I-Perfectionism ingabonakali okanye i-maladaptive
Ukutshatyalaliswa komzimba kukutyekela ukubeka imilinganiselo ephezulu ngokwemimiselo yakho kunye / okanye nabanye. Njengawo nawuphi na umgangatho wobuntu, ukugqibelela kubandakanya yonke impawu, ezinye ezintle kunye nezinye ezimbi, ezihluka kumntu kumntu. Sivame ukubonakalisa ukugqibelela njengento engafanelekanga kwinkcubeko yethu, kodwa uphando lubonise ukuba kukho okunempilo (ukuguquguquka) kunye nokungahambi kakuhle (iintlobo eziphathekayo ) ezingapheliyo .
I-Adaptive okanye i-Healthy Perfectionism
Olu hlobo lokugqibelela lubonakaliswa ngokuba nemilinganiselo ephakamileyo wena kunye nabanye, ukuqhubeka nokujongene nobunzima kunye nokunyaniseka. Ukuphelela ukuphelela ngokufanelekileyo kuhamba ngokuhambelanayo nokuziphatha okujoliswe kuko kugqityiweyo kunye nezakhono ezifanelekileyo zokuhleleka.
Ngokomzekelo, unokuzichaza njengomntu ophelela ukugqibelela xa kuziwa esikolweni okanye emsebenzini ngenxa yokuba uhlala uzama ukwenza okusemandleni akho, vula umsebenzi wakho ngexesha kwaye udibane okanye udlule umlindelo. Nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukucaphukisa xa ungahambisani neenjongo zakho. Olu luhlobo oluphilileyo lokuphelela phambili kuba lujolise kwizinto ezintle kwaye kukukhuthaza ukuba wenze kakuhle. Abagijimi abaninzi kunye nabaculi abaye baphumelela ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye ekubeni ihambelana nendawo enye yobomi babo, imidlalo yabo okanye ubugcisa babo, kubancedisa ukuba bavelele emasimini abo.
Ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukungafihleki
Njengoko nantoni na, ukugqibelela kungabikho okubi kakhulu xa kuthathwa ngokugqithiseleyo.
Ukugqithiseleka kweengxaki eziphathekayo kubonakaliswe ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngeempazamo ezidlulileyo, ukwesaba ngokwenza iimpazamo ezintsha, ukungathandabuzeki malunga nokuba wenza okuthile ngokuchanekileyo kwaye uxhalabele kakhulu malunga nokulindela okuphezulu kwabanye, njengabazali okanye abaqeshi. Ukuxhalabisa ngokugqithiseleyo nokulawula kuyinkalo ephawulekayo yokupheleliswa kwe-maladaptive perfectionism.
Olu hlobo lungachaphazela yonke indawo yobomi bakho, kungekhona enye okanye ezimbini. Ngokwenene, kukuphelela okugqithiseleyo kangangokuba kukulawula ubomi bakho kwaye kubangele uxinzelelo olukhulu kunye noxinzelelo .
Ngokomzekelo, unokuhlala ugula kwisisu sakho ngaphambi kokuba uvavanyo okanye umboniso ngenxa yokuba ukwesaba ukuba awuyi kuphila kwabanye okanye ukulindela kwakho. Omnye umzekelo uhlala ucela abanye ukuba baqinisekise ukuba wenza umsebenzi omhle kwaye uyathandwa kwaye uyahlonishwa. Unokuchitha isabelo esihle seentsuku zakho ezilawulwa ngoloyiko okanye uxhalabe ngenxa yokuba ungahlangani nemigangatho yakho ephakamileyo. Ezi ndlela zendlela yokuhlangabezana nazo ziphilileyo kuba zijolise kwizinto ezimbi, kwakunye nezinto ongeke ukwazi ukuzilawula nangona kunjalo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngelixa ukulungelelanisa ukulungelelanisa kufana nokuhambelana nokuphila kakuhle kwengqondo kunye nokuphumelela okukhulu kokubili esikolweni nasemsebenzini, ukulungelelaniswa kwe-maladaptive kuye kwaxinwa noxinzelelo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, ukuphazamiseka kokutya, ukungazinzi, kunye neempawu zesifo sengqondo.
Fumana Uncedo Ukuba Ubunjani bakho boBomi bunzima
Ukuba ukuphelela kwakho kubonakala kuthatha ubomi bakho, kusenokuba ixesha lokufumana uncedo. Kukho unyango olunjenge- cognitive-behavioral therapy olukhoyo ukukunceda ukuba uphumule, vumela uyeke ukuvumela ukugqibelela kwakho kukulawula ubomi bakho.
Unokwazi ukufumanisa izizathu okanye izinto ezibangela ukuphelela kwakho okuza kukunceda ukuba uqonde indlela yokuyilawula ngokufanelekileyo.
Imithombo
I-Bieling, i-PJ, i-Israel, i-AL, ne-Antony, M "Ngaba ukugqibelela kukuhle, kubi okanye kokubili? Ukuhlolisisa imodeli yokugqibelela ekwakheni " Ubuntu kunye nokuhlukana komntu ngamnye 2004 36: 1373-1385.
http://www.adaa.org/sites/default/files/Antony_MasterClinician.pdf