AmaMama asebenzayo: Fumana iNgxaki yokuxininisa oyifunayo!
Abamama abasebenza baxakeke kakhulu, kwaye baninzi bafumanisa ukuba ukungaqiniseki komzali, ngakumbi abantwana abangabantwana abancinci, kubangela uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo. Ngokomzekelo, ingozi yokuqeqeshwa kwamanzi okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo endleleni yokunakekelwa kwamasango kunakho ukukhupha usuku lonke (kubini umama nomntwana!) Ngokwexesha kunye noxinzelelo.
Ukuba umama osebenzayo uxinzelelekile kwaye ugxininisekile, unokuba ngumsebenzi ongaphantsi komsebenzi wakhe kwaye mhlawumbi ulungele iimpazamo ezidinga ukulungisa okanye ukuthanda ngakumbi ukufumana umlinganiselo wokuphucula umgangatho.
Ukuba umntwana wakhe uziva egxininisekile nangaphandle kweentlobo, kunokubakho ubuninzi beengxabano eziqhubekayo, uvakalelwa iimvakalelo kunye nobunzima emini. Ekugqibeleni, ukuphathwa kwengcinezelo kubamama kunye nezingane eziziva zixinezelekile, nazo.
Iingcebiso ezilandelayo zingancedisa ukuba basebenze umama balondoloze ucoceko kunye nokuxininisa uxolo kwimpilo yabo exakekileyo: (Jonga eli nqaku ukuba ungumama wokuhlala ekhaya.)
Cwangcisa phambili kwaye Ulungelelaniswe
Ukuzicwangcisa ubuchule obalulekileyo bokusebenza komama. Ukuba unako ukukulindela ingozi yokuqeqeshwa kwamanzi kwindlela yokunakekelwa kwamasango, umzekelo, kwaye ugcine utshintsho olongezelelweyo lweempahla kwiimoto zakho ngamaxesha onke, intaba-futshane iya kuba lula ukulungisa. Ukuba uceba kwangaphambili kwaye uhlaziye umzila wakho, akukho nto ixubushayo, ukulibala izinto, nokugxininisa njengoko uhamba ngosuku lwakho oluxakekileyo.
Setha imida
Abamama abasebenza badlala indima emininzi, kwaye bafuna ukwenza okusemandleni abo kubo bonke; Enyanisweni, iindima zomama, osebenza kunye kunye neqabane zifuna into engcono kakhulu.
Ngamanye amaxesha kukhokelela ekubeni ungeke ukwazi ukuthetha u-hayi ! Kuba umama osebenzayo ukuba abe ngowona mhle, nangona kunjalo, akafuni ukuba u-yee zicelo zonke. Enyanisweni, esithi "hayi" kwiimbopheleleko ezingabalulekanga kwimpumelelo yakhe kwaye intsapho yakhe yenza ukuba umzuzu osebenzayo uthi ewe kwizinto eziphila ebomini bakhe.
Jonga eli nqaku malunga nokucwangcisa izinto eziphambili kwaye ufunde indlela yokubeka imida ebusweni ngokulula.
Hlala uxhumeke
Nangona ukubeka imida kubalulekile, kubaluleke ngokufanayo kumama omsebenzi ukuba bahlale bedibene nabantwana babo, njengoko bangabokuqala ukubonisa. Abantwana abaziva benganakwa bavame ukwenza okunye, kwaye abasebenzela oomama abavakalelwa kukuba abanako ukunika ngokwaneleyo abantwana babo bavame ukuziva bexinekile kwaye banetyala, ngoko ke ukugcina uxhulumano olunzulu luzuzisa ngokwenene kwaye luyinto elula. Kwaye, ngenhlanhla, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo akufuneki kuthetha ukunika abantwana abangaphantsi. Ukuchitha ixesha ixesha elide kunye kunye nokwenza umsebenzi onandiphayo unokuba "indlela eninzi" yokuxhuma kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo ngexesha elifanayo. (Jonga eli nqaku malunga neengxaki zokuxinwa kwengcinezelo .) Ukuthi hayi kwezinye iindawo kunokukhulula ngeli xesha.
