Ngaba unokucinga indlela yakho yokuphila okungenazo uxinzelelo? Kunokwenzeka ukunciphisa ubuninzi bokuxinezeleka ovakalelwa ngokuba neengcinga ezilungileyo malunga nezinto ezenzeka kwimpilo yakho yemihla ngemihla.
Uninzi lwethu luthi omnye umntu uthi "Cinga utsho!" okanye "Khangela kwicala elikhanyayo." xa into ethile ingahambi kakuhle. Njengoko unqwenela kwaye unzima njengoko kunjalo, kukho inyaniso kuyo.
Ukucinga okulungileyo kunokunciphisa izinga lokunyamezela, kukunceda uzive ungcono malunga nawe (kwaye imeko) kwaye uphucule inhlalakahle yakho kunye nemibono.
Ingxaki yodwa kukuba akusoloko kulula ukuba neemeko kwaye ezinye iimeko zenza kube nzima kunomnye. Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, ngomsebenzi omncinane ukuguqula iingcamango zakho ezimbi, unokuba nethemba.
Iinjongo zeengqondo kunye neepassimists
Uphando lubonisa iingeniso zethemba kunye nesimo esihle sengqondo. Iingcamango zizonwabela impilo engcono, ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, zivelisa ngakumbi, kwaye zineengxaki ezincinci, phakathi kwezinye izinto.
Oku kungenxa yokuba abathembekileyo bavame ukuthatha ingozi. Baphinde bagxeke iimeko zangaphandle xa behluleka, ukugcina 'ukuzama kwakhona' kwengqondo. Leyo yodwa yenza ukuba ithemba likwazi ukuphumelela kwixesha elizayo kwaye lincinci kakhulu ngenxa yokungaphumeleli ngokubanzi.
Ngangolunye uhlangothi, zithatha ukuzigxeka xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle kwaye ziba nzima ukuzama kwakhona ngamava amaninzi ebomini.
Baqala ukubheka iziganeko ezintle ebomini babo njengokuthi 'ukuhluma' okungenanto kubo kunye nokulindela okubi.
Ngale ndlela, ithemba kunye neentlanzi zidala iziprofeto ezizimeleyo.
Iimbono zakho zeZenzo ezibi
Xa uqonda indlela zombini iimbono zijonga ngayo iimeko, kuyacaca ukuba ukuzithemba nokuzithemba okulungileyo kunokuthintela njani amanqanaba akho oxinzelelo, njengokuba kunokungazinzi nokuzithemba .
- Iziganeko ezimbi ziyancipha xa uzibona 'kungekhona iphoso lakho' kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba uphinde uqhubeke.
- Ngokufanayo, iziganeko ezintle ziyamnandi xa uzibona njengobungqina bokuba uza kuza kwaye uzibonele njengenkosi yakho.
- Ukongezelela, ngenxa yokungafani nokuziphatha, abo baqhele ukucinga bacinga ukuba baphumelele kwimpumelelo, enokubangela ubomi obungaphantsi koxinzelelo.
Indlela Yokufunda Ukuba Nengqiqo
Ungayisebenzisa njani le ngcaciso ukuze unciphise izinga lokucindezeleka? Ngethamsanqa, ithemba lingafundwa.
Ngokuziqhelanisa, unokutshintsha ukuzithetha kwakho (intetho yakho yangaphakathi, oko utsho kuwe malunga noko uhlangabezana nayo) kunye nesitayela sakho esichazayo (iindlela ezithile ezithembekileyo kunye neengxaki zentliziyo zenza amava abo). Nantsi indlela:
- Thatha i-Optimism Self Test. Funda ukuba unethemba okanye unesigxina okanye unjani. Isizathu sokuba oku kubalulekile kukuba abaninzi abanengxaki yeengxaki bathi bacingela; nangona kunjalo, ithemba lichazwa yimiqathango ethile. Ukuba uyazi apho ulala khona ngokuthemba-ukungathembeki, uya kuba nombono ongcono wezinto ezingadinga ukutshintsha.
- Zama Ukuba Nesimo esihle. Emva kokuba uqonda indlela yakho yangoku yokubona izinto, unokwenza umgudu wokujonga izinto ngokwahlukileyo njengoko unikwe iimeko. Ngoku ixesha eligqibeleleyo lokusebenzisa iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuzikhuluma ngokuzikhethela kwaye ufunde indlela yokuba nethemba .
- Sebenzisa iziqinisekiso ezintle. Unokuzihlaziya ngokwakho kunye nendlela yakho yokucinga ngokusebenzisa iziqinisekiso ezichanekileyo rhoqo. Oku kuya kunceda ukucinga okulungileyo ukuba kube ngokuzenzekelayo. Ngexesha elide, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngento engaphantsi kwimeko nganye entsha.
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