Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zeziNgqungquthela
I-Introversion yinkalo yobuntu echazwe ngokugxila kwiimvakalelo zangaphakathi kunokuba kuvela kwimithombo yangaphandle yokuvuselela. Ama-Introverts kunye neentambo zivame ukujongwa ngokwezinto ezimbini ezichasene kakhulu, kodwa inyaniso kukuba abaninzi abantu balala kwindawo ephakathi.
Ngoxa ama-introverts enza i-25 ukuya kuma-40 ekhulwini labantu, kukho iingcamango ezininzi ezingalunganga malunga nohlobo lomntu.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ukungeniswa kwezinto akuzona izinto ezifanayo nokukhathazeka kwentlalo okanye ukunyaniseka. Ukuba yi-introvert does not mean that you are socially anxious or ashamed.
Yintoni i-Introvert?
I-Introversion yenye yeendlela ezintle zobuntu ezichazwe kwiinkalo ezininzi zobuntu. Abantu abafakela phambili bathambekele ekuphenduleni kwangaphakathi , okanye bajolise ngakumbi kwiingcamango zangaphakathi, iimvakalelo kunye nemizwelo kunokuba bafune ukuvuselela kwangaphandle. I-Introversion ibonwa njengento ekhoyo njengenxalenye yokuqhubeka kunye nokuxubusha . I-Introversion ibonisa ukuphela komlinganiselo wesilinganisi, ngelixa i-extroversion ibonisa enye iphelo.
Amagama okuqala kunye nokuphambuka (kwakhona ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuchazwa kwe-extraversion) yenziwa ngokubanzi ngomsebenzi kaCarl Jung kwaye kamva waba ziinxalenye eziphambili zezinye iimbono ezivelele kubandakanya i- theory 5 yobuntu. Ingqungquthela yokuqala-ye-extroduction isinye yezona ndawo ezichazwe yi- Myer-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI).
Ngokutsho kweengcamango ezininzi zobuntu, wonke umntu unomlinganiselo othile wokuqala kunye nokuxubusha. Nangona kunjalo, abantu bahlala bexhomekeke kwindlela enye okanye enye.
Ama-introverts athambekele ekuphumeni, egcinwe, kunye nokucacisa. Ngokungafani nabangenayo abafumana amandla ekusebenzisaneni kwezentlalo, izaziso kufuneka zisebenzise amandla kwiimeko zoluntu.
Emva kokuya kwindibano okanye ukuchitha ixesha kwiqela elikhulu labantu, abavakalisi bavakala ukuba banesidingo "sokutshiza" ngokuchitha ixesha elilodwa.
Izizathu
Ukuze ukwazi ukuba kutheni abanye abantu bangeniswa kwaye abanye abantu baxakile, kubalulekile ukuqonda indima eyenziwa ngumzimba wakho. Indlela umzimba wakho uphendula ngayo kwimeko engaphandle idlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuqaliseni izinga lakho lokuxubusha kunye nokuqalisa.
Kwinqanaba lomzimba, umnatha wee- neurons ezikhoyo kwi-brainstem eyaziwa njenge-systematic activation system (RAS) inoxanduva lokulawula amanqanaba okuvusa ukuquka ukuvuka nokuguquka phakathi kokulala nokuvuka.
I-RAS nayo inendima ekulawuleni ukuba luninzi ulwazi oluthathayo xa uvukile. Xa ujongene nezinto ezinobungozi kwimeko yendalo, i-RAS iya kwandisa amanqanaba akho okuvusa ukuze uqaphele kwaye ukulungele ukujongana nengozi. Umntu ngamnye unesiseko esisekelwe kwisiseko sokuvusa. Abanye abantu bavame ukuba ngokwemvelo babe neendawo eziphezulu kakhulu, ngelixa ezinye zinendawo ephantsi kakhulu.
I-psychologist uHans Eysenck yacebisa ukuba ezi nqanaba zokuvusa zingacingwa nje ngokuba ziqhubeka.
Ngokutsho kwengcamango yakhe yokuvusa i-extroversion:
- Iipesenti ezili-15 zabantu zinomlinganiselo osisiseko, oko kuthetha ukuba ngokwemvelo banamazinga aphakamileyo aphakanyisiweyo
- Amaphesenti angama-15 abantu anendawo ephakamileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba ngokwemvelo bavame ukuvuswa
- Iipesenti ezingama-70 zabantu balala kwindawo ethile phakathi kokuqhubeka
Ngokutsho kwengcamango ka-Eysenck, i-introverts yilabo abanamazinga aphakamileyo okuvusa. Ngenxa yokuba izethulo zivame ukufumana amanqanaba aphakamileyo aphakamileyo, bathambekele ekufuneni imisebenzi kunye neendawo apho bangasinda khona ekugqibeleni. Ngenxa yamanqanaba okuvusa ngokwemvelo, baqaphele baze bathathe ingcaciso engaphezulu kwimo engqongileyo.
