Ukunika amandla Iifom ezininzi
Amaxesha amaninzi xa iintsapho kunye nabahlobo bezama "ukunceda" izidakwa, ngokwenene benza kube lula kubo ukuba baqhubeke nokuqhubeka kwesifo.
Into edibeneyo ibizwa ngokuba yinto enokubangela ukuba, oko kuthatha iindidi ezininzi, zonke ezichaphazelekayo-ukuvumela umtywala ukuba athephe imiphumo yezenzo zakhe. Oku, kuvumela ukuba umntu onxilisayo aqhubeke ngokuchulumancisa kunye nendlela yakhe yokusela, ekhuselekile ngolwazi ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba uphahla kangakanani, umntu uya kuhlala ekhona ukuze amhlangule kwiimpazamo zakhe.
Uwuphi umehluko phakathi kokunceda nokunika amandla? Kukho iimbono ezininzi kunye nemibono kule nto, ezinye zazo zingatholakala kumaphepha axhumene ngezantsi, kodwa nantsi inkcazelo elula:
Ukunceda ukwenza into kumntu ongenako ukwenza ngokwabo. Ukunika amandla umntu wenza izinto abakwaziyo kwaye bafanele benze ngokwabo.
Ngokulula, ukunika amandla ukudala umoya apho unxilisayo angakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuziphatha kwakhe okungavumelekanga.
Ngaba Uncedo?
Ngaba Unceda Utywala okanye Utywala?
Phendula le mibuzo le-10 kukukunceda ukuba unqume ukuba ngaba izenzo zakho kunye nezenzo zakho kumnxila unokuba luncedo.
Cofa kwikhonkco apha ngasentla ukuze uthathe uvavanyo oluvakalayo lokuzihlola. Ukuba uphendule "ewe" kuyo nayiphi na le mibuzo, ngexesha elithile uye wanceda umntu onxilisayo ukuba aphephe uxanduva lwakhe. Kunokuba "ncedise" utywala, ngokwenene wenze kube lula kuye ukuba zibi kakhulu.
Ukuba uphendule "ewe" kwiinkoliso okanye yonke imibuzo, awuzange uyenze kuphela utywala, mhlawumbi ube ngumnikelo omkhulu kwiinkalo ezikhulayo kwaye eziqhubekayo kunye namathuba athe yachaphazeleka yiyo sifo .
Ukujongana neziphumo zokusela
Ngethuba nje ukuba utywala unemishini yakhe yokunika amandla, kulula ukuba aqhubeke ephika ukuba unenkinga - kuba ezininzi iingxaki zixazululwa "ngabantu abazungezile.
Kuphela xa ephoqeleka ukuba abhekane nemiphumo yezenzo zakhe, ngaba uya kuqala ukucoca ngendlela ingxaki yakhe ibe ngayo.
Ezinye zezi zigqibo azilula kubahlobo kunye neentsapho zezidakwa. Ukuba umntu onxilisayo unxila imali efuneka ukuba ayihlawule umrhumo wesikhokelo, akuyena kuphela oya kuhlala kwindawo emnyama, ebandayo okanye ebandayo. Bonke abanye intsapho baya kuhlupheka kunye naye.
Iqhamo Iinqunto zentsapho, kodwa iinqunto
Oko kwenza ukhetho olulodwa kwintsapho lubonakale kuthatha imali ejoliswe ekuthengiseni ukutya nokuhlawula ibhajethi yokukhanya kuba kungekho mntu ufuna ukungafumanekanga.
Kodwa oko akuyena kuphela ukhetho. Ukuthatha abantwana kubahlobo okanye izalamane, okanye kwindlu yokukhusela, nokuvumela umntu onxilisayo ukuba eze ekhaya yedwa kwindlu emnyama, yinto ekhethileyo ekhusela intsapho kwaye ishiya ubuso obujongene noxinzelelo ngxaki yakhe .
Ezi zinhlobo zokukhetha zinzima. Bayafuna " inqaba kunye nothando ." Kodwa luthando. Ngaphandle kokuba umntu onxilisayo avunyelwe ukuba abhekane nemiphumo yezenzo zakhe, akaze azi ukuba ukusela kwakhe kunzima kangakanani - kuye nakwabo abakujikelezile.
Ukufumana Uncedo Lokujongana NoTywala Lomntu
Ngokuqhelekileyo abo basondelene nomnxila okanye umlutha bakholelwa ukuba banokumfumana ukuba ayeke ukusela okanye utywala, kuya kusombulula zonke iingxaki.
Basenokuzama ukungenelela kwintsapho kunye nezinye iindlela zokuzama ukulungisa "ingxaki."
Kodwa iintsapho ezininzi zifumanisa ukuba nangona ukuba utywala okanye umlutha uyaphinda aze ahlaziywe, iingxaki zihlala zihleli. Kwiintsapho ezijongene nokusebenza okanye ukubuyisela utywala, kukho ezininzi izibonelelo ezikhoyo ukukunceda nokukuncedisa ngeengxaki. Amalungu entsapho amaninzi afumene ukuba ukujoyina i- Al-Anon Family Groups baye batshintsha ubomi babo ngokupheleleyo.