Funda iindlela eziphilileyo zokujongana nobushushu noxinzelelo
Le ngxaki eqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi: njani sifanele sijongane neemvakalelo ezimbi eziqhubekayo ziza xa sisicinezelekile okanye sibuhlungu? Ngaba kufuneka sibeke ingqumbo kunye nentlungu kwaye sizenza ngathi ayikho, ngoko sinokunciphisa ukuwa kweemvakalelo? Okanye ngaba sifanele sibeka engozini ekwenzeni izinto zibi ngakumbi ngokuthetha okanye ukwenza into engalunganga? Njengoko kuvela, "ukunyamezela imizwa" akuyiyo indlela ephilileyo kwaye kukho iindlela ezilula ukuba umntu angasebenzisa.
Ukuba uye wazibuza ukuba yintoni enokuyenza nale mvakalelo, kunjalo, awunabo bodwa xa ulwa neengxaki ezimbi. Abantu abaninzi banombuzo ofanayo malunga noxinzelelo kunye nokunyamezela. Xa beziva benqotshwa yimvakalelo engathandekiyo njengokwenzakalisa, ukukhungatheka okanye umsindo, bayazi ukuba akufanele bazenze bangabi nantoni na, kodwa abafuni ukuhlala bevakalelwa kwiimvakalelo eziphazamisayo. Kodwa ngelixa abaninzi bethu beve ukuba ezi ziyizicwangciso eziphilileyo zokuphucula uxinzelelo, ziziphi ezinye iindlela ezikhoyo?
Ulungile ukuba ukungahoywa iimvakalelo (njengokuthi "ukugxotha umsindo") akuyona indlela ephilileyo yokujongana nayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo uthetha, oko kungenzi ukuba bahambe, kodwa kunokubangela ukuba baphume ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kungenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zakho zibonakalisa ukuba izinto ozenzayo ebomini bakho okanye azisebenzi.
Ukuba uvakalelwa ngumsindo okanye udidekile, oku kungabonakalisa ukuba kukho into efuna ukuyitshintsha.
Ukuba awuyi kutshintsha iimeko okanye iipatheni zokucinga ezibangela ukuba zingabonakali, "iiflegi ezibomvu" iimvakalelo, uya kuqhubeka zibangelwa yizo.
Kwakhona, ngelixa ungajongani neemvakalelo ozivelayo, zinokubangela iingxaki kwimpilo yakho yomzimba kunye nemvakalelo .
Ukuhluthwa , okanye ukunyamekela ukuhlala ecaleni, intukuthelo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka, nangona kunjalo, izisa nemiphumo yempilo ngokunjalo.
Ngoko kubalulekile ukuphulaphula iimvakalelo zakho uze uthathe amanyathelo okuwayeka ukuba ahambe. Nantsi into endiyincomayo:
Qonda iiMvakalelo zakho. Khangela ngaphakathi uze uzame ukuphawula imeko edala uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi ebomini bakho.
- Imvakalelo engebiyo inokuvela kwisiganeko eshukumisayo: umthwalo omninzi womsebenzi, umzekelo.
- Imvakalelo engebiyo nayo ingumphumo weengcamango zethu ezijikeleze isiganeko; indlela esichaza ngayo into eyenzekayo inokusitshintsha indlela esijamelana ngayo nesiganeko nokuba ingaba kungabangela uxinzelelo.
Umsebenzi obalulekileyo weemvakalelo zakho kukukubona ukuba ubone ingxaki, ngoko unokwenza utshintsho olufunekayo.
Sitshintsha into onako. Thatha oko ufundile kwisicetyhulo sam sokuqala kwaye uyisebenzise. Nciphise kwizinto ezibangele uxinzelelo lwakho kwaye uzakuziva uziva uvakalelwa.
Oku kungaquka:
- Ukukhawuleza uxinzelelo lomsebenzi .
- Ukufunda iindlela zokunxibelelana ngokubambisana (ngoko ungaziva unqunywe ngabantu).
- Ukutshintsha iipatheni zokucinga ezingalunganga ngokusebenzisa inkqubo eyaziwa ngokuba yindlela yokuhlengahlengiswa kwengqondo .
Fumana i-Outlet. Ukwenza utshintsho ebomini bakho kunokunciphisa imizwa engathandekiyo, kodwa ayiyi kuphelisa uxinzelelo lwakho. Njengoko wenza utshintsho ebomini bakho ukuzisa uxinzelelo olungaphantsi , uya kufuneka kwakhona ufumane izikhululo ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nale mvakalelo.
- Ukuzivocavoca rhoqo kunokunceda ukuphakamisa iimvakalelo kunye nokuphuma kweemvakalelo ezintle.
- Ukucamngca kunokukunceda ufumane "indawo" yangaphakathi ukuze usebenze kunye, ngoko iimvakalelo zakho azive zikhulu kakhulu.
- Ukufumana amathuba okuzonwabisa nokufumana ukuhleka ngakumbi ebomini bakho kunokutshintsha indlela ojonga ngayo kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo.
Fumana ezimbalwa zezi ndawo, kwaye uya kuziva ungapheli xa kuvela iimvakalelo ezimbi.
Uyakufuna kwakhona ukukhetha iindlela ezinempilo zokunciphisa uxinzelelo . Banike uzame kwaye uya kuziva uncinci.
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