Ukusinda kwindawo ethile yokuba nexesha elilodwa ukuhlawulela kubanika ithuba lokucwangcisa nokucamngca oko bakufundileyo.
Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo
Ingaba ucinga ukuba uyazi ngubani osungulayo kwaye ungubani? Ngelixa usenokucinga nge-introvert njenge-wallflower enamahloni okhetha ukuhlala ekhaya yedwa endaweni yokuzibandakanya, ukuqala kwangoku kungena kwiintlobo ezininzi ngeempawu ezahlukeneyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho ininzi yabangeniso abahlala kuyo kwaye ngubani ongathanda ukuhlala ekhaya aze afunde incwadi kunokuya kwiqela elikhulu, kodwa kukho neeninzi zamalungu angenayo. Usenokumangaliswa xa ufumanisa ukuba abantu abaninzi ocinga ukuba "iintlephethi zentlalo" kunokwenzeka ukuba bangeniswe.
Ezi zilandelayo zimbalwa zeempawu ozaziyo (okanye umntu owaziyo) unokungeniswa.
1. Ukuhlala Kwiindawo ezininzi Abantu bachitha amandla akho
Ngaba uvakalelwa ukhathala emva kokuchitha ixesha nabantu abaninzi? Emva komhla osebenzisana nabanye, ngaba kufuneka ufune ukubuyela endaweni elithulileyo kwaye ube nexesha elongezelelweyo lakho konke? Enye yezinto eziphambili zolu hlobo lomntu kukuba i-introverts kufuneka ichonge amandla kwiimeko zentlalo, ngokungafani nongxowankulu onokufumana amandla kulolu hlobo.
Oko akuthethi ukuba zonke izethulo ziyakuphepha zonke iintlalo zentlalo.
Abaninzi abanomdla bayakujabulela ukuchitha ixesha elijikeleze abanye, kunye ne-caveat eyodwa-i-introvets bavame ukukhetha inkampani yabahlobo abasondeleyo. Nangona i-extrovert ingaya kwiqela elinenjongo yokuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha, i-introvert ihlose ukusebenzisa ixesha elifanelekileyo ukuthetha nabahlobo abalungileyo.
2. Uyakuvuyela ukuZodwa
Njengengeniso, ingcamango yakho yexesha elihle liyimini ephumayo kuwe ukuze ujabulele izinto ozilibazisa kunye nezinto ezinomdla.
Iiyure ezimbalwa zodwa kunye nencwadana enhle, uhambo oluxhamlekileyo okanye iprogram yakho ebonakalayo yithelevishini ziindlela ezininzi zokukunceda uzive uvuselelwe kwaye unamandla.
Oku akuthethi ukuba i-introvert ye-average ifuna ukuba yedwa ngexesha lonke. Uninzi lwama-introverts luthanda ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo kunye nokusebenzisana nabantu abaqhelekileyo kwiimeko zoluntu. Into ebalulekileyo yokukhumbula kukuba emva komhla omude wezenzo zentlalo, i-introvert mhlawumbi ifuna ukubuyela kwindawo elithulileyo ukuba icinge, ibonakalise, iphinde ifakelwe.
Ukuba neeyure ezimbalwa ukuba ube yedwa zivakala ngathi ingcamango yakho yexesha elihle, usenokuba ungenisa.
3. Unayo iqela elincinane lohlobo olusondeleyo
Enye into engaqhelekanga yokungaqondi kakuhle malunga nabangeniswayo kukuba akuthandi abantu. Nangona i-introverts ayinandiphelwano oluninzi lwabahlali, bayakuvuyela ukuba neqela elincinane labahlobo abaxhomekeke kuyo. Esikhundleni sokuba nesigxina esikhulu sentlalo yabantu abayaziyo kuphela kwizinga elingenasiphelo, ama-introverts bakhetha ukunamathela kwiinkalo ezinzulu, ezihlala zihlala ziphawulwe ngokubanzi kunye nokusondelana.
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba abantu abaphezulu kule mpawu bafumana ukuba neqela labangane. Nangona i-extroverts ngokubanzi inomxholo obanzi lwabahlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo, ama-introverts akhetha abahlobo bawo ngokucophelela. Ubuhlobo babo obusondeleyo buhlala bunzulu kwaye bubalulekile. Bakhetha kwakhona ukusebenzisana nabantu ngesinye ngesinye kunokuba kubekho iqela elikhulu.
