Amanyathelo angama-12 e-AA ne-Al-Anon
Isihluthulelo kwiNyathelo ye-6 ukuvuma-ukwamukela iimpembelelo zemibala ngokuchanekileyo kunye nokuzimisela ukuba zihambe.
Inyathelo 6: " Ngaba wayekulungele ngokupheleleyo ukuba uThixo asuse zonke ezi mpazamo zomntu."
Emva kokubona iimpazamo kunye nokuvuma kubo ngokuSebenza iiNqanaba 4 no-5, isinyathelo esilandelayo sinyanzela amalungu amacandelo okubuyisela amanyathelo a-12 ukuba azibuze ukuba ngaba ngokwenene bazimisele ukuyeka ezinye zeziphene.
Emva koko, abanye babo baye bahlala kude kangaka, bafana nabahlobo bamandulo. Baye bekhululekile.
Kodwa ukuba amanyathelo angaphambili ayenziwe ngokucokisekileyo nangokunyanisekileyo, amaxesha amaninzi ejongene nenyaniso anokuvelisa umlinganiselo wecala, okhuthaza kakhulu ukuba "ulungele ngokupheleleyo" ukuba ezo ziphoso zisuswe. Njengamanqanaba onke, ukukwazi ukulungela kuvela kumandla aphezulu, amandla amakhulu kunakho.
Isinyathelo 6 sichaphazela njani utywala
Ingcamango esemva kwesi sigaba se-12-step-recovery-steps 4 ukuya ku-7-kukujongana neminye imiba yabantu, ukungaphumeleli kunye neziphoso ezingumntu onokuba yinto ebalulekileyo kwisigqibo sakho sokuqala ukusela.
Ukuba uyeka ukusela kwaye ungayilungisi ezinye zezinye iimeko, zinokubangela ukuba ungene kwiimeko ezinokubangela ukuba uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphuze . Ngokomzekelo, ukuba indlela obonisa ngayo umsindo okanye indlela ophethe ngayo ukugatywa yinkathazo kwabanye abantu abakujikelezile, unokuphelisa ulwalamano lwakho kwaye oko kunokukwenza ukuba uphinde uphinde uphuze.
Ukongezelela, ukuba uyeka ukusela "kuphela" kwaye awuyikujongana neminye imiba yakho, unokugqiba oko abanye bathi " utywala obunxile ," kwaye uphelile unomsindo kwaye unomsindo. Kwimeko apho, unokuba lukhuni, kodwa ungonwabi kakhulu.
Kulula Ukuphinda Ukukhupha Abadala
Kukho ilizwi elizungeze amagumbi angama-12 anokwenza ukuba umlingo wehashe uphuze, kodwa usenayo isela.
Okanye omnye, "ungathabatha i-rum ngaphandle kwesiqhamo, kodwa usenaso isiqhamo." Oko kuthetha ukuthini, ukuba konke okwenzayo ukuyeka ukusela kwaye ungatshintshi ezinye zezinye iindlela zokuziphatha, ngoko kuya kuba lula ukuhlawula kwimikhwa yakho emidala, kuquka ukuya kwibhardi ukuze ugxobhe iintlungu zakho.
Yingakho Amanyathelo 4 ukuya ku-7 aphakathi kwamanyathelo a-12. Ukuba awuvumeli ukuba unamaphutha kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okulungisa loo miba, ke ukuvuselela ngokomoya akunakuze kwenzeke. Konke malunga nokunyaniseka kunye nawe kunye nabo bajikelezayo.
Ukuchonga iimpazamo zakho nokuzivuma akusiyo isiphelo senkqubo. Ukuba "ukulungele ngokupheleleyo" ukwenza into malunga nabo kuyisisombululo kwisisombululo.
Abanye ekubuyiseni baxelele oko amava abo ayenayo ngeNyathelo 6. Nazi ezinye zamabali abo:
Inyathelo 6: Ukuthobeka
Umsebenzi wesinyathelo 6 usebenza nje kumanyathelo amathandathu okuqala , uze uthobe. Oku akulula kubaninzi abanxilisayo. Ukusebenza kwamanyathelo amahlanu okuqala kubonakala kunzima ekuqaleni, kodwa bayakwazi ukwenza. Emva koko amanyathelo "athobekileyo" amanyathelo.
Ufumana njani uthobekileyo? Ukuba imiyalezo yamanyathelo amahlanu okuqala ayangena, ufumana ukuthobeka. Ukuba umyalezo ngandlela-thile uphumelele kuwe, buyela emva kwaye usebenze kwakhona, funda into oyenze ngayo, uze uzame le nyathelo kwakhona.
Ilungu elinye le-AA, uSox, lichaza indlela ayehlala ehlunguze ngayo abahlobo, intsapho, kunye nabaqeshi, kodwa ulungelelanise ukuziphatha kwakhe kwaye wachaza umntu olimele. Ekusebenzeni amanyathelo kunye nokwamkela uxanduva malunga nemiphumo yezenzo zakhe kunye nokushiya kwakhe ukuhlazeka nokuzisola. Waphendukela kumandla akhe aphezulu ngokuthandaza ngokuthobeka okukhulu ukuze asuse iimpazamo zakhe. Emva koko wayenokuthatha indlela eya kuhlenga ngokulungisa .