Nokuba Njani Nokuba Ngomnye wabo
Ulonwaba luyinto eneminyaka engama-ubudala ubudala. Cishe bonke abantu bafuna abantu abanolonwabo, okulungileyo, kuba abantu abonwabileyo bangcono, ngenxa yezizathu ezicacileyo nezizenzekelayo. Kucacile ukuba, kulungile ukuvuya. Kodwa, abantu abajongeyo, abanolwazi banomdla wokuncedwa ngabantu abangonwabileyo, kwaye, ngenxa yophando oluvela kwintsimi yesimo sengqondo esicacileyo , sisazi ngakumbi malunga nokunye okungafaniyo.
Enye into, bathambekele ekunandipha impumelelo ebomini. Usenokucinga ukuba ulonwabo kunye nempumelelo zihamba ngokulandelana ngenxa yokuba impumelelo ibangela uvuyo, kungekho enye indlela. Abaphandi uJulia Boehm noSonja Lyubomirsky kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia eMfuleni waseCroatia bacinga ngale nto, nabo. Ukubona ukuba abantu abonwabileyo bafuna ukufumana imali ethe xaxa, babonise ukusebenza okugqwesileyo, bancede abanye ngokuphindaphindiweyo, bazimisele ukuvavanya iingcamango zokuba ulonwabo lubangela impumelelo, kwaye ufumene ulonwabo ludibene nenene (kwaye lilandele) iziphumo ezinempumelelo ezibandakanya umvuzo ophezulu kunye nokusebenza okukhulu, kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezihamba kunye nempumelelo, njengokunceda abanye. Uphando lwabo lufumene ukuba ubudlelwane buhamba ngezindlela zombini: Impumelelo ivelisa ulonwabo, kodwa ngokwenene uvuyo ivelisa impumelelo, nayo.
Enye inzuzo yokuba abantu abonwabileyo babelana ngempilo enhle . Izifundo ziye zafumanisa ukuba abantu abonwabileyo banamazinga aphantsi e- cortisol ematheni abo, uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphantsi, izinga lokunciphisa intliziyo emadodeni kumadoda, kunye nokunciphisa i-neuroendocrine, ukuvuvukala kunye nomsebenzi we-cardiovascular.
Konke oku kukhokelela kwimpilo enkulu, nto leyo into enokuyonwaba ngayo.
Abantu Abonwabileyo Abanayo Ngokuqhelekileyo
Ngoko, yintoni eyenza abantu abonwabileyo, kakuhle, abantu abonwabileyo? Kubonakala ngathi abantu abonwabileyo banokuba nezinto ezincinci. Abantu abonwabileyo bafunyaniswa njengentlalontle kwaye banalo ubudlelwane obunothando kunye nolwalamanye nabanye kunabantu abangathobeliyo.
Uphando luye lwafumana abantu abonwabileyo ukuba babe namandla, abagqibeleleyo, abaqilileyo, ezentlalo, abathembekileyo, abanothando, nabaphendulayo. Esikhundleni sokuxhamla ngokukodwa kwimimandla yangaphandle njengesimo sezentlalo, ubulili okanye ubudala, ulonwabo luhambelana ngokubambisana nokuba nombono wefilosofi ngobomi, kusetyenziswa ukuhleka nokuhleka , ukukwazi ukuxhamla nabanye, ukufumana iingxaki zokuxazulula iingxaki, ezibandakanyekayo ukuphishekela nokuzilibazisa, ukuhlala kwindawo enhle , nokugcina impilo efanelekileyo .
Uphando oluthile lwezengqondo lukhanyisa imisebenzi ethile eyenza iinjongo zolonwabo. Eyenziwa rhoqo, le mi sebenzi inokukhokelela abantu abanomxholo ophantsi "lonwabo". Le mi sebenzi ibandakanya ukuzonwabisa, i-gratifications, kunye nokuhamba.
Iimfihlelo zokuvuyela
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuzonwabisa. Ezinye zikhawuleza kwaye zizisa iimvakalelo ezikhawulezayo, kwaye abanye bathatha ixesha elongezelelweyo baze bazise iimvakalelo ezihlala zihlala ziphindaphindiweyo. Ezi zixhobo zilandelayo zizisa izicwangciso eziliqela ezivela kwiindidi zombini, ezinokukunceda ukuba ube kunye nabantu abonwabileyo behlabathi.
- Iinqweno ezinqabileyo : Nazi ezinye iinkqubo ezikhawulezayo ezinokukunceda uzive uqhutywe ulonwabo ngokukhawuleza ngoku.
- Indlela Yokuvuyela : Nazi ezinye iindlela ezide zokufumana ulonwabo ebomini bakho.
- Ngaba Ukuphila Kwenu Kukuvuyisa? Ngenxa yokuba wenza konke okulungileyo, akuthethi ukuba kukuvuyisa. Thatha le mibuzo ukuze ufumane ukuba indlela ohlala ngayo ngokwenene isebenzisana neenzame zakho zokuzonwabisa.
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