UDkt Debbie Joffe Ellis Uthetha Ngomyeni Wakhe, uDkt Albert Ellis
U-Albert Ellis wayesoloko echazwa njengomnye wabalinganiswa obaluleke kakhulu kwixesha elidlulileyo. Wayengomnye wabasunguli bezonyango zengqondo yokuziphatha kwaye wavelisa indlela yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwi-psychotherapy ebizwa ngokuba yiRational Emotive Behavior Treatment, okanye i-REBT. Umfazi wakhe, uDkt. Debbie Joffe Ellis, uqhubeka nomsebenzi uDkt. Ellis washiya emva kokudlula kwakhe ngo-2007.
Safumana ithuba lokumbuza imibuzo malunga noDkt. Ellis, REBT, kunye nokuqhubeka kwakhe emsebenzini kule ndawo. Ngenxalenye yodliwano-ndlebe yethu, uthetha ngomyeni wakhe aze atye umfanekiso ocacileyo wendoda eyayinomdla wokuncedisa abanye kunye nokuphila ubomi ngokuzeleyo.
Uhlangana njani noAlbert kuqala?
Saqala ukudibana nomntu xa wa tyelela kwisixeko sam saseMelbourne, e-Australia.
Ndandifunda i-psychology kwiYunivesithi yaseMelbourne ngelo xesha ndava ukuba uya kutyelela iYunivesithi ukunikela iintetho kunye neendibano zocweyo. Ndaya kuyo nganye yeentetho zakhe.
Ndandivile ngaye ngaphambili, nangona kunjalo.
Umalume wam wayeyingcali yeengqondo. Ndandisoloko ndandwendwela ikhaya lakhe kubuntwaneni kunye neminyaka eyiminyaka ebushumi, kwaye ndiyakuvuyela kakhulu ukujonga ezinye zeencwadi zakhe. Ndandithanda ukufunda, kwaye umdla wam onokholo kwengqondo wawomelele. Wayeyithanda kakhulu umsebenzi ka-Albert Ellis kwaye wayenemibandela yakhe yeencwadi.
Ndikhumbula ngokugqithiseleyo ukujonga enye yeencwadi zakhe kwilayibrari yayo, ndiyakubona ngokucacileyo isikhombiso ngoku ngoku, esithi "Isizathu kunye neengqondo kwi-Psychotherapy". Ndandineminyaka engama-12 ubudala ngeli xesha kwaye ndingazange ndiyifundile ikhava yencwadi ukuyibekela! - kodwa amanye amazwi endiyifunde kule ncwadi yandihlaba umxhwele.
Kwiminyaka kamva ndaya kwiYunivesithi waza ndafunda i-Psychology yayiyi-Rational Emotive Behavior Treatment (REBT) indlela, (ebizwa ngokuba yi-RET ngelo xesha - "B" yongezwa ngo-1993), endibhenela kakhulu.
Ndiyithande ukuhlala kwayo yonke indawo kunye nobuntu, ubungqongqo kunye namandla, imfesane eyagxininisa ngokukhuthaza ukuthotyelwa ngokungenammiselo ebomini bethu, ukusebenza kwayo, iindlela kunye nobuchule. Kwaye kuyahambelana namaxabiso am nokhetho, kwaye ndazi ngokukhawuleza ukuba kuya kuba yintloko ephambili emsebenzini wam.
Andizange ndisazi ukuba ndineminyaka eyi-12, okanye xa ndandifundela indlela ethile emva kweminyaka, ukuba ndiyathanda kwaye nditshata nomsunguli kunye nomdali we-REBT!
U-Al sasidibana kwakhona malunga neminyaka eyi-15 kamva kwindibano yonyaka ye-American Psychological Association eyayibanjelwe eSan Francisco. Ubungane bethu obusondeleyo buqala ngaloo xesha, siza kufumana rhoqo ngeposi, kunye neefowuni, kwaye ndiza kumtyelela eNew York unyaka ngamnye. Ulwalamano lwethu lothando lwaqala iminyaka embalwa emva koko.
Yayiyiphi imbono yokuqala yoDkt. Ellis?
Ukuba wayenomfudumalo, othembekileyo, onokuthenjwa, ongenamsebenzi, onobuqili, onobuqili, onobubele, onyanisekileyo.
