithintela ukuba zitshintshe yile ngcinga enamandla.
Nangona kunjalo, ezinye zeengcamango ezidumileyo zenguqu yokuziphatha zibonisa ukuba amandla okuba yedwa ayaneleyo ukuba enze utshintsho lwangempela nolusigxina. Ngokomzekelo weStats of Change , kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele okokuqala ukuba kukho imfuneko yokutshintsha, ukuchonga izithintelo ezinokuthi utshintshe, ufike ngesicwangciso senzo, ubeke iliso kwinkqubela phambili, ugcine uphinde ulawule utshintsho, kwaye uhlangabezane naluphi kwenzeka kwakhona. Ukunika amandla kuthatha indima, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa akuyona kuphela into echaphazela impumelelo.
Ngelixa abaninzi bethu bekulwela amandla kunye nokuzithiba, abaninzi abantu babonakala bakholelwa ukuba le yikhono elinokufundwa nokuqiniswa. Ngethamsanqa, abaphandi baye bafikelela kwizigqibo ezifanayo kwaye bacebisa ukuba kukho izinto ezininzi ongayenza ukuphucula ukuzithiba kwakho.
Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde okungakumbi malunga noko kukunika amandla, kutheni kubaluleke kangaka, kwaye unokwenza ntoni ukuphuhlisa lo mbono.
Yintoni enokuyenza?
Ngoko yintoni na ngokusemandleni? Enye yeenkcazelo eziphambili kukuba kukubandakanya ukucima oko ufunayo okwangoku ukuze ufezekise injongo yesikhathi eside.
Ukuxhotyiswa kudla ngokubhekiselele kwisigqibo okanye ukuzithiba kwaye kunokubandakanya inani leempawu ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha.
- Ukunika amandla kubandakanya ukucima oko ufunayo kwithuba elifutshane ukufumana oko ufuna ngexesha elide.
- Kudinga umgudu wokuzimela kwaye kaninzi kutyalo-mali oluthile lwemithombo yeemvakalelo nezengqondo.
- Kubandakanyeka ukuchasa izibongozo, ukulwa nezilingo, nokusebenzisa izicwangciso ezahlukeneyo zokugcina ulawulo.
Iingcali ezininzi ziyavuma ukuba amandla okuba ngumthombo ongenamandla. Kwesinye uvavanyo oludumileyo, abathathi-nxaxheba babekwe kwigumbi kunye nesitya se cookies esitsha kunye nesitya se-radishes. Ezinye zezifundo zaxelelwa ukuba zingadla ii-cookies ngelixa abanye baxelelwa ukuba badle i-radishes. Emva kwexesha elingu-30 lexeshana, izifundo zacelwa ukuba zixazulule i-puzzle elula. Abo babesidla i cookies baqhubeka besebenza kwi-puzzle malunga nemizuzu eyi-20.
Baye bahlala ixesha elide kangakanani na abo babedlile ama-radishes? Imilinganiselo yesibhozo. Ekubeni izifundo ziphelile amandla abo okugcina amandla ngokukhusela i-cookies-sweet smelling, abazange banakho ukuzithiba okushiyekileyo xa besombulula i-puzzle.
Ngoku siyazi ukuba kuyintoni amandla, kodwa kutheni kubaluleke kakhulu? Phinda ulandele ukuba kutheni amandla anokuba yinto eyenza okanye iphule imizamo yakho yokufikelela kwiinjongo zakho.
Kutheni Kubalulekile Ukuba Unamandla?
Ngoko iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba amandla anokukunceda ukuba ufezekise iinjongo zakho, kodwa qaphela ukuba yinto enye yecalazi. Kutheni kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kubaluleke kangaka ukuba nelo hlobo lokuzilawula?
Kwisifundo seklasini, isazi sezengqondo seStanford uWalter Mischel wacela abantwana ukuba balinde ukutya (ngokuqhelekileyo i-cookie okanye i-marshmallow) ukwenzela ukufumana ukuphatha ezimbini endaweni enye. Ngoxa abanye abantwana baseMischel bazama ukunyanga ngokukhawuleza (ukukhetha ukwaneliseka kwexesha elifutshane ngomvuzo wexesha elide), abanye abantwana babenako ukusebenzisa amandla abo kwaye balinda umvuzo wesibili. Kuphando olulandelayo, i-Mischel yafumanisa ukuba abo bantwana abaye bakwazi ukulibazisa ukuzithobela babe namabanga angcono, amanqaku okuvavanya okungcono emfundo, kunye nokufikelela kwimfundo ephezulu.
