Indlela Yokuxelela Ukuba Ufuna Uncedo Ukuyeka Ukusela
Abantu abaninzi abawela kwinqanaba elithi "ingxaki yokusela isiphuzo" abanalo iziyobisi. Ukuze bayeke ukusela, akudingeki ukuba unyango lonyango, inkxaso yeqela lontanga, okanye ukuvuselela ngokomoya.
Enyanisweni, uninzi lwabantu abagqibayo ukuyeka ukusela besenjenjalo ngaphandle kokuncediswa ngaphandle. Benza nje iingqondo zabo ukuyeka okanye ukuguqula iindlela zabo zokusela.
Abaninzi bexesha elininzi abanxilayo bodwa "bakhula" kwaye batshintsha ukuziphatha kwabo. Abanye banokuba neentloni okanye ezisoyikisayo kunye nokufunga utywala. Kukho ke ukuphindaphinda, ukuba aba bantu mhlawumbi bangelinxila.
Uphando olwenziwe yiYunivesithi yaseToronto lubonise ukuba abangaphezu kwama-70 ekhulwini kwabaphuzi beengxaki bathi baphumelele iingxaki zabo zotywala ngaphandle kokunyangwa ngokusemthethweni. Ucwaningo olufanayo eUnited States ngu-psychiatrist uGeorge Vaillant, kwisibhedlele saseCambridge eMassachusetts, uxele ukuba abantu abangama-75 abantu abayeka okanye banqunywe xa betywala benza njalo ngaphandle kokuncediswa unyango okanye i- Alcoholics Anonymous .
Ezi ziphumo zihambelana nezifundo ezibonisa ukuba ama-80 ukuya kuma-90 ekhulwini abayeke ukutshaya bayayeka ukutshaya ngaphandle kootitshala abancedisayo. Ngoko ke, ukuba unengxaki yokusela, kunethuba lokuba unokwenza okuthile malunga nalo ngoncedo lwezonyango olubi kwaye uhambe kwiintlanganiso.
Nangona abaphuza imihla ngemihla abanako ukunyamezeleka kwisifo sotywala , ngokutsho kwezi zifundo. Umntu onxilayo unokufuna uncedo lokuqala lwezonyango ukuze aphumelele ixesha lokuxothwa, kodwa unokukwazi ukuhlala ehlaziye emva kwe-detox ngaphandle kokuncediswa. Khumbula ukuba ukuyeka utywala obushushu be-turkey kungabungozi ngaphandle kokungenelela kwonyango.
Ngoko ukuba umzimba wakho sele usuxhomekeke kumakhemikhali, kufuneka ufumane uncedo. Ungazami ukuyeka ngokwakho.
Ukunika amandla
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungumngxaki weengxaki kodwa ungenalo utswala, kwaye unomnqweno wokunquma okanye ukuyeka ukusela, iSikole sikaZwelonke malunga nokuTywala utywala kunye noTywala kunokufumana izixhobo ezinokuba luncedo. Unokuthatha i-questionnaire ukukunceda ukuba ubone ukuba uphuze kakhulu, funda izizathu oza kuzinqumla, kwaye ubuyekeze isixhobo sokubeka iinjongo zakho. Unokusebenzisa isampula " idayari yokusela " ukuphonononga indlela osela ngayo ngokwenene ukusekela iinjongo zokunqanda okanye ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo.
I-NIAA ikwabonelela ngeengcebiso zokukunceda ufezekise umnqweno wakho, njengokubukela ubuninzi bokusela utywala. Unokufunda nokusela ngokukhawuleza, uthathe ikhefu ekutywala ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye uthi cha haxa kuvela amathuba okusela.
Ngenamandla
Kuba abantu, ngokwenene, abanxila , bonke amandla kunye nokuzixazulula kwabo kwihlabathi abayi kubanceda banqobe esi sifo . Abantu abaye bazama ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba banqande okanye bayeke ukusela kwaye bafumene ukuba abakwaziyo, baya kufuna ngaphandle ko kunceda ukwenza oko, mhlawumbi kwiziko lophuhliso lombutho okanye kwinkqubo yokunceda okanye inkqubo yokubuyisela i-AA.
Inkxaso iphinda ifumaneke kwiintsapho zabantu abaneengxaki zokusela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu onxilayo unxila okanye unxilisayo. Ukuba ukusela komnye umntu kukunikele umngeni kuwe, kukho izibonelelo ezikhoyo ukukunceda ufumane uxolo.