Imigomo yeMpilo yengqondo esetyenziselwa ukujongana nentsha enengxaki
Ukurhoxisa kukusetyenziswa kwindlela yokwenza uncedo lokudala indlela eyahlukileyo yokujonga imeko, umntu, okanye ubuhlobo ngokutshintsha intsingiselo yayo. Kwakhona kubhekiswa njengokwenziwa kwengcamango kwengqondo, isicwangciso se-therapists esasetyenziswa rhoqo ekuncedeni abathengi ukuba bajonge imeko kwiimeko ezithile.
Iingcamango ezibalulekileyo emva kokugxila kukuthi indawo yomntu-yokubukela ixhomekeke kwisakhelo esibhekwa kuso.
Xa isakhelo sitshintshile, intsingiselo ishintsha kwaye ukucinga nokuziphatha kudla ngokutshintsha kunye nayo.
Enye indlela yokuqonda ingcamango yokurhoxisa kukucinga ukujonga ngaphaya kwefom yekhamera yekhamera. Umfanekiso obonwe kwi lens ungashintshwa kwimbono esondele okanye ihambe ngakumbi. Ngokutshintshisa okubonakalayo kwikhamera, umfanekiso ubonwa kwaye uhlangene ngokwahlukileyo.
Imizekelo yokurhoxiswa
Ukurhoxiswa kungasetyenziselwa abadala okanye abatsha ukutshintsha indlela abacinga ngayo, bazive ngayo, baziphathe. Nazi izimbalwa ezimbalwa zendlela yokurhoxisa ingasetyenziselwa ngayo unyango:
- Kwiseshoni yonyango yentsapho uCarla ukhononda ngokukrakra ukuba unina uthinteke ngokugqithiseleyo ebomini bakhe, ehlala emgxeka malunga noko akumele akwenze. Xa ezama ukutshintsha umbono kaCarla ongenakunina wakhe, umgqirha unikeza oku kuqhubekayo: "Ngaba akunjalo ngothando kunyoko lokufundisa ukuba uzinakekele wena ukuze uhlale uphila ngaphandle kwakho?"
- Umntwana osetshenziselwa unyango ngamnye uyavuma ukufumana umlinganiselo wokugula okungapheliyo. Umgqirha uzama ukuphinda abuyele indlela umntwana abona ngayo ukugula kwakhe ngokuthi, "Ngaba unokucinga ngokugula kwakho njengesikhumbuzo esakhelwe ukunyamekela impilo yakho ebomini bakho?"
- Intombazana inomsindo ayizange yenze iqela lebhola lebhola. Umgqirha uyambuza ukuba ziphi izinto ezintle ezinokuvela ekubeni zingenzi iqela. Umntwana uyakwazi ukuthetha ukuba uya kuba nexesha elininzi lokukhulula kunye neenkqubo ezaneleyo, unokukwazi ukwenza iqela elizayo kunyaka ozayo.
- Inkwenkwe ithi unina uchithe ubomi bakhe ngokuthatha amalungelo akhe e-smartphone kuba wayebanjwe ukuthumela imiyalezo ngelixa eqhuba. Iingcali zithetha ngeengozi zokuthumela imiyalezo ngexesha lokuqhuba kwaye izizathu abazali bakhe bafuna ukumfundisa ukuba angenzi. Ekugqibeleni, uyakwazi ukubona ukuba unyoko lwakhe aluzange lubhekiselele ekubhubhiseni ubomi bakhe, kodwa kunoko, kwakuthatyathwa ukugcina ubomi bakhe.
Indlela Yokunceda Umntwana Wakho Uhlaziye Imeko
Nangona le ndlela isetyenziswa rhoqo kunyango, into ongayisebenzisa kunye nentombazana yakho ekhaya. Ngokwenza oko, umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukukhumbuza ukuba isiphetho sakhe sokuqala sinye nje inkcazelo.
Iintsholongwane zicinga ukuba indlela yabo yokubona ingxaki. Ukuba umhlobo akazange abuyele kwakhona kufuneka ahluthe. Okanye, ukuba umfana osilela ukuvavanya kufuneka uthetha ukuba uyisiyatha.
Buza imibuzo efana, "Ngaba kukho enye indlela yokujonga le meko?" okanye, "Ziziphi ezinye ezintathu ezenza ukuba kwenzeke oku?" Nceda umntwana wakho abone ukuba kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kukho iingxaki.
Umzekelo, umhlobo wakhe akayi kubuyisela imiyalezo yombhalo ngenxa yokuba uxakekile okanye ngenxa yokuba ifowuni yakhe ithathwe. Ukucacisa ezinye iindlela zokunyanzelisa umntwana wakho ukuba umhlobo wakhe uthukuthele unokumnceda ukuba abone izinto ukusuka kwelinye umbono.
Unokumnceda kwakhona abuyele imeko ngokuthi, "Umhlobo wakho unokufuna ukupholisa ngaphambi kokuba athethe nawe ngenxa yokuba uyakuthanda kakhulu kwaye akafuni ukuthetha into ithetha ngomsindo."
Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho zentsana ngokuthi, "Ndiyazi ukuba unomdla kukuba akabibizanga. Ndiyazi xa ndiziva ndiziva ndihlala ndicinga ngezona zinto zibuhlungu kunoko, kodwa ezo zinto ndicinga ukuba azinjalo."
Unokukunceda wakho umntwana ukuba ahlale engqongqo ngengqondo ngokubuza, "Ungathini kumhlobo onalo le ngxaki?" Ingane yakho isenokwenzeka ukuba ithethe nabanye ngendlela enobubele nangomusa kunokuba ukhulume naye.
Injongo mayibe kukuncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlakulele ukuthetha ngokwabo. Ekugqibeleni, uya kufunda indlela yokuqeqesha ngokwakhe xa eqala ukuqaphela ukuba kukho iindlela ezininzi zokujonga imeko efanayo.
> Imithombo
> Wenzel A. Isicwangciso-siseko soPhando lweZenzo zoLwazi. Iiklinikhi zeengqondo zeNyakatho Melika . 2017; 40 (4): 597-609.