Wayenomdla kwimbono yabantu abathile ngokukhala, ngokusebenzisa ulwimi olumbala ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba avele ebonakalayo, ekhanda, kwaye echukumisayo.
Ndandicinga ukuba ezinye zeendlela zokubonakalisa zikhethwe nje ukuba zikuncede ukufumana iingongoma zakhe ngendlela ecacileyo kwaye engazikhunjulwayo, kwaye ayengabonakali ukuthambekela kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe.
Njengoko ndammazi, ukucinga kwam kuqala kwakubonakala kuchanileyo, kwaye ndandifumana ngakumbi iimpawu zakhe zobumnene, uthando, ukunakekela nokuzwela.
UDkt. Ellis wagcina ishedyuli esinqabileyo kwaye ifuna ixesha elide ebomini bakhe nakubhekene neengxaki ezithile zempilo. Ucinga ukuba wenzani unomdla onamandla kwaye uqhuba ukunceda abanye?
Umsebenzi wakhe wawungumsebenzi wakhe, umnqweno wakhe, kwaye waba nenjongo ebalulekileyo ebomini bakhe.
Wayexabisa ubomi, kwaye wayefuna ukuphila ubomi obunamandla kunye nokuxhamla kwimisebenzi eya kuphucula amava akhe kunye nabanye. Wayenomdla ngokunyamekela abanye, kwaye wayengengqiqo ngakumbi kuninzi malunga nokukhawuleza kokuphila ubomi, kwaye kubaluleke kangakanani ukuhlala ubomi ngokugcwele kunye nokunyamezeleka okukhulu. Ngokufumana iindlela zokuphumelela ngokubandezeleka kwakhe ukusukela ebuntwaneni ukuya phambili, kwaye ukuguqulela kwiingcamango kunye nezindlela zokunciphisa ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, indlela yakhe yanceda ngayo izigidi zabantu ziphila ubomi obubhetele. Wayeya kusikhumbuza ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo ubomi buqulethe ubunzima, kodwa ngokucinga ngendlela ephilileyo kunye nokutshintsha iingxaki ezinokutshintshwa nokwamkela ezo ezingenakuguqulwa - asiyi kudala ukubandezeleka okungadingekile, kwaye sinokuyandisa injabulo ebomini bethu.
Kwakukho ukuphuthuma ngaye ngamanye amaxesha, ukuqhubeka nokufikelela kubantu abaninzi kunokwenzeka ngokuqhubeka nokunikela iintetho kunye neendibano zocweyo, nangokubhala ezinye iincwadi ezafundisa i-REBT indlela. U-Al akathandi kakhulu ukuchitha ixesha. Wayekholelwa ukuba ngeenani ezikhulayo zabantu basebenzisa ixesha labo namandla ukudala ubomi obonwabisayo - naphezu kwanokubandakanya nayiphi na imingeni - kunye nokubanceda abanye ukuba benze njalo, ukuba kwiminyaka yoluntu iza kuba nempilo. Wafuna imigaqo ye-REBT ukuba ifundiswe ezikolweni ukuze abantu abaselula bafunde kwaye basebenzise imigaqo yayo. Wayeyimbonari kunye ne-ideistist, kwaye ungokoqobo. Waziva enelisekile kunye novuyo xa ebancedisa abanye kwaye wabona befunda ukuzinceda.
Kwada kwada kweeveki zokugqibela zobomi waqhubeka ebanceda abantu ababeza kumtyelela esibhedlele, kuquka namaqela abafundi abaza kumtyelela, kunye no-Al wabonisa imfesane kwaye wanikela uncedo kubasebenzi bezonyango ezahlukeneyo esibhedlele (apho wayephethwe ngumonde kunzima ukuphinda abuyele kwiimeko zakhe zonyango) xa weva malunga naziphi na iingxaki ezinzima. Akazange ancede nje abantu ngokuthetha kwakhe, kodwa nangokumisela imigaqo yakhe. Ndisoloko ndithi-wayenza oko wayekushumayela aze ashumayele oko wayesebenza.
Ngaba unememori eyintandokazi yomyeni wakho onokubelana ngayo?
Kunzima kum ukuba ukhethe kuphela omnye oza kubelana nawe apha! Zininzi iinkumbulo ezizithandayo. Zimbalwa zazo zi:
Ukufudumala nokuthanda kwakhe.
