Abaninzi babona ukumemeza nje ngokungaphenduliyo kwizinto ezikuvuyisa okanye ukuhleka. Nangona oku kukhangelekile kuyinyaniso, oko abantu abaninzi abangayiboniyo kukuba ukumomotheka kunokubaninzi ukuphendula ngokuzithandela njengokhetho oluqinileyo nolunamandla. Izifundo ezininzi zenzululwazi ziye zaqinisekisa ukuba ukunyamama okwenyani kubonakala kuthandwa ngabanye abasondelene nathi. Olunye uphando luye lucacisa indlela isenzo sokumomotheka esinokuphakamisa ngayo imizwa yakho kunye nomoya wabantu abakujikelezile. Kunjalo. abanye baye bafumana unxibelelwano oluqinileyo phakathi kwempilo enhle, ukuhlala ixesha elide, kunye nokumemeza. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, izifundo zibonise ukuba nje isenzo sokumomotheka (ukwenza imizimba yesimo somzimba kunye nokunyakaza), nokuba ngumphumo wokonwaba ngokwenene okanye isenzo, sinokufumana inzuzo emfutshane kunye nexesha elide kwimpilo yabantu kunye nokuphila.
Usengakholelwa? Nazi izizathu eziphezulu ezi-10 omele uzenzele umgudu wokunyamezela imihla ngemihla.
1 - Ukumamatheka kusenza sibe mnandi
Ngokwemvelo sithandwa ngabantu abamamothekayo. Kukho ukhenketho lwangempela lomzimba oluxhomekeke kwisenzo sokumomotheka. Akumangalisi ukuba, ukugqithisa okanye ubuso obubi njengobunqabileyo, i-scowls kunye ne-grimaces zisebenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ngokuchukumisa abantu ngokukhawuleza. Endaweni yoko, sebenzisa amandla okukhangela okumomothekayo ukudweba abantu.
2 - Ukumamatheka kukhulula uxinzelelo
Ingcinezelo inokuphelela yonke into yethu, kwaye ingabonakalisa ngokucacileyo ebusweni bethu. Ukumamatheka akuncedi nje ukusikhusela ekukhangekeni sikhathele, siphuluke, kwaye sisiphazamiseke kodwa sinokunceda ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo . Yikholwa okanye akunjalo, ukumomotheka kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo nangona ungazive uthanda ukumomotheka okanye uyazi nokuba uyamomotheka! Xa ugxininisekile, thatha ixesha lokubeka. Wena kunye nabo bajikelezayo uza kuvuna izibonelelo.
3 - Ukumamatheka kuphakamisa iimoya zethu
Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva uhla, zama ukubeka ukumomotheka. Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba isimo sakho sitshintshe ukuba sibe ngcono. Ukumamatheka kungakhohlisa umzimba ukuba kukuncedise ukuphakamisa indlela ozijonga ngayo ngenxa yokuba isenzo somzimba sokumomotheka ngokwenene senza umyalezo we-neural ebuchosheni bakho. Ukumomotheka okulula kunokubangela ukukhululwa kwe-neural communication ekhuthaza i-neuropeptides kwakunye nokukhuthaza imivo ye- neurotransmitters njenge-dopamine kunye ne-serotonin. Cinga ngokumomotheka njengomntu ochasayo wendalo.
4 - Ukumamatheka kuyagxothwa
Bangaphi abantu abamomothekayo abachazwe njengokuba banamandla okukhanyisa igumbi? Nangona ngokuqinisekileyo kuyimvakalelo enhle, ithwala inyaniso. Ukumomotheka kungekhona kuphela amandla okuphakamisa indlela yakho yokuzonwabisa, kodwa kunokutshintsha kwakhona iimvakalelo zabanye kwaye wenze izinto zivuyiswe.
Inxalenye yengqondo yakho enoxanduva lokulawula ukubonakalisa ubuso obusongayo yindawo yokuphendula ngokuzenzekelayo. Kuthetha ukuba ukumomotheka kunokungaqondi kakuhle, ngakumbi xa kufike kumkhwa wethu wokulinganisa omnye umntu. Ewe, kutyunjwa ngokwesayensi ukuba ukumomotheka "kunokusasazeka!"
5 - Ukumamatheka kukukhuthaza indlela yakho yokuzikhusela
Ukumamatheka kungakwandisa impilo yakho yonke. Isenzo sokumomotheka ngokwenene sinceda isistim somzimba somzimba sisebenze ngokuphumelelayo. Kucingelwa ukuba xa uncumoza, umzimba wokhuseleko uya kuphucula ngenxa yokuba ukhululekile kakhulu (ngenxa yokukhululwa kwamanye ama-neurotransmitter). Ukongeza kokuthatha isilumkiso njengokuba uhlamba izandla, kutheni ungazami ukuthintela ubanda kunye nomkhuhlane ngokumomotheka?
6 - Ukumnciphisa Ukunciphisa Ukunyamezela Kwegazi
Xa uyamomotheka, kukho ukunciphisa okulinganiselwayo kwingcinezelo yegazi. Nika ityala xa unesilingo segazi esweni ekhaya. Hlala imizuzu embalwa, thabatha ukufunda. Emva koko uncumoze umzuzu kwaye uthathe enye yokufunda ngelixa uthakazelisa. Uyabona umehluko?
7 - Ukumamatheka kusenza sizive sihle
Izifundo zibonise ukuba ukumamatheka kukhulula i-endorphins, i-painkillers yemvelo kunye ne- serotonin . Ukuhlanganisana kwezi zintathu ze-neurotransmitters zisenza sizive kakuhle ukusuka entloko ukuya enzwaneni. Akukona nje kuphela ukuba iikhemikhali zendalo ziphakamisa umvakalelo wakho, kodwa zikhulula umzimba wakho kwaye zinciphise intlungu. Ukumamatheka kuyisiza esingokwemvelo.
8 - Ukumemeza kwenza ukuba ukhange ubutsha
Akunako kuphela ukumomotheka kukukwenza ukhange ngakumbi, kunokukunceda ukhangele ulutsha. Imisipha esiyisebenzisayo ukunycuma iphinda iphakamise ubuso, eyenza umntu avele eselula. Ngoko endaweni yokukhetha i-facelift, vele uzame ukumemeza indlela yakho ngemini - uya kujonga omncinci kwaye uzive ungcono.
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9 - Ukumemeza kwenza ukuba uphumelele
Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuba abantu abaye bathuzela rhoqo babonakala bekholose ngakumbi, banokuphinda bakhuthazwe, kwaye banokuthi bangene. Zama ukubetha kwiintlanganiso kunye nokuqeshwa kwamashishini. Unokufumana ukuba abantu basabela kuwe ngokuhlukileyo.
10 - Ukumamatheka kukunceda uhlale ulungile
Zama lo vavanyo: Smile. Ngoku uzama ukucinga into engalunganga ngaphandle kokulahleka. Kunzima, akunjalo? Nangona xa umothu uvakalelwa okanye unyanzelekile, usathumela ingqondo kwaye ekugqibeleni umzimba wethu wonke umyalezo othi "Ubomi Buhle!" Hlala kude nokuxinezeleka, uxinzelelo, kwaye ukhathazeke ngokumomotheka.
> Imithombo
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