Uphando olulandelayo ngu-Angela Duckworth noMartin Seligman bafumanisa ukuba ukuzithiba kwadlala indima enkulu kwimpumelelo yezemfundo kune- IQ . Ngophando lwabo, baqaphela ukuba abafundi ababenokuzithiba okukhulu bebekho ukuhamba esikolweni, amazinga angcono, kunye namaqondo angcono okuvavanya.
Abanye abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba abantu abaneendlela eziphezulu zokuziphatha banalo ubuchule obunxibelelwano obuhle, abanako ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala kunye nezinye izinto, bafumana ubunzima beengxaki zempilo yengqondo, kwaye banempilo engcono yomzimba.
Ukwazi ukucaca kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphumelela? Kodwa ngaba unokwandisa ngokwenene ubungakanani obunakho? Ngaba unako ukomelela? Phinda ulandele izinto ezilula zeengqondo zincoma ukuba ukhulise amandla akho.
Ngoko Yintoni Ongayenza Ukuze Uphuculise Ilungelo Lakho?
Ngokusekelwe kwizifundo ezininzi kwi-psychology emva kwamandla, abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba ezinye zezicwangciso zilandelayo ziza kusebenza ngempumelelo:
Yisebenzise, Musa ukuyisebenzisa kakubi
Kwisifundo esithile ngabaphandi uMraven, Collins, kunye noNienhaus (2002), abantu abaye banciphisa amandla abo kumsebenzi omnye basebenzisa utywala obuninzi kwiimeko ezazifuna ukuzithintela. Abathathi-nxaxheba baceliwe ukuba bangacingi ngebhebhe elimhlophe, umsebenzi obunzima nobunzima obunxulunyanisayo. Emva koko, izifundo zavunyelwa ukuba zitshintshe ibhiya ukuze zivivinywe kodwa zicelwa ukuba zilawule ukutya kwazo kuba ziza kugqiba uvavanyo lokuqhuba ngokukhawuleza emva koko. Abo babesigqibile umsebenzi wokuqala wokunciphisa ingcamango batywala kakhulu utywala ngakumbi kunabo babengenalo.
Ngoko le nto ibandakanya ntoni nokuqinisa amandla akho? Cinga ngamandla okuba ngumthombo. Ukuba ukhenkceza i-reservoir ukuyisebenzisa kwizinto ezingabalulekanga, kukho amathuba amaninzi okuza kubomela xa uyifunayo ngokwenene into ebalulekileyo. Sebenzisa amandla akho, kodwa sebenzisa izixhobo zakho ezikhoyo ngokucokisekileyo nangengqiqo.
Sebenzisa Ukuphazamiseka
Kuvavanyo lwe-marshmallow lwe-Mischel, abantwana abaye bakwazi ukumelana nokutya i-marshmallow kanye kanye basebenzise inamba yezicwangciso ezahlukeneyo zokuqinisa amandla abo. Ukuphazamiseka kwaba yenye yeyona ndlela iphumelele. Abanye abantwana bavala amehlo xa abanye bejika baze bajonga kwenye indawo. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana ababenako ukujonga amehlo abo, bekunokwenzeka ukuba baninzi.
Xa ujongene nesilingo, nokuba unomnqweno wokutya, ukusela, ukuchitha okanye ukuziphatha kwezinye izinto ezingafunekiyo, zama ukukhangela uhlobo oluthile lokuphazamiseka. Gcina ingqondo yakho into ekulinga ngalo mzuzu ukwenzela ukuba uhlale endleleni eya kwiinjongo zakho zexesha elide.
Sebenza NjengeMiscle
Olunye uvavanyo luye lwabonisa ukuba amandla anokukwazi ukuxhatshazwa ngokunciphisa ngokuyiqinisa. Abanye bacebisa ukuba kufuneka ucinge ngamandla okuba sisisipha - into engakhiwa kunye nokuqiniswa ngexesha kunye nomzamo.
Kwisifundo esinye, abathathi-nxaxheba bacelwa ukuba basebenzise rhoqo kwiinyanga ezimbini ezimbini. Emva koko, abo babambelele kwi-regimen yokusebenza babenamanqaku aphezulu kumanyathelo okuzithiba. Akunjalo kuphela, kodwa nabo babonisa ukuzinzisa okukhulu kwezinye iindawo ezifana nokutya okunempilo, ukuchitha imali ngononophelo olukhulu, nokubhema okungaphantsi. Ukusebenzisa amandla okubambelela kwishedyuli yokusebenza kwandula kwandisa amandla abo kwezinye iindawo kunye nazo.
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