Omnye ngowokumomotheka kwakhe.
Umfanekiso we-Al unamathele ekuphulaphuleni umculo omhle weklasi.
Omnye ngowomnene wakhe wokuzinikela enomdla wam ngokutya okunomsocoko kunye nokukhuthazeka kwakhe ukuba atshintshe ukutya kwakhe kwaye adle ukutya okunempilo (ngaphambi kokuba ndiyenze oko - ukutya kwakhe kwidlo sasemini kwakudla ngokudla kwimizimba ye-microwave kunye nemifuno egciniweyo!) . Ndandithanda ukuzimisela kwakhe ukuguquguquka, ukucinga ngeziphakamiso zam kungakhathaliseki ukuba behluke kangakanani kwindlela yakhe yokutya ixesha elide, nokuzama ukwenza oko ndakucebisa.
Enye inkumbulo endiyithandayo yiyo yokucula iingoma kum.
Omnye ngowokusebenza kwincwadi yokubhala okanye inqaku, ekuxininiswe njengoko wayecinga-amehlo akhe ayejonge phezulu, ngamanye amaxesha ephuphayo kunye nakwezinye izihlandlo ngokubhekiselele kwindlela ebonisa ngayo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza wayeza kubhala iingcinga kumagama abhaliweyo.
NgoDkt Debbie Joffe Ellis
UDkt Debbie Joffe Ellis wazalelwa waza wakhulela eMelbourne, e-Australia. Kwiminyaka emininzi wayesebenza nomyeni wakhe, isazi senzululwazi eyaziwayo uDkt. Albert Ellis, enikeza iintetho kunye nokubonelela ngoqeqesho lwe-Ellis yokwelapha olubizwa ngokuba yi-Rational Emotive Behavior Treatment (REBT). Namhlanje, uyaqhubeka eqhuba, ekhoyo, kwaye ebhala ngo-Ellis ukuhlaselwa kwindlela yokwelapha.
Ngo-2010, wancedisa ukuzalisa imbali yomyeni wakhe ethi All Out: I-Autobiography! I-Treatment emotionally emotionally behavior , incwadi eyabhalisana nayo nomyeni wayo, yapapashwa ngo-2011. Ngoku usebenza ekugqibeleleni incwadi ayesebenze nayo nomyeni wakhe ngaphambi kokufa kwakhe ngo-2007 wagxila kwi-REBT nakwiBuddhism. Uyaqhubeka nokusebenza ngasese kwiSixeko saseNew York kunye nokunika iisemina, iiworkshops, kunye neentetho kuwo wonke umhlaba.
Unokufumana ulwazi oluthe xaxa kwiwebhusayithi yayo http://www.debbiejoffeellis.com nakwi-http: //www.ellisrebt.co.uk/
Ngolunye ulwazi
- I-Rational Emotive Treatment Practice : Incwadi eyaziwayo: I-Rational Emotive Treatment Treatment ngu-Albert Ellis noDebbie Joffe Ellis, Ipapashwe ngu-APA (i-American Psychological Association)
- Konke! - I-Autobiography , ngo-Albert Ellis, ngesahluko sokugqibela nguDebbie Joffe Ellis. Ifumaneka kwii-bookstores kunye ne-inthanethi kwi-www.prometheusbooks.com kunye nabanye abathengisi be-intanethi
- I-DVD: I- Rational Emotive Psychological Association (Ukukhishwa kweDVD ngomhla kaMatshi 17, 2014): Icandelo leeNkqubo zeeNgqungquthela zeeNgqondo ze-Psychotherapy. Kule DVD, uDebbie Joffe Ellis ubonisa indlela echaphazelayo kunye nefuthe le-REBT kwiseshoni kunye nomxhasi, elandelwa yingxoxo kunye nabaprofesa kunye nabafundi malunga ne-REBT indlela yokwelapha kunye neseshoni. Le vidiyo ijoliswe kuphela kwiinjongo zemfundo zabaqeqeshi bempilo yengqondo. Ukufumana ulwazi malunga neDVD kunye nokuthenga ukuya kwiwebhusayithi ye-APA: www.apa.org/pubs/videos
- Albert Ellis Biography
- Ziyintoni i-Rational Emotive Behavior Treatment?
- Ziyiphi i-Cognitive Treatment?