Iimpawu zempiliso kunye nokuzithoba
Sonke siyazi ukuba ukuzithemba ngamanye amaxesha okubhekiswa njengento yokuzixabisa okanye ukuzihlonipha, kunokuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuphumelela. Ukuzithemba okuncinane kunokushiya abantu banomuvo onokutshatyalaliswa okanye ocinezelekileyo. Inokubangela ukuba abantu benze ukhetho olubi, bangene ebuhlotsheni obunobungozi, okanye bahluleke ukuphila ngokusemandleni abo. Ukuzithemba kakhulu, njengokuba kuboniswe kwintlungu yesifo , kunokunyaniseka-ukubeka abanye kwaye kungonakalise ulwalamano lwabo.
Amanqanaba okuzithemba kwiindawo eziphakamileyo kakhulu kwaye eziphantsi kweempawu zingaba yingozi, ngoko ke, kukulungele ukubetha umlinganiselo othile phakathi. Umbono onokwenene kodwa ovakalelwa ngokwakho ngokuqhelekileyo uthathwa njengento efanelekileyo. Kodwa yintoni kanye ukuzithemba? Livelaphi kwaye liyiphi impembelelo enayo ngokwenene ebomini bethu?
Yintoni Ukuzibhokoxa?
Kwengqondo , i-term self-esteem isetyenziselwa ukuchaza ukuqonda komntu wonke okanye ukuxabisa. Ngamanye amazwi, ungakanani uxabiso kwaye uthanda wena.
- Ukuzithemba kuthiwa kubonakala njengendlela yobuntu , oku kuthetha ukuba ithambekele ekuzinzile kwaye ikhuthaze.
- Ukuzithemba kunokubandakanya iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeenkolelo malunga nawe, ezifana nokuhlolwa kweembonakalo zakho, iinkolelo, iimvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha.
Kutheni Ukuzimelela Kubalulekile
Ukuzithemba kungadlala indima ebalulekileyo ekukhuthazeni nasekuphumeleleni kulo lonke ubomi bakho. Ukuzithoba kungancinci ekuphumeleleni esikolweni okanye ukusebenza ngenxa yokuba awukholelwa ukuba unokukwazi ukuphumelela.
Ngokwahlukileyo, ukuzithemba ngokusemgangathweni kunokukunceda ukuba uphumelele ngenxa yokuba uhamba ngokuphila ngendlela enesimo esifanelekileyo, kwaye ukholelwa ukuba unokufezekisa iinjongo zakho.
Iingcamango zokuzimela
Isidingo sokuzihlonipha senza indima ebalulekileyo kwisigqirha sengqondo sika-Abraham Maslow sika- besoins , esichaza ukuzithemba njengento yezizathu ezisisiseko zabantu.
UMaslow waphakamisa ukuba abantu badinga ukuhlonishwa kwabanye abantu kunye nokuzihlonipha kwangaphakathi. Zomibini zezi zidingo kufuneka zizaliseke ukuze umntu akhule njengomntu aze aphumeze ngokuzimela .
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuzithemba kuyingcamango ecacileyo ekuziphatheni , okubandakanya indlela okholelwa ngayo ukuba uya kuthatha iintshukumo ezizayo, ukusebenza okanye ubuchule.
Izinto Ezingasichaphazela Ukuzimela
Njengoko unokucinga, kukho izinto ezahlukahlukeneyo ezinokuchaphazela ukuzithemba. Imiba ye-Genetic ekunceda ukubeka ubuntu bubanzi inokudlala indima, kodwa ngamaxesha amaninzi amava ethu asenza isiseko sokuzithemba ngokubanzi. Abo bahlala befumana uvavanyo olubi kakhulu okanye olubi kumntu ononophelo, amalungu omndeni kunye nabahlobo, umzekelo, baya kuba neengxaki ngokuzithoba.
Ukongezelela, ukucinga kwakho kwangaphakathi, ubudala, naziphi na izifo, ukukhubazeka okanye ukukhubazeka ngokomzimba, kwaye umsebenzi wakho unokuchaphazela ukuzithemba kwakho.
Iimpawu zeZempilo ezizimeleyo
Ucinga ukuba ungubani ukuba ubonisa iimpawu ezilandelayo:
- U ku kholosa
- Amandla okuthi cha
- Umbono ontle
- Ikhono lokubona amandla kunye nobuthathaka kunye nokuwamkela
- Amava ambi awachaphazeli ukujonga jikelele
- Amandla okubonisa iimfuno zakho
Iimpawu zoBuzimeleyo
Kufuneka usebenze ngendlela ozijonga ngayo ukuba ubonisa nawuphi na wale miqondiso yokuzithemba ngokuzenzekelayo:
- Umbono ongekho
- Ukungabi nethemba
- Ukungakwazi ukubonisa iimfuno zakho
- Gxininisa ubuthathaka bakho
- Imiva yokuhlazeka, ukuxinezeleka, okanye uxhalaba
- Ukukholelwa ukuba abanye bangcono kunawe
- Ingxaki yamkela impendulo entle
- Ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli
> Imithombo:
> Maslow, AH. Isizathu kunye noBuntu. Wesithathu. ENew York: Harper & Row; 1987.
> Clinical Mayo. Ukuhlolisisa ukuzithemba: Kuphantsi okanye kulungile? Julayi 12, 2017.