Amanyathelo okwenza uxolo oluthe xaxa.
Iziganeko zokusongela - njenge-2016 yokuhlaselwa kweNtshontsho yaseBastille e-Nice, ukuhlaselwa kuka-2015 eParis, ukuhlaselwa kwebhola lomqhubi we-Boston ka-2013, kunye nokuhlaselwa kwe-2001 9/11-ukwabelana ngenjongo efanayo: ukufaka ukwesaba, ukusisongela. Kwabo baxhomekeke ngqo (kunye nakwezinye iimeko, nakwezinye izinto ezingekho ngqo) ukudibanisa neziganeko ezidlulileyo, ukuzama ukucinga ngengqondo engacatshangwanga kunokuthatha umlinganiselo olinganiselayo.
Ukunyamekela okanye ukutshatyalaliswa kweziganeko ezibangelwa ngumonakalo kunokubangela ukuvuswa kweemifanekiso, iindlobongela kunye nokuziphatha okugwemayo ukuba ukuba ukuphikelela kunye nobunzima kungakhula ngokugqithiseleyo emva kokuphazamiseka kwengxaki yoxinzelelo .
Kodwa nangenxa yabo abangenayo impawu ezinxulumene noxinzelelo, ubunjani obungenakuthenjiswa kwaye obuyikrakra kwezi ziganeko kunokudala lula ukukhathazeka ngokukhuseleka kunye nokwesaba okukhulu kweentlekele ezizayo. Oku kuyimpendulo yendalo kunye neyona nto ingakumbi kubantu abanomdla wokukhathazeka oqhelekileyo abangenakho ukukhathazeka okungalawulekiyo.
Ukujamelana nexhala malunga nexesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo lesigebengu:
- Vumela ukuba uxhalabe luvelise ngokudala isicwangciso sokhuseleko. Khumbula, ukuxhalaba ngokwenene kuyimeko eguquguqukayo . Kulo mzekelo, kunokuba luncedo xa unokubambisa ukuba wenze isicwangciso kwintsapho yakho malunga nendlela ozakuqhagamshelana nayo nalapho uya kuhamba khona ukuba kukho ingxaki. Kwiimodeli malunga nendlela yokuzalisa isicwangciso esibanzi, bona iinketho ezifumaneka kwi-Ready.gov. Xa unesicwangciso sokulungelelwaniso esiphuthumayo endaweni, khumbula ukuba awunakukwazi ukuwufuna.
- Ukuphonononga ngokukhawuleza umngcipheko. Iphutha lokucinga eliqhelekileyo elenzekayo ngenxa yezenzo zokusongela kukugqithisela ingozi. Olu hlobo lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo lubizwa ngokuba lukhulu . Ukungaqondi kakuhle kukubangelwa ukukhumbula, ukuhlaselwa, nokungaqiniseki kweziganeko, kunye nokuqwalaselwa kwabo kumajelo. Qaphela ukuba iimpapasho zeendaba azivumi ukubika kuzo zonke iindiza ezikhuselekileyo komhlaba okanye abantu abangahlaselwa yintsuku - akuthi nje "zifanelekile." Ngelishwa, oku kusithintela ukuba singabikho kweziganeko ezimbi kunye nokungabikho kwiindawo ezingezizo ezenzekayo zonke iintsuku eziqhubekayo. Ukujamelana nokuxhalaba malunga nobugandxwa kufuna ukuqonda iingcamango ezicwangcisiweyo kunye neengcinga zabo. Ukuba ukhathazekile ngeziganeko zexesha elizayo kugcinwe ngokufunda iphephancwadi okanye ukujonga ngokuphindaphindiweyo amajelo eendaba ezentlalo, ukunciphisa ukusetyenziswa kwakho kweendaba okanye ividiyo ezinokubangela uncedo. Iinkolelo ezinzima eziphakamisa umngcipheko ngokukhangela ubungqina malunga nokucinga kwakho kwaye uqaphele impembelelo enokuxhalabisa.
- Yiba nexhala. Xa uxhalabile ngakumbi xa ungakhange ulawulwe, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuzibuyisela ekuhlawuleni. Ixesha elixhalabileyo yindlela enye yokuyeka ingqondo yakho phakathi kwezinto eziphazamisayo zokukhathazeka ngenxa yokunciphisa ixesha elifutshane, elimisiweyo lokukhathazeka usuku ngalunye. Izenzo zokuphefumula ezityhafumla umoya uya kuphucula ingqondo kwaye zikuncede ukubeka iingxakinqwana ngokukhawuleza. Ekugqibeleni, ukunyamekela impilo yakho yempilo - ukuphumla kakuhle nokusebenzisa rhoqo - kunokukunceda ukunciphisa iimpawu zokuxhalabisa.
- Qhubeka uqhubeka. I-antidote engcono kakhulu yokuxhalabisa - into engabonakaliyo njengokuba ingabonakala - kukunamathela kwindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla. Umjikelezo wokuxhalabisa unzima kakhulu ngenxa yokuziphatha ukuphepha. Ingcamango yokuchasana - ngenjongo yokuba ungayi kuphepha kwaye kunoko ufune ukukhwabanisa okuyiyo-ingundoqo yonyango lokuxhalabisa kwaye akubalulekanga ngokungaqhelekanga ekuncedeni ngokwasemthethweni kunye nabathandekayo bakho ukulawula uxinzelelo olunxulumene nobugandane. Ekugqibeleni, ukugcina isicwangciso esilungileyo sosuku (okanye ukubuyela kumntu ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka) sisisigxina esinamandla kunazo zonke, kwaye kunoma yimuphi umntu onokufisa uluntu ukulimaza, ukuba indlela yokuphila enempilo ayiyi kuba yongelwa yingozi yongongoma.
Ukuba ekuhambeni okanye kumsebenzi wesigebengu, ufumene nzima ukulawula uxhalaba lwakho okanye uvakalelwa kukuba ukwesaba ukufumana indlela yoxanduva lwakho lwemihla ngemihla, cinga ukuthetha nomqeqeshi wezempilo yengqondo okanye nodokotela wakho.
Ukufumana ulwazi malunga nendlela yokuthetha nabantwana malunga nobugandxela kunye nendlela yokubanceda ukulawula ukwesaba kwabo, nantsi zixhobo ezimbalwa zokujonga:
- Uxinzelelo lweNgcaciso lwaBantwana kaZwelonke
- Ukucacisa iindaba kwizingane zethu
- Indlela yokuthetha nabantwana kunye nentsha nge-Traum World