Nento Ongayenza Ngazo
Ingqondo yakho yinto emangalisayo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayifezekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha ukulibala iinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo, ezifana nokuqokwa kwakho kwamazinyo okwedlule okanye intlanganiso kunye nomxhasi. Okanye kunokungabonakali izinto ezibalulekileyo kwindawo yakho, ekukhokelela ukuba wenze iimpazamo ezinokubangela ukuba ulimale, zibeke kwisichengeni sokugula, okanye ube yinto ecasulayo. Ukuba ukhe ukhohliwe ukuba uqaphele apho ubeke khona imoto yakho kwaye usichitha oko uvakalelwa kukuba ungijikeleza ngokukhawuleza ukukhangela, uyazi ukuba kuhamba njani.
Unokuba uthambekele ekubhaliweyo kwezi mpazamo njengeemposiso ezilula okanye ukugxeka kwizinto ezinjengexinzelelo okanye ukungabi nako kwexesha. Inyaniso, nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ubuchopho bukhupha ingxaki. Kwaye akunakwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqonda indlela enokwenzeka ngayo kunokukunceda ukuba ujongane nayo, ukuze ukwazi ukunyamekela wena kunye nosapho lwakho, hlalani ukhuselekile, kwaye uzive nje ukuba ubambelele ebomini bakho.
1 - Ingqondo Yakho ithatha ukuthatha iifutshane
Enye yezona mpazamo ezinkulu zeengqondo zakho kukuba ngamanye amaxesha zivele zilambele. Xa uzama ukusombulula ingxaki okanye wenze isigqibo, ingqondo yakho ihlala iphinda ibuyele kwimithetho yesithupha okanye izisombululo ezisebenze kakuhle kwixesha elidlulileyo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, le ndlela iyincedo kwaye isebenzayo. Ukusebenzisa amancinci kukuvumela ukuba wenze izigqibo ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kokuba usebenze ngokukhawuleza kwisisombululo ngasinye. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha iifutshane zengqondo, ezibizwa ngokuba yi- heuristics , ziyakwazi ukuhamba kunye nokukwenza wenze iimpazamo.
Ngokomzekelo, unokufumanisa ukwesaba ukuhamba ngeenqwelo-moya ngenxa yokuba unokucinga ngokukhawuleza ngeendlela ezininzi eziphazamisayo. Enyanisweni, ukuhamba ngumoya kukhululeke ngakumbi kunokuhamba ngeemoto, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ingqondo yakho isebenzisa indlela yokufutshane yezengqondo eyaziwa ngokuba yi- heuristic , ukhohlisiwe ekubeni ukholelwa ukuba indiza iyingozi ngaphezu koko. Ukwazi oku akuyi kukulondoloza ngokukhuselekileyo kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo kukugcine ungcini ngexesha lokuhamba.
2 - Ukucinga Kwakho Kuxhaswa yizinto ezifihlakeleyo
Ezi zihlandlo ezinokuthi zithintele indlela obona ngayo abantu (njenge- effect ye-halo ), njani uqonda iziganeko ( ukunyaniseka kwezinto ), kwaye yiziphi iinkalo zengxaki oya kuyiqwalasela xa usenza isigqibo (i- bias ).
Enye ingqinamba yokuqinisekisa , enokukukhokelela ukuba ugxininise ngakumbi okanye ufune izinto eziqinisekisa ukuba usukholelwa ngelixa unye ukungahoywa okanye uhlaziye nayiphi na into echasayo imibono yakho ekhoyo.
Ezi zinto ezinokuziqonda ziyakuthintela ukuba ucinge ngokucacileyo kwaye wenze izigqibo ezichanekileyo-malunga nemali yakho, impilo yakho kunye neendlela osebenzisana ngazo kwihlabathi.
3 - Ubunzima Bakho Ubuthandayo Ukudlala Umdlalo Wobungozi
Xa kwenzeka into embi, kuyinto engokwemvelo ukukhangela into emele ityala. Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, sichaphazela ukunyaniseka ukuzithemba. Ngamanye amagama, sinokuthi sihlaziye kodwa asifuni ukuthatha uxanduva kuloo nto.
Ngokomzekelo, emva komhla ophumla elwandle ufumanisa ukuba usuke usushushu. Unokugqiba isigqibo sokuba i-sunscreen oyisebenzisayo yayingenasiphelo, kunokuba ungene kwi-fact that you never got around to reapply it.
Kutheni sifaka kulo mdlalo we blame? Abaphengululi bakholelwa ukuba ezininzi zezinto zethu zokugxeka zisebenza njengendlela yokukhusela ukuzithemba kwethu kwaye zisilinde ukwesaba ukwehluleka. Ngokwale ndlela yokucinga, izinto ezimbi zenzeke kuwe ngenxa yezinto ezingaphandle kolawulo lwakho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi-kwaye akukho nto engalungile ngale nto nje ukuba yinyaniso) -impumelelo yakho yiphumo leempawu zakho, izakhono, imizamo kunye nezinye iimpawu zangaphakathi.
I-4 - Ubunzima Bakho Buya kuba Ngumfama Ukuze Utshintshe
Kukho okuninzi okwenzekayo kwihlabathi nangona naliphi na ixesha kunokuba nzima ukuba ingqondo ithathe yonke into. Ngenxa yoko, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuphosa ngokupheleleyo utshintsho olukhulu olwenzeka ngqo phambi kwamehlo ethu. Oku kubizwa ukuguquka . Kwiingcaphephe, xa amaqabane abathandana nabo atyathwa ngexesha lokuphazanyiswa okufutshane, uninzi lwabantu aluzange lubone utshintsho.
Abaphandi bacinga ukuba izinto ezimbalwa ziza kwenzeka xa lolu hlobo lwenzeka. Ukuba uxakeke kakhulu kwizinto enye, kufuneka ufune ukukhupha imali eninzi yolwazi olungenakukwazi ukujongana naloo nto.
Iinduliso nazo zinokudlala indima ebalulekileyo. Ngaba ubungalindela ukuba umntu aguqule ngokukhawuleza abe ngumntu xa uthetha nabo? Kakade-akunjalo-ke akumangalisi ukuba ungaphuthelwa utshintsho olukhulu kwindawo okanye kwindawo.
5 - Imemori Yakho ayikho Njenge-Sharp Njengoko Unokucinga
Imemori ayifani nekhamera yevidiyo, ngokugcina ngokuthe ngqo imicimbi njengokuba ivela. Kuninzi ephosakeleyo, engachanekanga, kwaye unokuthintela kunokuba ungakholelwa.
Ngokomzekelo, uphando lubonisa ukuba kulula ukumenza umntu abe nemibulelo yamanga yezenzakalo ezingazange zenzeke. Kwisifundo esithile, izazinzulu zifumene ukubukela ividiyo yabanye abantu benza into eyenza ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba bakholelwe ukuba bawenze lo msebenzi ngokwabo.
Sivame ukulibala ixabiso elininzi lolwazi, ukusuka kwiinkcukacha ezingenanto esisebenza kuyo yonke imihla kwiinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo esizifunayo. Isazi-memori uElizabeth Loftus sikhombisa ukuba kukho izizathu ezimbalwa ezibangelwa ukuhluleka kweememori. Ukungaphumeleli ukufumana ulwazi oluvela kwimemori, ukuxhatshazwa kweememori ezikhuphisanayo, ukungakwazi ukugcina ulwazi kwimemori, kwaye ukukhumbula ngokukodwa izinto ezibuhlungu zizinto ezimbalwa zezizathu ezibangela ukulibala.