Zikhathalele
Njengoko usuvele uyayazi, ukuba awunako konke okusemandleni akho nangokwemvakalelo, awuyi kuqhuba ngokusemandleni akho emsebenzini okanye kunye nezingane zakho. Ukugcina uhlobo lwesigxina kunye nokugxilwa okufunekayo ukuze unikeze okusemandleni abo kubantwana bakho kunye nokusebenza, kubalulekile ukuba omama basebenze ukuba banakekele ngendlela abayinyamekela ngayo abantwana babo: ngokufumana ubuthongo obuninzi, ukutya okunempilo, kwaye ubuncinci "ixesha eliphantsi." Kwakhona kubalulekile ukufumana impendulo emihle (ukukhupha abantwana kunye ne-kudos evela emsebenzini) ukuphepha ukutshiswa.
Kungaba nzima ukulungelelanisa konke oku kumiselweyo kwishedyuli ekhoyo, kodwa ukuzinyamekela ngokufanelekileyo kuya kwenza ukuba omama basebenze bakwazi ukusebenza ngokubhekiselele kwimpilo yabo, ngoko ihlawulela ngokwenene ngeendlela ezininzi.
Zama ezi ndlela ezibalulekileyo zokuzinyamekela ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo.
Cela uncedo
Amama amaninzi asebenzayo abaqondi ukuba kukho abantu abaza kubancedana ukuba bacele. Iintsapho zihlala zithanda ukunyathela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuboleka isandla, ukuba zicelwe kuphela. Abamelwane kunye nabamelwane nabo banokuhlanganiswa, kwaye amanethiwekhi ancedisayo angenziwa. Kukho iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuqesha uncedo olungathengiyo ngezinto ezinje ezifana nokucoca okanye ukupheka, ukwenza indlela yokuphila yomama engasebenzi.
Kanti ukhetho lokunikezela umsebenzi emsebenzini luhlala lugqithwa. Ukuba unomama oxakekileyo osebenzayo, ukucela uncedo kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokwenza ubomi buncinci bube bunzima.
Gxininisa kwiCress Management
Xa bexinekile kwaye bexinezelekile, omama abasebenza bafumana ukuba banako ukuxhuma kunye nabantwana babo okanye bajolise emsebenzini, oku kunokukhokelela ekusebenziseni ngabantwana, iimpazamo zokuchitha ixesha emsebenzini, kunye nezinye izinto ezandisa ukhathazeka kwabamama abasebenza kunye zabo intsapho. Ngoko ke, ukuthatha isigxina ngokufanelekileyo ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba noxinzelelo olukhawulezayo lokuxininisa ngesandla, njengendlela yokuphefumula kunye neendlela zokumelana nokuphefumula (iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokujonga imeko esicinezelekileyo), kunye nezicwangciso zokulawula uxinzelelo lwexesha elide, njengendlela yokuzilolonga rhoqo okanye ukucamngca , ukuzonwabisa , okanye ukuxhasa isangqa sentlalo, kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo olubalulekileyo kumama abasebenza kunye neentsapho zabo.
Ukongezelela kule miqathango yokulawulwa kwengcinezelo kumama osebenzayo, kubalulekile (kwaye kaninzi kunqatshelwe) ukugcina ingcinezelo yabantwana engqondweni. Nangona abantwana abancinci banokuzuza kwiinkqubo zoxinzelelo zoxinzelelo ezifana nokuphefumula, ixesha lokuthula nomama, kunye nokuxuba. Ngenxa yokuba oomama nabantwana abancinci banamathelana, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kwintoni enye nomama.
Zama ukuxhaswa kwezibonelelo zoncedo.