Iifilimi malunga nokwenza uhambo lwangaphakathi ngokusebenzisa uhambo oluthile, njengokuthi "Yidla, Thandaza, Uthando," ukuxubusha nabantu abaninzi abafuna ukunyamezela nokulawula uxinzelelo. Xa ndibukele i-movie, akunakukunceda kodwa uqaphele ukuba le movie yintoni ekufumaneni ukuzaliseka komntu kuhambelana nendlela efanelekileyo yengqondo yokucindezeleka. I-Psychology enempilo yisebe elitsha elithile lezengqondo ezithatha ikhefu ekugxilweni kwimizimba yezilwanyana kunye nezifundo ezenza ubomi bube nefuthe, oko kuzisa uvuyo kunye nokokukhuthaza impilo yengqondo.
Uphando kunye nokucinga ngeengqondo ezintle zibambe ukuba kukho iindlela ezintathu esizithathayo ukuze sizive kakuhle kwaye senze ulonwabo ebomini bethu: ukuzonwabisa, ukunyaniseka , kunye nemisebenzi enenjongo. Yaye, ewe, ihambelana kakuhle ngokutya, ukuthandaza nothando.
Iimnandi, ngokweendlela eziphathekayo zengqondo, zizinto ezonwabisayo iingqondo, zisenza sizive ngcono nakwixeshana, kwaye singenzi nantoni ukuzonwabisa. Isenzo sokutya ukutya okumnandi kukuzonwabisa - kulungile, kwaye nabani na onokuyonwabela. (Umgca wezinto ezinonwabo kukuba ukuphumelela kwabo kunciphisa ixesha.)
Igratifications yimisebenzi esisebenzisa amandla ethu, inselele ngendlela efanelekileyo, kwaye ikhokelela ekuphumeni kokuhamba. Igratisati ayinakho ukulungelelana okufanayo njengenjabulo - bathatha inzame - kodwa impembelelo yabo ikhula kunye nokusetyenziswa, kunokuba iyancipha. Ubuninzi bezinto ezidala ubudlelwane obunothando obungabonakaliyo bubekwe kwicandelo lokuthoba: ukuphulaphula kakuhle, ukwenza izenzo zenceba, nokwenza ezinye izinto kubathandekayo bethu.
Oko akutsho ukuba uthando luyinto eyodwa yokuthokoza okukhulu kwaye zonke ii-gratification zisekelwe eluthandweni, kodwa kukho ukulungiswa apho, ngokuqinisekileyo.
Inkqubo yesithathu eyona nto eyona nto ebangela ulonwabo efundwa ngumoya ochanekileyo ngumsebenzi onentsingiselo. Ngokuzibophezela kwimisebenzi ekhuthaza intsingiselo ebomini bethu, sinokuphumeza iimvakalelo ezikhulu kunene, ngokuzimeleyo nangomntu.
Oku kuya kusebenza kwizinto zokomoya, umthandazo, kunye neminye imisebenzi egxininise ngokomoya, kunye neminye imisebenzi esiyenzayo ukufaka intsingiselo ebomini bethu. Mhlawumbi yintoni eyenza uphando malunga noThixo lubonisa ukuba abo ubomi babo bunezinto zokomoya bavame ukuba nemiphumo emihle yempilo, baneliseke ngakumbi kwaye banomdla wokunyamezela.
Into ebalulekileyo malunga nazo zontathu zezi ndlela kukuba zonke zikhokelela ekuphakameni kwimoya , okanye "impembelelo emihle," kwaye oku kunokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngokugqithiseleyo uxinzelelo ebomini bakho. Oku kusebenza ngokwenza ukwazi ngakumbi ukujonga amathuba ebomini bakho nokwakha izibonelelo zakho, ezikunceda ukuba uphathe kakuhle ingcinezelo.
Ngako-ke abantu banokuthanda njani mna kunye nam - abantu abangenawo ixesha lokuthatha isabatha se-year-long, sondle kancane, Thandaza Uthando ebomini bethu? Ngezantsi ezinye iingcamango:
Cinga
Kwi-movie, umlingisi oyintloko uqala umkhuba wokucamngca rhoqo ekuseni. Le yindlela elula yokunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye inokuzisa iimpilo kunye nenjongo ebomini. Iingcali eziqhelekileyo zifumana ukuzimisela okukhulu ekuxinezelekeni ngexesha. Ukuba awunaso ixesha lokuya eIndiya kwangoku, unokuqala ukucamngca ekhaya lakho, okanye ufumane iqela lokucamngca kwindawo yakho.
Yidla kakuhle
Awukwazi ukufumana uhambo oluhlwaya kwiItaly, kodwa unokuzama ukutya okutsha kanye ngeveki kwiivenkile zokutya, uzame ukupheka okunempilo okanye gourmet, okanye uthathe iklasi yokupheka ukuze ulungise ukutya okulungileyo. Ngenxa yokuba oko unokutya kunokuchaphazela amanqanaba akho okuxininisa kwaye wenze ukuba uzive kakuhle ngeli xesha, ukutya ukutya okunokwenene (kunye nesondlo) kwidolophu yakubo kungabonwa ngamava kakhulu kwaye kunokuthintela uxinzelelo.
Yenza abahlobo abatsha
Into endiyibonayo ngefilimu Yidla, Thandaza, Uthando yile nto ininzi yokuzaliseka kunye nenjongo yokufunyanwa ngumlingiswa ayizange idalwe yimisebenzi ngokwawo ngokubambisana kwakhe nabantu abatsha nabangqambileyo abadibana nayo endleleni.
Wafunda kubo, wakhula ekusebenzisaneni kwakhe kunye nabo, kwaye wafumana intsingiselo evela kwiingcamango ezintsha kunye namava ayenayo. Ngethamsanqa, unokufumana olu hlobo lwamava kwindlu yakho yangasese, naye. Thatha iklasi, ujoyine iqela, uzazi abahlobo bakho, okanye qalisa ukuthetha nabantu abakujikelezayo. (Okanye baphulaphule ngakumbi!) Ukuvulela abantu abatsha kunye namava amatsha kunokuvelisa ukukhula kunye nokuzaliseka komntu, kunye nokubonelela ngezixhobo ezinxamnye noxinzelelo.
Gxi ninisa ngo komoya
Ukuba unenkcubeko yokomoya ukuba uyenyundela, okanye ukuba uzibuza ukuba ufanele ulandele ngokomoya ebomini bakho, qalisa ukubeka imilinganiselo yokomoya kwindawo yakho. Yiya kwiinkonzo, funda iincwadi ukuze uzinzulu ngokomoya, okanye uqale uthandaza ngaphambi kokulala, ukuba awukho.
Zama into entsha
Umxholo oqhelekileyo wokutya, Thandaza, Uthando luyinkinga yokumelana nomngeni wendawo yokuthuthuzela nokufumana into entsha. Ngaphandle kokuba uphantsi kwengcinezelo enkulu, imingeni emitsha inokukunceda uzive ubalulekile kwaye uphila. Thatha umdlalo omtsha , qalisa umkhwa omtsha, uzivelele kwizinto ezintsha. Oku kungaba yindlela ephezulu yokuxininisa ukukhulula nokuzaliseka kwakho.
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