Kutheni Ukunciphisa Ngokwemvakalelo Kubalulekile Ukuba Unokuphuhlisa
Abo banezinga eliphezulu lokunyamezeka kwengqondo banako ukujongana neengcinezelo eziza ngobomi bemihla ngemihla ngokucokisekileyo nangokuzinzileyo. Ziyakwazi ukulawula iingxaki ngokulula. Ngethamsanqa, ukunyamezeka kwengqondo ngumgangatho onokuphuhliswa. Enyanisweni, kuyimpawu efanelekileyo ukuhlakulela izizathu ezininzi, kungekhona ubuncinci bokuba kunokuguqula ubomi bakho kunye namava akho oxinzelelo.
Kuyini Ukunciphisa Ngokomoya?
Ukunyamezeka ngokomzwelo kubhekisela kumandla omntu ukulungelelanisa kwiimeko okanye iingxaki ezixinzelelekileyo. Abantu abanokuzimela ngakumbi banokukwazi "ukugqithisa ngeempompo" kwaye bavumelane neengxaki ngaphandle kweengxaki ezihleliyo; Abantu abancinci bexesha elinzima banexesha elinzima kunye noxinzelelo kunye nobomi beenguqu, zombini ezinkulu kunye ezincinci. Kufunyenwe ukuba abo bajongana neengcinezelo ezincinci lula ngokubanzi banako ukulawula iingxaki ezinkulu ngokukhululeka, ngoko ke ukuzinza kunamathuba okuphila kwansuku zonke kwakunye neentlekele ezinqabileyo ezinkulu.
Yintoni Echaphazela Ukunciphisa Ngokomoya?
Ukunyamezeka ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama kuthi, kwinqanaba, into ozalelwe ngayo. Abanye abantu, ngokwemvelo, abavuthwa kakubi ngenguqu kunye nemimangalo-oku kungabonwa kwasebuntwaneni kwaye kubonakala kuzinzile ngexesha lobomi bomntu. Ukunyamezeka kwemizwelo kuhambelana nezinye izinto ezingekho phantsi kolawulo lwakho, ezifana nobudala, ubulili kunye nokuvezwa kwintlungu.
Nangona kunjalo, ukunyamezela kungaphuhliswa kunye nomgudu omncinci. Ukuba uyazi ukuba uyenze ntoni, unokukwazi ukuzimisela ngakumbi, nangona ukuba ngokwemvelo ukhathalela ubunzima bobunzima.
Ziziphi Iimpawu Zokunciphisa Ngokwemvakalelo?
Ukubuyisela akuyona impawu oyenzayo okanye ongenayo; kukho amaqondo ahlukeneyo okuba umntu unako ukujongana njani noxinzelelo.
Sekunjalo, kukho iziganeko ezithile abantu abahlala bexhomekeke kuzo. Ezinye zeziganeko eziphambili zi:
Ukuqwashisa ngokomzwelo: Abantu abanokuqonda ngokwengqondo bayaqonda ukuba baziva njani kwaye kutheni. Baphinde baqonde iimvakalelo zabanye kuba bhetele kuba bebanxibelelana kakhulu nangobomi babo bangaphakathi.
Ukunyamezela: Ingaba bazama ukufikelela kwiinjongo zangaphandle okanye kwizicwangciso zokubambisana kwangaphakathi , baxhomekeke kwizenzo-baxhomekeke kwinkqubo kwaye abayikuyeka.
I-Locus yokuLawula ngaphakathi: Bakholelwa ukuba, kunokuba bangaphandle kwemikhosi, balawula ubomi babo. Lo mxholo uhambelana noxinzelelo oluncinci kuba abantu abanendawo yokulawula yangaphakathi kunye nombono wezinto ezibonakalayo zehlabathi banokusebenza ngakumbi xa bejongana noxinzelelo kubomi babo, ukuxhomekeka kwezisombululo, kwaye bazive bekhululekile ukulawula, okuzisa uxinzelelo.
Injongo: Bakubona iimeko ezininzi kwiimeko kwaye bakholelwa ngamandla abo. Oku kunokutshintsha indlela abajongana ngayo neengxaki ezivela kwisifo sengqondo esisiswini, kunye nokukhetha okungakumbi.
Inkxaso: Nangona bahlala beqinileyo ngabanye, bayazi ukubaluleka kwenkxaso yentlalo kwaye banako ukuzungezela kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho abancedisayo.
Ukuzihlaziya: Abantu abanamandla ekukhuthazekeni kwengqondo banako ukuhleka ubunzima bobubomi . Le nto ingaba yintengiso enkulu, njengoko iguqulela imbono yomntu ekuboneni izinto njengengozi yokuzibona njengengxaki , kwaye oku kuguqula indlela umzimba uphendule ngayo ukuxinzelela. Bafumana uhleko oluhle kaninzi, kwaye oku kuzisa iinzuzo kunye.
I-Perspective: Abantu abancedayo bayakwazi ukufunda kwiimpazamo zabo (kunokuba bawushiye), jonga imiqobo njengemingeni, kwaye uvumela ubunzima ukuba bazinze. Banokufumana intsingiselo kwimingeni yobomi kunokuzibona njengamaxhoba.
Umoya: Ukudibanisa nendawo yakho yokomoya sele ixhomekeke ekuxhaseni komoya , ngakumbi ukuba unxibelelwano lwangaphakathi kwaye awuhambi nje ngeendlela zokuya kwiinkonzo. (Oku akuthethi ukuba abantu abangengokomoya abakwazi ukuzinza, nje ukuba olu xhumano lufunyenwe.)
Indlela Yokuba Ngomsebenzi Othobelekileyo
Njengoko kubonisiwe, ukunyamezeka kwengqondo kunokuphuhliswa. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba uxinzelelo kunye noshintsho luyingxenye yobomi, kukho amaxesha onke amathuba okuzama ukunyamezela-izinto ezibalulekileyo. Yonke into ithatha umdla kunye nokuzibophezela kwinkqubo kunye nolwazi oluncinane malunga nokuphuhlisa nokuqinisa iimpawu zokuqina .
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