Ukuba isalathisi sakho sezentlalo sihlala sisincinane kodwa sisondele kakhulu, kunethuba elihle kakhulu ukuba uyifake.
4. Abantu bavame ukuchazela nje ngo-Quiet kwaye Mhlawumbi unokufumana kunzima ukukwazi
Izivakalisi zivame ukuchazwa njengezolile, zigcinwe, zixakeke kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ziphosakele zihlazo .
Nangona ezinye i-introverts ziyihlazo, ngokuqinisekileyo abantu akufanele baphosole i-introvert's reserve for the timidity. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu abanalo hlobo lobuntu banqwenela ukhethe amagama abo ngokucophelela kwaye bachithe ixesha okanye amandla kwiingxoxo ezingenasiphelo.
Ukuba uluhlobo oluthe cwaka kunye nento egcinwe kuyo, mhlawumbi uyangenisa.
5. Ukunciphisa kakhulu ukusilahla Uziva Uphazamisekile kwaye Ungabonakali
Xa ama-introverts kufuneka achithe ixesha kwimisebenzi okanye kwimihlaba enobungozi kakhulu, banokugqiba beziva bengacatshangwanga kwaye baxakeke. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ithambekele kwiimeko apho kukho umsebenzi omningi kunye namathuba ambalwa okuba nexhala.
Ngokomnye ubuncinci, abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba izethulo zivame ukuphazanyiswa kancinci kunokuba zithengiswe, okuyiyonxalenye yezizathu zokuba izethulo zivame ukukhetha ukulungelelanisa, okucwangcisiweyo.
Ukuba udla ukuziva uxakeke kwiindawo ezixakekileyo zentlalo, mhlawumbi uthanda ukuzisa.
6. Uyaziqonda kakhulu
Ngenxa yokuba izethulo zivame ukuphendulela kwangaphakathi, zichitha ixesha elide lihlola amava abo ngaphakathi. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unolwazi oluhle kwaye uziqonda, zakho iimvakalelo, kunye neemvakalelo zakho, unokuba uninzi lwe-introvert.
Ama-introverts athambekele ekunandipha ngokucinga kunye nokuhlola izinto ezingqondweni zabo. Ukuziqonda nokuziqonda kubalulekile ukuzisa abantu, ngoko bahlala bechitha ixesha elide lokufunda okungakumbi malunga nabo. Oku kungabandakanya ukuhlolisisa izinto ezithandayo, ukucinga ngokuphila kwabo, nokufunda iincwadi ezihlolisisa izihloko kunye nezihloko ezibalulekileyo kubo.
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uyazi kwaye ujabulele ukwazi ukufumana ulwazi olunzulu malunga nawe, ngoko unokuba ungaphezulu.
7. Uthanda ukufunda ngokubukela
Xa i-extroverts ithambekele ukukhetha ukungena ngaphakathi kwaye ufunde nangona amava, izandla zikhetha ukufunda ngokubona . Nangona i-extroverts ngokuvamile ifunda ngeesilingo kunye nephutha, ama-introverts afunde kakuhle ngokubukela.
Ama-Introverts afana nokubukela abanye ukwenza umsebenzi, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, de kube baziva ukuba banokuziphindaphinda izenzo. Xa ama-introverts afunda kumava abo, athetha ukuzenzela kwindawo yangasese apho bangakwazi ukwakha izakhono zabo kunye nezakhono ngaphandle kokuba benze ukuphulaphulela abaphulaphuli.
Ukuba uthanda ukufunda okungakumbi ngokubukela kunokuba wenze, kukho ithuba lokuba unobuntu obungaphezulu.
8. Ukhangela Imisebenzi Ebandakanya Ukuzimela
Njengoko ucinga ukuba, imisebenzi efuna ukubanxulumana nentlalontle ingahlali isithandabuzo kubantu abaphakamileyo kwi-introversion. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, imisebenzi ebandakanya ukusebenza ngokuzimela ngokuqhelekileyo yinto ekhethekileyo yokukhetha izethulo. Ngokomzekelo, i-introvert ingakujabulela ukusebenza njengomlobi, umgcini-mali, umprogram wekhompyutheni, umyili wezobugcisa, i-pharmist, okanye umculi.
