Nangona kuninzi kunoyolo kunokungabikho kokuxinezeleka, kukho ubudlelwane phakathi kwemisebenzi yokuxinwa kwengcinezelo nolonwabo. Uvulindlela onokwenzululwazi wezeplastiki uMartin Seligman uphando kwaye wabhala ngokubanzi "ngovuyo oluchanileyo", oluququzelelwe kwaye luphuculwe yizo zonke izinto onokuziqonda kakuhle ukuba umphefumlo: ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, umsebenzi onzima kunye nenjongo ebomini.
UDkt. Michael Frisch, uprofesa waseYunivesithi waseBralor kunye nomnye uvulindlela kwindawo yesimo sengqondo esicacileyo , ufumene iinkalo ezili-16 zobomi obangela ukuba ulonwabo lube ngumntu, kwaye ukwaneliseka okwenziwe kule mimandla kunokunceda ukulinganisa inqanaba lomntu lonwabo nobomi ukwaneliseka. Okuthakazelisayo kukuba, ezininzi izinto ezenza ulonwabo zizinto ezinciphisa uxinzelelo, njengokuzivocavoca, ukubonisa ubuchule , ukugcina ubuhlobo obuxhasayo, ukugcina ikhaya elihlelekile, nokuzonwabisa ngomsebenzi wakho.
Xa uxinzelelekile uxinzelelo, ngokuqhelekileyo ukuphelisa iingcinezelo ezikufuphi kubaluleke kakhulu engqondweni yakho; Nangona kunjalo, ukulandela inkqubo yokuncedisa uxinzelelo olubandakanya imisebenzi eyaziwayo ukwandisa ulonwabo jikelele kunokunika uxolo loxinzelelo lwexesha elifutshane, kunye nokufumana ubomi obonwabileyo ngonaphakade. Yaye xa uthe wabandakanyeka ebomini bakho imeko ebanzi yolonwabo kwaye wenze umkhwa iimpawu zokuphila ezikukhuthazayo, uya kuba ngcono ukuhamba noxinzelelo lwexesha elizayo ebomini bakho.
Indlela Yokudala Unwabe Oluninzi KuBomi Bakho
Oku kuluhlu lweempawu ezili-16 ezahlukileyo ezikhuthaza ulonwabo, kunye nezibonelelo ezivela kule ndawo kunye nabanye abangakunceda ukuba ufake le miba ebomini bakho, ukhulule uxinzelelo ngexesha elinye!
- Impilo : Gcina impilo yakho, kwaye ulondoloza ulonwabo lwakho. Imiba yezempilo ingabangela uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo kwaye ingenza kube nzima kuwe ukwenza ezinye zezinto ezikuvuyisa ulonwabo kunye noxinzelelo lwengcinezelo.
- Ukuzimelela : Ukuziva ulungile malunga nokuba ungubani nje kungeyona nto echaphazelekayo-esiyikhathazayo malunga nezingane zethu; Kubalulekile ukuba uthande umntu okhoyo ngoku. Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kubonakala kuthintela ezininzi iinkalo zobomi bakho.
- Iinjongo , iMilinganiselo kunye nobomi bokomoya : Ezi zinto zintathu ezahlukeneyo, kodwa zenza uluhlu olubalulekileyo olubandakanya ukugxininiswa kwangaphakathi kwizinto eziphambili kunokuba ungubani ngoku. Zizo zonke izinto ezizisa intsingiselo ebomini bakho, kwaye oku kuhlangene ngokusondeza kwintlalo yakho.
- Imali : Kuyinyani ukuba, ngaphaya kombono othile, imali engakumbi ayiyikuvuyisa ngakumbi. Kananjalo kunjalo, ukuba imali encinci ingabangela uxinzelelo kunye nemingeni yolonwabo lwakho. Ukuba nemali eyaneleyo yokuphila ngokukhululekile kubalulekile.
- Umsebenzi : Ukuba nomsebenzi owufezekileyo ulungile. Umsebenzi ongeke uwenze ube buhlungu kukuba kufuneka.
- Dlala : Ixesha lokuzonwabisa, ukuzonwabisa, ukuyeka -bonke kubalulekile ukuzonwabisa lwakho kunye neengcinezelo. Awudingi ukudlala lonke ixesha, kodwa ufuna ngokwenene ixesha lokuzonwabisa xa ubomi bakho.
- Ukufunda: Ukuthatha izakhono ezintsha kunye nokukhula njengoko umntu ebandakanya ukuxhaswa , kwaye unokukunika izixhobo ezininzi ebomini bakho-zombini uxinzelelo kunye nolonwabo.
- Ubuqili : Kwakunjalo ukubonisa ubuchule bakho. Enyanisweni, imisebenzi yobugcisa ebonisa ubugcisa ibonakaliswe ukuba yinto enhle kwimpilo nolonwabo lwabo abazicingela ukuba bangabonakaliyo.
- Ukunceda : Kubonakala ukuba thina ngabantu ngokwenene sithanda ukubanceda abanye, kwizinga elinye okanye kwelinye. Ukufumana iindlela zokusebenzisa i-altruism yakho kunokugcina unoyolo kwaye uncinci.
- Uthando : Le nto yinto engekho-brainer, kodwa ukuba nothando ebomini bakho kukuhle ukuzigcina uvakale.
- Abahlobo : Ukugcina isangqa esixhasayo, nokuba loo ngqangi ingancinci, inokukunceda uzive unonwaba malunga nayo yonke indawo yobomi kwaye unokubonelela ngokuxhomekeke ekuxinzeleleni.
- Abantwana: Abantwana bazisa intsingiselo ebomini bethu, kunye neentloni ezininzi kunye nesisu sihleka.
- Izihlobo : Ngaphandle kokuba uvela kwiintsapho ezinomdla kakhulu, ukuhlala kufuphi nezihlobo kunokugcina ubomi bakho buhle, buxhasayo kwaye bunentsingiselo. Ukufumana iindlela ezincinci zokuxubusha kunye nosapho lwakho kubalulekile ukugcina izinto ezingenasidlangalaleni, nangona kunjalo.
- Ekhaya : Ukugcina ikhaya elisebenza njengendawo yokubandezeleka kubalulekile ekupheleni kosuku.
- Ummelwane : Ukuhlala kwindawo esondeleyo kunye nenkxaso, okanye ubuncinane into engabandakanyekiyo okanye ingozi, inokubangela ulonwabo kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo ngokunikela ngenkxaso kunye noxhumano.
- Uluntu : Ukuba yinxalenye yoluntu, nokuba luyindawo yoluntu njengendawo ohlala kuyo okanye uluntu lwabahlobo ngokusekelwe kwiimbono zokomoya ezabelwana ngazo, iinjongo zobomi okanye izinto ezifanayo.
Umthombo:
Frisch MB, Clark MP, Rouse SV, Rudd MD, Paweleck JK, Greenstone A, Kopplin DA. Ubungqina bokuqhelanisa nokunyangwa kobomi bokhuseleko kunye nomgangatho wobutyebi bokuphila. Uvavanyo , Matshi 2005.