Ukuba nesibini isibini sinokubakho nzima ngezinye iimeko ngenxa yokuba sijongene nokuxhatshazwa kunye nokucalulwa kwimihla yethu yemihla. Ngokufanelekileyo, uthando akufanele lube nemida kulo mba. Nangona kunjalo, sijongene nenyaniso kunye nenyani kukuba abanye banokuthi bangabikho nto. Unokuphinda uqhube ukuxabana phakathi kokubini xa ubeka ubungqina bakho obusekelwe kubuqu bakho okanye ngokobuhlanga.
Kukho izicwangciso zokukunceda ukuba uphathe kakuhle indlela oza ngayo xa usendlwini yomtshato.
Umngeni Wemitshato Yomtshato Ephakathi Kwabahlobo, Intsapho okanye Abahambi
Njengesibini isibini sabantu, uya kuhlangabezana nemingeni eyongezelelweyo emtshatweni wakho kubantu abangaphandle komtshato wakho. Oku kunokukwenza ukuba uzive buhlungu, udabuke kwaye ungancedi. Ukuba ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba le mingeni ingenakulimaza umtshato wakho, khuluma ngabo ngokuvulelana! Umlingani wakho mhlawumbi ungumntu ongcono kakhulu wokukunika induduzo kulezi zixinzelelo zangaphandle. Nonke nifanele nihlangane ukuze nibhekane nale mibandela ephazamisayo kunye kunye nokuxhomekeka omnye komnye ukuxhasa.
Iingxaki Unokujamelana nazo:
- Vula ubundlobongela kunye nosongelo
- Ukungaboni kakuhle
- Iimbono eziphazamisayo kuluntu
- Iintlanzi, ukuhlambalaza, i-jibes, iziqwenga, kunye neengxolo
- Iimbono ezingalunganga kwi-intanethi okanye kumajelo
- Umqondo wokuzihlukanisa
- Ukurhoxiswa kwintsapho okanye ukungatshatyalaliswa
- Ukulahlekelwa koqhagamshelwano nabahlobo okanye intsapho engavumiyo
Eminye imingeni ingavela omnye komnye.
Lindele
Inokuba yothando kakhulu kwaye inomdla wokuthanda umntu ohlukileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ungavumeli ukutsalwa kothando olungavumelekanga kukuphazamise ekujonganeni nemiba enokuthi umtshato wakho wobuhlanga unokujamelana nayo.
Musa ukungena kwiingcamango zokuthi uthando lwakho lomnye nomnye lunokuyinqoba nantoni na ephosa kuwe. Yonke isibini esitshatileyo kufuneka iphuhlise kwaye isebenzise izakhono zokunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo ukuze amaxesha anzima asebenze ngendlela ephilileyo.
Abantwana
Wena kunye neqabane lakho kufuneka nixoxe ngendlela oya kuphakamisa ngayo abantwana benu kwaye ncedise abantwana bakho ukuba baqonde kwaye baxabise ukuba bangubani. Qinisekisa ukuba unikezela abantwana bakho baya kubakho amabali amnandi kwiimbali zakho zentsapho.
Njengoko abantwana bakho bekhula, baphulaphule babelane ngokuxhalabisa kwabo, ukungaqiniseki, ukungathandabuzeki kunye nokunyaniseka. Phendula imibuzo yabo ngqo kwaye ungalibali ukuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zabo.
Ieholide
Zonke izibini ezitshatileyo zijamelana neengxaki ngexesha leeholide Thetha malunga nokwahlukana kwenkcubeko ngendlela amaholide agujwa ngayo xa ubengumntwana. Qaphela ukuba iiholide zinikeza ithuba lokuba uxoxe ngendlela intsapho yakho eya kubamba ngayo ukungafani kunye nokufana kwimvelaphi yakho.
Ziqhayisa ngamasiko akho enkcubeko kwaye usebenzisane kunye nokudala iindlela zokubhiyozela ezo zinto ziya kuba neenjongo kuwe bobabini. Kukulungele ukuba ubabini ukudala izithethe zakho kunye.
Zazi Wena
Ukuba ufuna ukufumana umtshato onqinileyo, kholelwa ukuba ungubani.
Ukuba uziva udidekile ngobomi bakho, jongana nemiba yakho ngaphambi kokuzama ukudibanisa ubomi bakho nomnye umntu. I-Psychotherapy yindlela enkulu yokufeza oku.
Yazi Ukungafani
Xoxa ngokungafani kwenkcubeko malunga nezihloko ezifana nenkolo, ukutya, ukuzala, ukukhetha abazali, intlungu, iimali, isondo, ubudlelwane beentsapho, ubudlelwane bezesini, iindlela zokunxibelelana kunye nezithethe.
Ukwahluka kobuhlanga nenkcubeko kumtshato wakho wobuhlanga akuyi kubangela ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lwenzeke. Yintoni enokubangela ukuba umtshato wobuhlanga udibanise ukungabikho kweso sibini sokusingatha ukungafani kunye nokungaphumeleli ukuthetha ngokunyanzeliswa nokubandlululwa kwabanye.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ezinye iingcebiso kunye nomntu wesithathu zinokukunceda ukuba usityele ezinye zezixhala, ngeendlela zonke, ufune i-couples counseling licens. Kungenzeka nokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane umntu ogqwesileyo kwizibini zesini.