Introversion kunye neentloni
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba i-introversion ayifani ngokulingana neentloni. Kwincwadi yabo, uPhuhliso lweentloni kunye nokuHlulwa kweNtlalo , abalobi uSmidtt noBuss babhala, "Ukuzibandakanya kubhekisela kwisisiseko, esomeleleyo okanye ebuthakathaka, yokufuna ukuba nabanye, ngoxa iintloni zibhekisela ekuziphatheni xa abanye, bevinjelwe okanye bengavinjelwe, kunye neemvakalelo zokuxhatshazwa kunye nokuphazamiseka. "
Ientloni zibonisa ukwesaba abantu okanye iimeko zentlalo. Ngaphandle kolunye uhlangothi, abafuni ukuchitha ixesha elininzi bexubana nabanye abantu. Nangona kunjalo, bayakuxabisa ukuhlala nabantu abasondeleyo kubo. Bafumana ukubandakanya "incoko encinci" inyanzelisayo, kodwa banandipha incoko neencoko. Ama-Introverts athambekele ekucingeni ngezinto ngaphambi kokuthetha. Bafuna ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo ingcamango ngaphambi kokuba bathethe uluvo okanye bazama ukunikela ngengcaciso.
Iingcamango
Kwinqaku elihle kakhulu kwi- Atlantic Monthly , umlobi uJonathan Rauch wathatha ezinye zeengcamango eziqhelekileyo kunye neengcamango ezingalunganga malunga neentetho . Nangona ama-introverts adlalwa njengamahloni, angabonakali, kwaye azikhukhumezile, uRauch uchaza ukuba le ngcamango ibangelwa ukungaphumeleli kokubakho ukuqonda ukuba i-introverts isebenze njani.
"Ukugqithisa kunento encinci okanye ayiqondi kakuhle," uRauch ubonisa. "Bacinga ukuba inkampani, ingakumbi yabo, iyakwamukelwa njalo.Ayikwazi ukucinga ukuba kutheni umntu efuna ukuba yedwa; akazange azive ukuba kukho nawuphi na owaziwayo. "
Ngokutsho koqikelelo, ukuxhomekeka kwimizuzu engama-3 ukuya kwelinye. Abavakalisi bafumana ukuba abanye abantu bazama ukutshintsha okanye bacebise ukuba kukho into "engalunganga" nabo. Akukho nto ingaba yinyani kwi nyaniso. Nangona i-introverts yenza i nxalenye encinci yabemi, akukho hlobo lomntu olungalunganga okanye olungalunganga. Esikhundleni saloo nto, bobabini izethulo kunye neziqu kufuneka bazama ukuqonda ukungafani komnye nomnye.
ILizwi
Khumbula, ukungenisekanga akusiyo yonke into-okanye akukho nto. Abantu bangaba yiloo nto enokuthiwa ngama-introverts nge-capital (I-aka "i-introverted") okanye ingaba ivela kwezinye iimeko kunye nokuthambekela kokuqala. I-Introversion ikhona ekuqhubekeni kokudityaniswa, kwaye abaninzi abantu bavame ukulala phakathi kwezinye ezimbini.
Ukuba ufumanisa ezinye iimpawu zokungeniswa kunye nezinye iimpawu zokuxubusha, ke kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ungomnye weepesenti ezingama-70 zabantu abawela kwindawo ethile phakathi. I-Ambiverts inomdla wokubambisa ixesha kunye nabanye kunye nokuchitha ixesha lodwa, kuxhomekeke kwimeko kunye neemfuno zabo okwangoku.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, khumbula ukuba olunye uhlobo alukho "olungcono" kunalo. Ukuthambekela ngalunye kunokufumana inzuzo kunye neengxaki ngokuxhomekeka kwimeko. Ngokuqonda kangcono ubuntu bakho, nangona kunjalo, ungafunda indlela yokudlala kumandla akho.
Ukuba uyangenisa, fumana iindlela zokujamelana nayo xa ukuvuselela kwihlabathi langaphandle liba luninzi. Khangela umzuzu onokuthula apho ungakwazi ukuphuma kumsindo onzima kunye nokuhlaziya.
Kuhlolisiso olunye lwabadala abadala phakathi kweminyaka eyi-18 no-80, abo babe nolwalamano olusisiseko lwentlalo kunye nolwazi lokulawula imvakalelo bafunyanwa babe nolonwabo ngakumbi kunabo bangenazo ezo zakhono. Yenza ubuninzi bamandla akho ngokukhuthaza ubudlelwane bakho obusondeleyo ukuze ukhuthaze uxhulumano oluqinileyo loluntu kwaye usebenzise ukuthambekela kwakho ukujonga ngaphakathi ukwenzela ukuhlakulela ukuqonda okunzulu kwengqondo.
I-Introversion iqhelekileyo ngokuqhelekileyo. Ukuba ufumanisa ke, ukuba ukunyamekela kwakho kungumphumo wokuxhalabisa okuchaphazela ukusebenza kwakho okuqhelekileyo, ukusebenza kwansuku zonke, qhagamshelana nodokotela wakho okanye uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo.
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