Ngaba Unokuba Ngumlutha Wobundlobongela?
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, njengamanye amanxila, yindlela yokuziphatha engaxhamliyo kunye nokuxhomekeka okuqhubekayo kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zesigxina sezesondo ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana neengcinezelo zobomi. Njengezinye izilingo, kukho indlela yokuziphatha yokuziphatha, equka:
- unxusa kunye neminqweno yokwenza umsebenzi wesondo
- indlela yokwenza izicwangciso kunye nokwenza umsebenzi wesondo
- umxholo wokukhulula kunye nokuxhamla ngelixa beqhuba umsebenzi wesondo , ulandelwa lixesha lokuhoxiswa kunye nokukhanga okuphindaphindiweyo
Ulwaphulo-mthetho lwezesondo luhluke njani kunokuba lube nolonwabo ngesondo?
Yintoni eyenza umlutha wezocansi umlutha, ngokuchasene nokuzonwabisa nje ngesondo kunye namaqabane amaninzi, kukuba:
- umzekelo wokuphindaphinda weenkqubo zokucinga kunye nokuziphatha, okuqhubekayo ngaphandle kwemiphumo emibi
- ukuziphatha komlutha kuyaqhubeka ngexesha elide
- xa kukho imiphumo ebonakalayo kwaye umlutha awukwazi ukuyeka ukuziphatha, bazive belahlekelwa ngumlawuli
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuziphatha ngokwesini ezivela kwi-crime to crime that result in a different result, ezinye zazo zichaphazela bonke abantu abaneengxaki zesini (ezifana neengxaki zolwalamano), kwaye ezinye zazo zichaphazela abantu abambalwa (izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, imiba yezemali kunye nezomthetho iingxaki).
Ulwaphulo lwezoTywala
Uncedo olunempumelelo lufumaneka kwizilonda zesini.
Amanye amaziko okuxhatshazwa ngokusesikweni ekusetyenzisweni ukuze ancede abantu banqobe iingxaki zotywala kunye neziyobisi nazo baphatha abantu abanezilwaphulo zesini, nangona oku akunjalo nakwizikliniki zonke zokulahla.
Iikliniki zeengcali, ngokuqhelekileyo amaziko abucala, anikezela unyango ngokukhethekileyo ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kunye nokuxhaswa ngemali akulula nje ukufumana njengemali yokunwa ngotywala kunye neziyobisi.
Kukho amaqela amancinci angama-12 ancedayo kwiidakamizwa zesondo.
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Kukho ubungqina obunobuninzi bokuqhawula ngesondo ngokulandela iindlela ezifanayo kunye neendlela zokuziphatha kwaye zibandakanya iindlela ezifanayo zobuchopho kwezinye izilwanyana.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini okwangoku kungabonakali kwiNcwadana yokuHlola kunye neSatistim of Disabilities. Nangona i-diagnostic entsha ye-Hypersexual Disorder iphakanyisiwe kwi-DSM-V, ayizange yamkelwe.
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kuyimfuneko nzima kubo bobabini abaqeqeshiweyo kunye noluntu ukuba lithathe ngokungathí sina. Kukho izizathu ezininzi:
- Ukwabelana ngesondo kubandakanya uluhlu olubanzi kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha. Abanye, njenge-masturbation, baqhelekile xa abanye, njengezilwanyana ezingavamile, bengalindelekanga kwaye banqunyulwe kude "kokuqhelekileyo" ukuziphatha abanye abakuthola kunzima ukuchaphazela okanye ukuqonda isikhalazo sokuziphatha okunjalo.
- Ukwamkeleka ngokungenakulinganiswa kwesifiso sesondo njengamandla onke kunye nokuxhobisa isiseko sezocansi.
- Ukudideka malunga nento eya kubangela ukuba "ukuphulukana" kwindlela yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, njengokuziyeka, inkcazo yokubuyisela ezinye izilingo, ayikho inkqubela enempilo okanye ilindelekileyo kulindeleke kubantu abaninzi.
- Isondo sihlala sisinye sezihloko ezininzi kwiindawo, ngoko abantu abaxhatshazwa ngokwesondo bahlala bexutywa kunye nehlazo ngendlela abantu abanezinye iimeko ezingekho phantsi kwazo.
- Ngenxa yokuba abanye abantu abanezidakamizwa zesini, ngamanye amaxesha, ukuxhaphaza ngokwesini abanye, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunokubonakala "njengesisulu" sokuziphatha okungenakuziphendulela nokuxhaphaza.
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