Xa sithetha ngolonwabo kubomi banamhlanje, sisoloko sibhekisela kwintlungu esiyifumana emva kokuqhayisa kokuqala kwe-ice cream cone okanye xa sichitha imva kunye nabahlobo abalungileyo. Le ndlela yokucinga ngolonwabo njengoko u lonwabo lubonisa ukuba yinto esezantsi, iimeko zengqondo, ezithintekayo kwimeko esilifumanayo.
Nangona uvakalelo luyinxalenye yolonwabo , izikolo ezininzi zakudala zengcamango zichaza ulonwabo ngokubanzi. Ngokukodwa, u-Aristotle wayekholelwa ukuba injongo ephezulu yobomi bomntu yayingumGrike wamandulo obizwa ngokuba yi- Eudaimonia , edlalwa ngokuthi "ulonwabo" kodwa ngokuthethileyo ithetha "ukukhula komntu" okanye "ubomi obuhle". Esikhundleni sokuvakalelwa okanye isimo sengqondo esitshintshileyo, i-eudaimonia ihlolwa kangcono ngokuzibuza, "Ndifuna ukukhunjulwa nini xa ubomi bam buphelile?" Umyalelo ka-Aristotle wokuphila ubomi obuhle kukusebenzisa ubuhle. Ukuba nomusa, ukuthobeka, isilumko kunye nokunyaniseka rhoqo kwizenzo zethu. Ukuba ngumntu olungileyo, ngamanye amazwi, yindlela yokufumana ubomi obonwabileyo.
Iingqondo zanamhlanje ziye zamkela ingcamango kaAristotle kunye nokuphuhliswa kodidi lweMpawu zeMpawu kunye neNtsumiselo. Kule minyaka elishumi edlulileyo, izazi zeengqondo uChristopher Peterson kunye noMartin Seligman bavavanya ixabiso leenkcubeko kwimbali yoluntu kwaye bafumanisa iingubo ezingama-24 zendalo kunye nobuchule bomntu.
Ezi zikhundla zobungqina zimela izinto ezininzi abantu abaza kubabiza ngazo njengobungqina obuhle, kuquka nethemba, ukubulela, ukulingana, nothando. Thenga Ubungqina Amandla kunye neNtsonkco: Incwadi kunye neNgcaciso kwi-Amazon.com.
Iqela eliphambili lophando ngoku lixhasa ukuba ukuphuhlisa nokusebenzisa amandla okuziphatha kubangela ukonwaba okwandisiweyo.
Sifaka njani ukuhlakanipha kwasekuqaleni kwe-Eudaimonia ukusisebenzela? Nazi izi-4 zezinto ezilungileyo uAristotle wakhuthaza abafundi bakhe ukuba bakhule ngokwabo.
Umonde
Kubonakala ngathi ukuvutha komsindo kwakuqhelekileyo kwiGrisi yamandulo. Umnqweno wokuzithokozisa ngokukhawuleza - ngokukodwa kwihlabathi lethu elikhawulezileyo, elixhaswa ngezobuchwepheshe-lingakwazi ukuguqulwa lula. Ukunyamezela kuthetha ukulawula umsindo wethu ngokubhekiselele kwimeko. Ukuba uzibamba uthabatha unyawo lwakho kwaye ukhangele umlindi wakho elinde kumgca kwibhankini, qalisa ukuhlola ukuba ngaba awuyi kulwa nomsindo wakho. Ukuba akunjalo, kungcono ukuba uyeke. Yaye ukuba ukungazelelwa kwakho kuhambelana ngqo nomnye umntu, sebenzela ukuhlakulela imfesane kwaye uzibeke ezicathulweni. Ukuba umntu uyakunqumla kwisitrato, qwalasela oko kwenzeka ntoni kubo kunye neenjongo zabo.
I sibindi
Ngokutsho kuka-Aristotle, umonde kakhulu, nangona kunjalo, unokukhokelela ekubeni ube yiphoversi. Ukuba nenkalipho, ingakumbi ekujonganeni nokungabi nabulungisa, kulungile. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba isibindi asikho ukungabikho koyiko, kodwa kunokuba ulungele ukwesaba nokuzithemba. Ngaba uhlala uqinisekile okanye ukwesaba kakhulu? Ukuba uncike rhoqo kwiloyiko, fumana amathuba okusebenza nangona uloyiko olunokuba yingxoxo enzima okanye ucelomngeni ukuba u-yewe xa umenyiwe ukuba wenze into eyoyikisayo.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unobungqina obuninzi, qwalasela oko ukwesaba uvakalelwa (mhlawumbi uvuma ukuba iprojekthi entsha uyenzayo ithetha kakhulu kuwe kwaye awukwazi ukuwuthwala ukubona uyaphumeleka) kwaye uwamkele umthombo wamandla njengoko uqhubeka phambili.
Ukunyamezela
Ukhumbule ukuba i-pie yesibili ye-pie oye wafikelela kuyo ebusuku? Ngaba uyifunayo ngokwenene loo nto? Ukunyamekela kukumalunga nokumodareyitha xa kuziwa ekuziphatheleni. Ngendlela zonke, sifanele sibe nesicande se-pie size siphume. Kodwa kakhulu kunoma yintoni into entle iya kuphazamisa ulonwabo, ngokukodwa njengetyala kunye nokuzithiba. Ukuzivocavoca ezifanelekileyo iindlela ezimbini.
Enye, xa ukhetha ukonwaba kunye nokunandipha into ethile, vumela ukuba ube khona ngokupheleleyo kwaye ujabulele. Zibini, zibeka imida efanelekileyo kwaye uzinamathele kubo. Yiba nesicwangciso phambi kwexesha kwaye uyazi ukuba uya kukhulisa ulonwabo ngakumbi ngokunamathela kumda wakho kunokuba uyiphule kwaye udibanise.
Uhlobo
Kwi-worldview ye-Aristotle, ubuhlobo buyingoma yezona zinto ziphezulu. Wayevuma ukuba ubuhlobo buhlala bukho ngenxa yezizathu ezibonakalayo, njengobungqina obuchaze kumntu osebenza naye. Kodwa olobuhlobo bokwenene luphathelele uxhulumano phakathi kwabantu ababini ababazisayo kunye nokukhuthazana ukuze bafikelele ekusebenzeni kwabo ngokupheleleyo. Ubuhlobo obunjalo abunqabile. Ezi azinamakhulu ezinxibelelwano onayo kwi-Facebook okanye kwi-LinkedIn. Lawa ngabantu obabiza phakathi kobusuku xa ufuna umntu ukuba abe khona. Ukutshala imali kunye nokukhuthaza olu lwalamano luyisiseko sokuxhasa lwethu ulonwabo. Ukuchonga ukuba ngubani aba bantu ebomini bakho kwaye ubavumele ukuba bazi kangakanani ukuba uyawaxabisa. Lezo ncoko ziyonwaba.