Abantu abajongene noxinzelelo lwentlalo (SAD) bahlala bejamelana nemicimbi yezwi.
Abantu abane-SAD bavame ukusebenzisa ilizwi elithulekileyo nelingenamandla kwaye lingabonakala. Uxinzelelo olubangelwa ukuxhalaba kwentlalo ngokuqhelekileyo luba yinto echaphazelekayo, kuba oku kunokuphazamisa ukubonisa igama lakho elihle.
Ingaba okanye akunjalo, ukuba nezwi elibuthathaka lichaphazela indlela abanye abantu abakubheka ngayo.
Izwi lakho libeka uhlobo lolwalamano olufunayo ukuba nolunye nomntu-nokuba luhlobo lomhlobo kunye nokwamkela okanye ukuma.
Ngokudla kaninzi kunokuba, abo abaneengxaki zentlalo yoluntu banika ingqiqo ngezwi labo abafuna ukushiywa yedwa.
Ngelixa ilizwi lakho liye lathonyelwa ngubungakanani bentambo yezwi, kunokwenzeka ukuphucula imiba eyahlukeneyo yezwi lakho ukudala impembelo enhle xa uthetha.
Ngamafutshane, umnqweno wakho kufuneka ube ukuphucula indlela engcono kakhulu yelizwi lakho: enye
- mnandi
- zifudumele
- yinyani kubuntu bakho
- amandla angaphandle
- zivakala lula ngabanye
- zityebi kwaye zihluka
- icacile kwaye ichazwe
Ukuba ukuzithemba kwakho kuphantsi kangangokuthi ungacingi ukuba unelungelo lokuba nelizwi elikhulu, elipheleleyo, elityebileyo, cinga ngale ndlela. Ukuphuhlisa ilizwi lakho elihle kakhulu kunceda abanye njengoko kwenza kube lula ukuba baxoxe nawe.
Hlaziya iLizwi lakho
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekuphuculeni ilizwi lakho kukuhlalutya apho kungabikho khona ngenxa yokuxhalaba kwentlalo.
Unokugqiba le nyathelo ngokubhalisisa uncedo lomnye umntu, okanye ukudala i-audio okanye i-video yokurekhoda yakho xa uxoxa.
Ukuhlalutya lakho ilizwi, sebenzisa iprofayili yezwi efunyenwe ekupheleni kwencwadana ye-Toastmasters International. Hamba ngento nganye kwaye ulinganise ilizwi lakho kwizinga ukusuka ku-1 ukuya ku-7, apho 1 kukubi kakhulu kwaye i-7 iyona nto intle.
Amanqaku angama-4 okanye ngaphantsi abonisa indawo apho kufuneka kuphuculwe khona.
7 Iingxaki zokuthetha ngeengxaki
Xa usuzalise iprofayili yakho yegama uza kukwazi indawo ekufuneka uzinike ngayo ingqalelo yakho. Ngezantsi ezinye zeengxaki ezinokuthi uzifumene ukuba zinokudityaniswa ne-SAD.
1. I-Monotone: Uthetha kwinqanaba elincinci kakhulu, elingenza into oyithethayo ingathandeki.
2. Ukucima ukuthetha : Uthetha ngokuzithelekileyo, kwimeko apho abanye bakunzima ukukuva.
3. Ukubamba: Uhambisa umlomo wakho mncinci xa uthetha kwaye ungabhengezi amagama ngokucacileyo.
4. Ukunciphisa: Uthetha ngesantya esicothayo (amagama angaphantsi kwama-120 ngomzuzu), okubangela ukuba abaphulaphuli balahlekelwe ngumdla.
5. Ngokukhawuleza: Uthetha ngezinga eliphezulu kakhulu (ngaphezu kwamazwi angama-160 ngomzuzu), oko kunokukwenza ube neentloni kwaye uphazamise abaphulaphuli.
6. I-Low Low: Izwi elingagxininisekanga elibi kakhulu lingaba nzima kwabanye ukuba bakuve.
7. Ephakamileyo kakhulu: Izwi eliphakamileyo eligqithiseleyo okanye elivakalayo lingenza ube neentloni okanye umhlophe.
Iingcebiso zokuphucula ilizwi lakho
1. Ixeshana
Xa umile, yenza sengathi kukho umtya ocingayo okhwela phezulu phezulu kwentloko yakho. Xa uhleli, qiniseka ukuba awunakudluli.
Ukuhamba kakuhle kuvumela imiphunga yakho ukuba igcwalise kakuhle, enokuphucula umgangatho wezwi lakho.
2. Intlawulo yeNtetho
Izinga elifanelekileyo lokuthetha liphakathi kwama-120 no-160 amagama ngomzuzu.
