Ngamanye amaxesha xa usuku lubonakala lucindezelekile okanye lugxininisekile, ukuphumla kukuphefumula . Izicwangciso zokuhlaziywa ezilungileyo zithatha 'uxinzelelo' ngaphandle koxinzelelo-xa siqhubeka kwakhona, sijonge kwimeko efanayo kwindlela entsha ebonisa ubungako kunokuba "iisongelo" ezibandakanyekayo. Ukujonga abaxinzelelo bethu njengengxaki esinokujamelana nazo, namathuba, kunokuba sisongela ulonwabo, kunokusinceda sivalelwe.
Emva kokuba sandisa iimbono zethu ngeempendulo ezilungileyo, sikwazi ukubona amanye amathuba. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, sinokuziva singagxininci kakhulu ngokukhawuleza. Funda ngokumalunga nokurhoxisa nokuxininisa uxolo , kwaye uzame ezi zilandelayo zicwangciso ezichazayo ezilandelayo. Bangakwazi ukuguqula usuku lwakho olulandelayo olubi kumhla wamathuba amatsha.
- Hlola oko kukugxininisa. Esikhundleni sokuqhayisa kwiimvakalelo kunye nokungazinakho, jonga imeko yakho ngamehlo amatsha. Ziziphi iinkalo zeemeko zakho ezikugxininisa kakhulu? Ziziphi iimfuno onokuzifumanayo? Uziva phi ukungabikho kolawulo ? Qaphela, ukuba awukho kakade, kwiingxenye zeemeko zakho oza kuthanda ukutshintsha, ukuba unako.
- Khangela oko unokutshintsha. Eli nyathelo lokuqala lingabonakala libonakala, kodwa lisoloko lenziwe. Xa uqala kwakhona, utshintshe umbono wakho kwizinto. Xa ukhangela oko unokutshintsha, cingisisa ngamathuba amaninzi njengoko unako, ngaphandle kokugweba ngokukhawuleza ukuba unako okanye awukwazi ukwenza. Endaweni yokucinga, ' Ndiyathanda ukuba ndiyakushintsha le nto,' nokuba, ' Ndingatshintsha le nto?', Zama ukucinga, ' Ndingayitshintsha njani le?' Awukwazi ukukwazi ukutshintsha yonke into, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwimeko, unokubona amathuba ongaziwa ngaphambili. (Ngaphezulu, jonga le ngxelo yempendulo yomfundi ekwenzeni utshintsho oluncinci.)
- Khangela Izibonelelo. Ukuba unesimo ngokwenene awukwazi ukutshintsha, okanye ukuba kukho iinkalo ongazikwazi ukutshintsha, unokuphinda uhlaziye iingcamango zakho kwaye utshintshe indlela oziva ngayo ngokufumana inzuzo kwiimeko ojamelana nayo. Ziziphi amathuba onokufunyanwa phakathi kweerhubhe? Ziziphi izixhobo onokuzifumana ngokusebenza ngoku? Xa ukhangele iinjongo, akuthethi ukuba ugqithise ngezinto ezingenanto; Uyabona nje izinto ezintle, kwaye ugxila kubo. (Ngokomzekelo wokurhoxisa ukufumana iinzuzo zeengxaki, okanye ukwabelana ngokwakho, funda le ngxelo yempendulo yombali kwiintsikelelo zokuziguqula.)
- Fumana iHumor. Ngaba uke waziva ngelinye ilanga uza kujonga emva koko kwaye uhleke? Kutheni ungavumeli 'ngelinye ilanga' libe namhlanje , kwaye uhleke namhlanje ? Xa uqala ukuhlaziya, ufumanisa iinkalo zeemeko zakho ezingenangqondo ukuba awukwazi ukunceda kodwa uhleka. Unokuhlala uguqulela iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo zengxaki kwiimeko ezihle kakhulu, kwaye wabelane ngazo ngeendlela zokuhlaziya kunye nalabo abasondelene nawe (okanye bakho abangama-600 abahlobo abasondeleyo kwi-Facebook) kwaye ufumane inkxaso ngenkxaso yokuhleka okufanayo. Funda kabanzi malunga nokufumana uhlaziyiko kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, kunye neenzuzo zokuhleka njengoko uhlaziya indlela yakho yokuhleka.
Iingcebiso:
- Funda kabanzi malunga nokwahlukana phakathi kwamaxabiso kunye neengxaki zentliziyo , kunye neenzuzo zokuba nethemba . Unokuvavanya imeko yakho yangoku (ukuzithemba ngokuchasene ne-pessimist) kunye ne-Optimism Quiz, kwaye ufunde ukuba ngaphezulu kwethemba xa ulapho.
- Ukugcina iphephandaba lokubulela yindlela enhle yokusebenza ngokusesikweni ekutshintsheni indlela ojonga ngayo kwaye uhloniphe i-knack yakho yexesha elihle. Kulula, kwakhona, ngoko ndikukhuthaza ukuba uqale ebusuku.