Ndinokujamelana njani nomlingane wami we-ADHD? Unokuzifumana uzibuza lo mbuzo kwaye uzibuze indlela enokuthetha ngayo kunye nokusebenzisana nabanye bakho abalulekileyo. Nazi ezinye iinkxalabo kubantu ababudlelwane abaye bavakalisa:
- Uninzi lwexesha ndiziva ngathi ngumama wakhe.
- Ukususela ekubeni ufumene nge-ADHD, uyisebenzisa njengesizathu sokuziphatha kakubi.
- Yimfazwe yokumthatha ukuba athathe iyeza lakhe rhoqo. Kwaye xa eyenzayo, uzama ukwenza ukuba ndizive ngetyala ngako.
- Ndiyifunde kwi-ADHD ukuzama ukuqonda, kodwa ukunyaniseka kwempilo yemihla ngemihla kunzima.
- Ndizama ukuthatha yonke imithwalo yemfanelo, kodwa undigqoke.
- Ndingumculi kwaye ndifuna ixesha lokuba ndibonise oku, kodwa oko kuye kwaba yiphupha elingenakwenzeka. Uya kuhlala phantsi kwiphetshana yam, ngelixa ndiyidralela kuba andiyikuhlawula i-100% yengqalelo yam.
- Kananjalo unesondo eliphezulu kakhulu, kodwa ubulili bunzima kuba andinakuphumla.
- Ndivakalelwa kukuba umnakekeli wakhe onjani uthabatha kwi-romance.
- Akabonakali ukuba uyakhumbula ukuba undiphathe ngokuhlonela yonke imini. Ngokomzekelo, uhlala ethetha ngesondo kwaye undibambe kwiindawo endifuna ukuba akazange azenze.
- Ndifuna ukuba ndikwazi ukwabelana ngeemfihlo kunye naye ndingalindelanga ukuba zisasazwe.
Ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwakho
Ukuba ezi nkxalabo zifana neyakho, ziyazi ukuba awodwa wedwa. Amaqabane amaninzi abantu abadala be-ADHD bafumana iingxaki ezifanayo ezichazwe apha.
Ukuqonda ukuba iimpendulo ezingasebenzi, ezinengqondo, ezinengqondo, kunye nezingxamisekileyo zixhomekeke kwi-ADHD; yile nyathelo lokuqala ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane. Kodwa ukusebenzisa i-ADHD njengesizathu asinakunceda. Ukuba iqabane lakho liqhubeka lenza oku kwaye likhupha lonke uxanduva lokuziphatha kwayo kwaye lenqaba ukulandela ngokucwangcisa isicwangciso sonyango, izinto aziyi kufumana ngcono kuwe, iqabane lakho okanye ulwalamano lwakho.
Ukuba kunjalo, ngaba bobabini banokuhlala phantsi kunye nogqirha wakhe kwaye beza nesicwangciso sokujongana nezi ziphatha, ulwalamano lwakho lunokukhula kwaye ubuhlobo obusondeleyo ukuba ubuya kubuya buya kubuya. Kuthatha inzame kubalingani bobabini ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono.
Ukuphepha Umgibe Wabazali
Abalingani abaninzi abangengabo abakwa-ADHD baphela ngokuwa phantsi kwendima yabazali ngenkathi i-ADHD iqabane lithatha indima yomntwana oza kuxelelwa ukuba yenzeni kwaye kufuneka umntu ahlale esinyamekela. Nonke kufuneka nizame ukuphuma kule mi sebenzi. Kukulungele ukuthatha uxanduva lomsebenzi wakho umlingane ongekho kakuhle (umzekelo, mhlawumbi ulungele ukuhlawula iindleko kwaye ulungele ukupheka), kodwa qiniseka ukuba imisebenzi ejikeleze indlu iyahlukana ngokulinganayo ukuze ungazigqokanga.
UNxibelelwano luyimfuneko
Ukunxibelelana okuvulekile kukubalulekileyo. Ababini benu kufuneka bakwazi ukujongana neengxaki ngaphandle kokusola okanye ukumangalelwa. Zama ukukhetha ixesha xa nonke niziva nikhululekile kwaye ninovakalelo. Emva koko, kwimiba-yeyona nyaniso yenza uludwe lweengxakini kunye nolwahlu lwezicombululo. Ngokomzekelo, nonke niyakhathazeka ngobudlelwane bakho bezesondo . Uziva ukhathele-mhlawumbi ube nomsindo, nawe-kwaye ungazivumi xa usu "ngumama" kunye nomnakekeli onjalo kwaye ungumntwana ixesha elide.
Ndiyicinga ukuba awunomdla okanye uhlonishwa nokuba usibambe okanye uhluthiwe ngamanye amaxesha. Mhlawumbi uziva enqatshelwe ukuba nonke nihambe ixesha elide ngaphandle kocansi. Amachiza angamnceda ama-gropes angachukumanga, aphumele kwiimfihlelo zakho, kunye nokupheliswa komzimba. Umhla wobusuku obuqhelekileyo unokunceda ukubuyisela i-romance.
Ukuzikhupha ixesha
Thetha kunye neqabane lakho malunga nokubaluleka kokuba nexesha elilodwa . Ngaphandle kwayo, uya kuqala ukuziva utyhafile (ukuba awukho!) Kuye ngokukukhanyela ngeli xesha. Unqwenela ingqalelo yakho. Jongana nale ngokubeka rhoqo rhoqo ngeyodwa apho unako ukugxila omnye nomnye.
Yenza ishedyuli yansuku zonke apho uceba kule mihla kwaye unamathela kwisicwangciso. Ngaloo ndlela, ufumana ixesha elilodwa lusuku, kwaye ufumana ixesha eliqhelekileyo lokufumana ingqalelo engacatshangwanga kwenye inxalenye yosuku.
Musa ukulibala ukuhleka
Zama ukufumana ukuhleka kwezinto kwizinto kunye. Nithethelelane, kodwa niphinde niqhube phambili kunye nonke nenza utshintsho olulungileyo kulwalamano. Sebenzisana nogqirha okanye umcebisi weengqangi onolwazi kunye nolwazi malunga neendlela ze-ADHD ezinokuchaphazela ubudlelwane.
UkuFunda okongeziweyo:
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Umlingani wam Akabonakali Ekhuthazwa Utshintsho
Ubuhlobo kunye ne-ADHD
Ukufumana uMlingani Ofanelekileyo