Unokumisela izinga lokuthetha usebenzisa amanyathelo alandelayo alandelayo:
- Khetha iziqendu ezimbalwa kwiincwadi okanye kumagazini.
- Ukusebenzisa i-stopwatch, funda i-athikili ekhethiweyo okanye ibhuku ngomzuzu omnye kwizinga lakho lokuthetha eliqhelekileyo (abaninzi abantu bathetha ngezinga elifanayo apho bafunda khona).
- Maka uphawu apho ushaya khona umzuzu omnye. Emva koko, balinganise inani lamagama kude kube lelo nqaku.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uyathetha ngokukhawuleza (ukulinganisa amagama angama-160 / umzuzu), qhelanisa icandelo elifanayo uphinde uthathe imizuzwana emibili ukuthetha igama ngalinye.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ungumkhulumi othobekileyo (lingaphantsi kwamazwi angaphantsi kwama-120 / umzuzu), qhelanisa icandelo kwakhona ukulifunda ngokukhawuleza njengoko unako.
Ngaba le ndlela yokuqhuba isenzo rhoqo kwaye kufuneka ufumane ukuba izinga lakho lokuthetha liya kuphucula kancane.
3. Yenza Izwi Lakho Ngenqatha Yakho
Abantu abaneengxaki zokuxhalaba kwintlalo banokuthi banomphefumlo omkhulu kunye nemisipha yomhlathi.
Ukufunda indlela yokuphumla ezi ntlobo kuzenza kube lula ukuthetha ngezwi elimnandi, kunomnye ozwakalayo. Kulula ukwenza iprojekthi yakho xa uyihambisa phambili emqaleni wakho.
Ziqhelise ezi zifundo ezilandelayo zinconywa ngabaphathi beeTrasti ngamanye amaxesha ngosuku malunga nemizuzu embalwa ngalunye:
- Gxuma ubeke umhlathi wakho kude kube kuhamba. Hum ngomlomo wakho uvaliwe kwaye umhlathi wakho ukhululekile.
- Ngomphetho okhululekile, phinda amagama athi "xhoma, ulimele, lane, lugxininise, luthande."
- Ukuhlamba imisipha yakho yomqala ukuba ulahle ukuqina.
- Phinda izandi ezifana "noh, no, nee, no, noo." Phinda uphonsa umhlathi wakho kwaye uphumule umqala wakho.
Njengoko usebenzisa le mizobo, qaphela indlela umqala wakho kunye nomhlathi wakho uziva ngayo ekuqaleni kunye nendlela abahamba ngayo ngokukhawuleza.
Unokuphinda uqhube umphunga wokuphuza umphunga ngokubala ngexesha ugcina umqala wakho nomhlathi ukhululekile. Yenza oku ngelixa ulele phantsi, ngoko uhleli phantsi, ekugqibeleni uhleli. Injongo yakho kufuneka ibe ekugqibeleni ukubala kwi-100 kunye nayo yonke imisipha ikhululekile kwaye ithathe umoya omtsha emva kwemizuzu emihlanu.
4. Ukuphefumla kwiSilathisi
Xa uthetha, kufuneka uzive ngathi ukuphefumula kwakho kungena kwisisu sakho, kunokuba ususwe phantsi komqala wakho. Ukuphefumula ngokufanelekileyo kuthetha ukuvusa isisu sakho xa ukhula, kwaye uwa xa uphuma.
Ilizwi elivela kwisithintelo liyalathwala ingqwalasela kwaye livakalise ngakumbi.
Ezi zilandelayo ziyimimiselo yokuzivocavoca ukuba ube ngcono xa usebenzisa i-diaphragm xa uphefumula:
- Gcwalisa ukuphefumula: Exhale ade uvumele ukuphefumula kokugqibela. Oku kuya kukunyanzela ukuba wenze inzululwazi epheleleyo.
- Ukubamba umoya wakho: Gcina umoya wakho ngokubala kwe-15, 20, 30, 45, kunye nemizuzwana engama-60 (usebenze ngokuthe ngcembe kwindlela yakho) ukuqinisa isithwathwa sakho.
- Imilomo evaliweyo ihleka: Vala imilomo yakho uhlekise ngepumphu yakho. Oku kuya kukwenzakala ukubandakanya isikhalazo sakho.
- I-Yoga igoba: Bhonqa ngaphaya kwinquma yakho kwaye uxhomeke ukuba ukhululeke emoyeni.
- Ukubalwa kweengxubusho: Exhale ukuya kuba-5 ukuya kwe-10.
5. Vary Your Pitch
Ilizwi lakho kufuneka liveze imvakalelo kunye nokukholelwa kunokuba ifikelele njenge-monotone. Abantu abaneengxaki zokuxhalaba kweentlalo badla ukusebenzisa imida emincinci yemigca xa bethetha, kuba baziva bekhuselekile kwaye bengakhululeki.
