Enye into ecelomngeni yoxinzelelo kukuba iyakwazi ukunyamezela: imisebenzi enokunyamezela ngokunyamezelayo inokuvakalelwa kakhulu xa ufumana uxinzelelo oluninzi kwezinye iindawo. Ngethamsanqa, kunyaniseka ukuba iincinci ezincinci zokuxinwa kwengcinezelo zingabuthelela, kwaye ziyakongeza ukunyuka kwamandla. Enye inselele inzima abantu abaninzi abajongene nayo xa becinezelekile kwaye bexakekile, nangona kunjalo, kukuba baziva bengenalo ixesha okanye amandla okuqhuba ezinye zezinto ezixhasayo zokuxininisa nokukhuthazeka xa zifuna kakhulu.
Umzekelo, ukuzivocavoca ngumsebenzi okhuselekileyo wokuxininisa, kwaye unokukwazi ukwakha amandla ngexesha elide, kodwa abantu abaninzi bakuthola kunzima ukujongana nokutya xa sele bephelile. Ukucamngca kungenza umsebenzi othobisayo owenzela ukomeleza, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlala ngokuthula kunokubonakala kukukhulisa iingcamango ezicinezelayo. (Kukho iindlela ezijikeleze zombini wale micimbi, kodwa abantu abaninzi bakuthola kulula ukuyeka.)
Yingakho iindaba ezilungileyo kakhulu ukuba ukunyuka kwenjabulo kunokukhokelela ekuqinisekiseni ukunyamezela. Zininzi zezinto ezinokuphakamisa iimvakalelo zethu-ukudlala kunye nesilwanyana, ukubukela ividiyo ehlekisayo , okanye ukutya i-tsholetele, umzekelo-uyakhawuleza kwaye kulula ukuyifumana kumhla womntu. Ukuluncedo kula mava unokwandisa kwiintlobo oza kuba nazo. Funda ukuze ufumene indlela oku kusebenza ngayo, kwaye ke ndiza kubelana nawe ngeendlela ezininzi zokuphakamisa isimo sakho sengqondo.
Iingcali zengqondo uGarbara Fredrickson, ngokusebenzisa into eyaziwa ngokuba yinkcazo ebanzi kunye nokwakha imvakalelo ephawulekileyo uye waba nguvulindlela kwiphondo lokufunda eliye lafumanisa ukuba iimvakalelo ezintle ezifana nokuvuya, ukwaneliseka, okanye ukuxabisa zithatha izibonelelo ezizimeleyo nezihlala zihlala. Izimo zengqondo ephakamileyo (okanye ulonwabo olwandisiweyo) nokwandisa imbonakalo yomntu kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezizeleyo zibandakanya izixhobo zobuntu ezihlala zihlala ziquka ukucinga, ukuzinza, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, kunye nokuphucula impilo emzimbeni kunye namazinga aphantsi okudandatheka kunye namazinga aphezulu ukuba ukwaneliseka kobomi.
Ukufumana Inzuzo Yolonwabo
Yonke into enxulumene nokulawula uxinzelelo? Eli sebe lophando lubonisa indlela uzonwaba kunye nokuxinwa kwengcinezelo ezixhunyiwe: ukwenza izinto ezincinci ukuphakamisa indlela ovakalelwa ngayo kunokuba nefuthe elingapheliyo ekuqinisekeleni kwakho ukunyamezela. Njalo xa wenza into enhle kuwe, uthatha inyathelo lokuziva unxinezelekile ngoku kunye nakwixesha elizayo, kwaye ujonge ezinye iintlawulo! Nantsi enye into eyenziwa nguphando kulo mmandla.
- Iimpawu ezintle zikhokelela kwizixhobo ezikhulayo : Izifundo eziliqela ziye zafumanisa ukuba iimvakalelo ezintle zidala amathuba okudala izixhobo zokuxhasa uxhulumano loluntu, kwaye wandise amandla akho okulawula uxinzelelo. Nangona iimeko zengqondo ezimbi zingakhokelela ekuboneni "umbono we-tunnel" apho abantu bagxininisa kakhulu kwizinto ezimbi abalahlekelwa ngamathuba ebomini babo, abantu abafumana ulonwabo banakho ukuzakhela izixhobo zabo ezixhamene nokuzinzileyo ekuxinezelekeni, kuquka ukuzinza , izixhobo ezinxulumene nabantu abafana nabahlobo abancedisayo, kunye nezibonelelo ezibonakalayo ezinjengeemeko zemali ezikhuselekileyo. Olu konyuka kwizinto ezikhokelela kukhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezininzi ezihlala rhoqo, kunye nokunyuka okuphezulu kudala, okukhokelela kwiintlobo zempilo, ulonwabo kunye nokwaneliseka komphefumlo.
- Ezi zixhobo ziNinzi : Ukufundwa kwabafundi abangama-99 beekholeji kwimizuzu eyadlulileyo kwaye banike izifundo ibhetri yeempawu zobuntu kunye nemibuzo efunyenwe ukuba isimo sengqondo esilungileyo sichaza imithombo eninzi ekujonganeni nokuqina (njengoko kuboniswe yiGPA ephezulu kunye nezinye iziphumo), ngaphezulu ubudlelwane obuphezulu, impilo engcono kunye nokuqina okukhulu. Abo baneemvakalelo ezininzi ezibangelwa phantsi kule mimandla.
- Isimo esifanelekileyo sinokukunceda ukuphucula impilo yengqondo : olunye uphando lufumanise ukuba ukwanda kwimizwa enhle (eyaziwa ngokuba " yempembelelo enokuthi ") inokuchasana nesimo esinovuyo okanye esinoyikisayo esichaphazelekayo njengengxaki yokukhathazeka njengalezo ezibandakanya ukuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka, okanye i-schizophrenia. : Ukuba uhlangabezana nalezi ngxaki, kubalulekile ukuba usebenze kunye nomgqirha wakho okanye uthethe ugqirha wakho; oku akutsho ukuthatha indawo yeengcebiso zengcali, kodwa ukongeza.)
- Ngaphantsi: Ekugqibeleni, ukuhlaziywa kweencwadi-uphando lwezifundo ezininzi -fumanisa ukuba ukucinga kakuhle kunye nokucinga okulungileyo kukunyusa amandla omntu wokulawula uxinzelelo kwiindlela eziphilileyo, ezikhokelela kwiziphumo zempilo eziphuculweyo ezifana nokukhuselwa komzimba kunye nokuphila ixesha elide, kunye iindlela zokuphila eziphuculweyo ezifana nokuneliseka komsebenzi .
Ngoko umntu onenkxalabo kunye noxakekile angasebenzisa njani imizwa emihle kwishedyuli ephakamileyo, unokuzibuza? Kukho amaqhinga amaninzi asebenzayo, kwaye imisebenzi oyaziyo yenza ujabule (kunye nemiphumo emibi, yeyona nto) indawo enokuqala.
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