Izizathu zokuqwalasela ukujoyina iqela leNkxaso
Xa abaninzi abantu bacinga ngamacandelo enkxaso, amaqela afana ne-AA ingaba yinto yokuqala efika engqondweni. Kodwa kukho namanye amaqela amaninzi akhoyo ukubanceda abantu abajongene neentlobo ezahlukeneyo-kuquka ukukhulisana nentsha.
Iqela elixhasa abazali linokunika uncedo kunye neengcebiso kwabanye abantu kwimeko efanayo. La maqela afumaneka kwiindawo ezininzi kuluntu kunye nakwi-intanethi.
Amacandelo amaNcedisa anceda njani
Ekuqaleni, kunokuba nzima ukuqonda iphuzu lokuthatha inxaxheba kwiqela leenkxaso. Ingumfana onenkinga, ngoko umzali unenzuzo njani ngokuthatha inxaxheba kweli hlobo leqela?
Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana wenza ingxaki enkulu engasayi kuba nefuthe elinamandla kumzali ngokunjalo. Awunelanga nje ukubekezela iingxaki zakho zokuziphatha zasekhaya ekhaya, kodwa unako ukujongana neenkqubo eziyinkimbinkimbi, njengenkqubo yemfundo, inkqubo yezomthetho kunye neenkqubo zempilo yengqondo.
Amaqela enkxaso yabazali ayenzelwe ukubonelela ngesimo apho abazali banokutshintshiselana ngolwazi, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokufumana iindlela zokujamelana nomntwana osemncinci. Kufana nokuqeqesha, ukuxhaswa, ukufundiswa nokunyamekelwa ngabanye abazali abayiqonda into ohamba ngayo.
Izizathu ezi-18 zokujoyina iQela leNkxaso yabazali
- Kukho izizathu zokuqwalasela ukujoyina iqela lokuxhaswa ngumzali kwindawo okanye kwi-intanethi. Nazi ezinye zezona zizathu ezibalulekileyo ongaqwalasela ukujoyina enye:
- Uya kufumana ukuthetha nabanye abazali abaqondayo iintlobo zeengxaki, ukuphazamiseka, kunye neendlela zokuhamba nazo.
- Unokufumana umxholo wethemba elivela kubazali abanentsholongwane.
- Unokufumana uncedo ekucingiseni iingcamango zendlela ongasabela ngayo kumntwana onzima.
- Ukuya kwiqela lenkxaso liya kuqinisekisa ukuba udweba ixesha lokulungisa iingcamango zakho malunga nentombazana yakho kwaye wenze izicwangciso zokuthatha isenzo esihle.
- Unokuva abanye abazali amava kunye neenkqubo zonyango kubantwana babo. Unokufumana ulwazi malunga neenkonzo ezifunyenwe zikunceda.
- Unokufumana ingcamango engcono kwiimeko zakho zobutsha.
- Unokufunda izixhobo zokuphucula izakhono zonxibelelwano kunye nabazali.
- Unokufumana ukuhanjiswa kwiprogram okanye iiprogram ezingaphandle kwendawo apho abanye abazali abazi.
- Unako ukufumana ingxelo malunga nokuba ngaba ungaphaya okanye ungaphenduli kwiingxaki zobutsha bakho kubazali abajongene neengxaki ezifanayo.
- Uza kufumana induduzo kwinto yokuba awuwedwa.
- Unokuphephe ukwenza amaphutha kunye nentombazana yakho ngokuphulaphula oko abanye abazali abaye bazame ukungawenzi.
- Unokukunceda abanye abazali ngokubelana ngeengcamango zakho, amava kunye neengcebiso.
- Iqela lingabelana ngolwazi malunga neencwadi, iiwebhsayithi kunye nezinye izixhobo ezinceda abazali.
- Unokufumana uncedo kwabanye ekujonganeni nesimo sengxaki yesantya.
- Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba unokufumana ithuba lokugcina umva wakho. Nangona izinto ezininzi ezikhathazayo intsha ziyingozi, kunokubakho izinto ezinobuqhetseba onokukwazi ukuhleka kanye ngexesha elithile.
- Vulela iimvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka ezivela ekujonganeni nomntwana onzima kunye nabazali abangayi kubagweba kwaye banakho ukunika iingcebiso.
- Ukuphikisana naluphi na ukwesaba ukuba intshaba yakho ixhalabisa ngokumalunga nabanye abazali abajongene nemingeni yokukhulisa umntwana okhuselekileyo.
Indlela Yokufumana Iqela Elixhasa Abazali
Amanye amaqela akhiwe ngakumbi kunabanye; ezinye zijolise ngakumbi kwimfundo yabazali kwaye ezinye zijolise ekunikeni nasekufumaneni inkxaso. Cinga iimfuno zakho ngaphambi kokufuna iqela.
Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa ongayifumana iqela:
- Khangela i-intanethi ngokuluhlu lwamacandelo kwindawo yakho.
- Khangela amaqela enkxaso ye-intanethi anokukunxibelelana nabazali abanokuthi bajongane nemiba efanayo, njengento yokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi.
- Cela iziphakamiso ezivela kubaqeqeshi abasebenza nabaselula.
- Qhagamshelana neziko lempilo yezokwelapha kunye nengqondo yengingqi yakho kwiintlobo zamacandelo enkxaso yoluntu.
- Khangela kumaqela enkxaso yomzali wonke njengeToughLove kunye Ngenxa yokuba Ndiyakuthanda (BILY).
- Buza udokotela wakho osemtsha ukuba ahanjiswe kwiqela elixhasa.
> Imithombo:
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