Ukuziqhelanisa kuyahlukahluka kumdlalo wakho ngokufunda ngokuvakalayo kwincwadi okanye kumaphephancwadi kwaye uguqule umgama wamagama ahlukeneyo nezivakalisi, okwenza ukuba bavuke okanye bawa.
Unako ukwandisa uluhlu lwelizwi lakho. Okokuqala, cwangcisa uluhlu lwakho ngokucula kunye kunye namanqaku epilano (okwenene okanye ye-intanethi iya kusebenza). Fumana amanqaku aphantsi kwaye aphezulu kakhulu ongayicula. Emva koko, sebenzela ukuzama ukwandisa umgca wakho ngokwenza amanqaku aphantsi naphakamileyo ngosuku ngalunye.
6. Ukusetyenziswa
Abantu ngabanye abane-SAD banokuthi bangabonakali njengendlela yokuphepha ekuboneni. Ukudibanisa kufana nokuthetha nento phambi komlomo wakho-ukuphazamisa nokuphazamisa abaphulaphuli.
Ukucacisa amagama akho kuqala ngokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uqaphele xa uthetha. Xa uthetha, yenza iphuzu lokuvula umlomo wakho kwaye usebenzise uluhlu olupheleleyo lwezandla zomlomo wakho.
Unokwenza ezinye iindlela ngomlomo wakho, njengokwenza umbhobho kunye nokwandisa imilomo yakho, amaxesha amancinci ama-10 kwaye ngokukhawuleza amaxesha angama-10.
7. Umqulu
Abantu abanengxaki yokuxhalaba kwintlalo badla ukuthetha bathule, okubangela ukuba babonakale bengabonakali okanye babangabikho phantsi kwintetho. Okumangalisa kukuba, njengoko uqala ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza, usenokufumana ukuba ukuzithemba kwakho kukhula kwaye uxinzelelo luyancipha.
- Yenza umthamo ukwandisa umthamo wezwi lakho ngokucula ingoma "ah," kwaye ukwandisa ngokukhawuleza de ukutsala ixabiso lakho. Yenza oku rhoqo usebenzise ukukwazi kwakho ukuthetha ngokukhulu.
- Ziqhelanise ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza ngokuthetha nomntu onecala kwigumbi. Oku kusebenza ngokukodwa ukuba kukho abanye abakhona kwaye kufuneka uthethe ngokukhawuleza ukuze kuvezwe.
Ukongeza kokuthetha ngokukhawuleza okwaneleyo ukuba kuvelelwe, kubalulekile ukuba uguqule umthamo wezwi lakho ukugxininisa. Ziqhelanisa ngokufunda icandelo lokubhaliweyo kwaye uguqule umthamo wezwi lakho ukugxininisa amagama abalulekileyo.
8. Gxininisa ukuhanjiswa
Xa wenza intetho encinci , gxininisa ngakumbi ekunikezeni kwakho kwaye ungakhathazeki kangako malunga nomxholo wento othetha ngayo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthethe ngelizwi elizwakalayo nelisicacileyo kunokuba ube nezinto ezintle ukuthetha-kuba emva koko, intetho encinci malunga nokwakha ubudlelwane .
9. Fumana Uncedo lwezakhono
Ukuba uye wazama kwaye wahluleka ukuphucula ukuhanjiswa kwezwi lakho, kunokufanelekile ukubhalisa uncedo lochwepheshe.
Ungabhalisela ukucula okanye ukuqhuba izifundo, nokuba usebenze kunye nomqeqeshi wezwi langasese. Kungathatha iyure kuphela ukuphuhlisa ilizwi lakho elihle-kunye neendlela ezininzi zokuqinisekisa ukuba ziyafakwa ngaphakathi.
Uphando ngezwi kunye ne-SAD
Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2014 lufumene ukuba kwimeko yokulinga eyenza abantu abane-SAD bazive bengabandakanywa, koko babonisa ukwehla kokuzithemba kwegama, ngokungafani nalabo abangenayo i-SAD.
Ngoko ke, ukuba unesixilongo sokugula ngengxaki yentlalo, qwa lasela indlela oziphendulela ngayo. Ngaba ulahla kwindawo ephantsi xa uzivakalelwa? Ukuba kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uhlale uqaphele ukuba uqaphele ukutyekela kwaye udwebe kwizakhono ezintsha ozifundileyo xa uxinzelelo lwakho lubangelwa.
> Imithombo:
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> Preston Ni. Indlela yokuqinisa nokuphucula isandi sezwi lakho lokuthetha.
> I-Social Adxiety Institute. Yintoni eqhubekayo kwiQela leeveki ezi-3.
> Abaphathi beeTastor International. Izwi lakho lokuthetha.