Umlingani woMama kuBudlelwane
Ubungcali bobudlelwane bobudlelwane bujoliswe kubuhlobo bethu nabanye. Ngokwale ngqungquthela, izakhono zethu zobudlelwane bomhlaba wonke zixhomekeke kwiinkalo zethu zokuqala kunye nabazali bethu, ingakumbi oomama. Izinto ezibhekiselele kubantu, iinxalenye zabantu, okanye izinto eziphathekayo ezifanekisela ngomntu okanye inxalenye yomntu. Ubudlelwane bokubambisana, ngoko, ubuhlobo bethu nabo bantu okanye izinto.
Sihlolisisa indlela ochaphazelekayo ngayo kwaye ulwalamano lwakho nomama wakho lithetha ntoni ngekamva lakho kubuhlobo.
Intshukumo ye- Freudian ye-psychoanalytic theory , into edibeneyo yobudlelwane phakathi kwee-1920 neye-1930 kwaye yaba yinto ethandwa kakhulu phakathi kwee-1970. U-Karl Abraham, uMargaret Mahler noMelanie Klein baphakathi kwalabo bavakaliswe ngokuvela kunye nokucocwa kwayo. Ngamanye amaxesha inkolelo yobudlelwane bokubambisana isetyenziselwa unyango lwe-phobias , ngakumbi ezo zijolise kubantu, okanye ubudlelwane bethu nabo.
Izinto zangaphandle neZangaphakathi
Into yangaphandle ngumntu wangempela okanye into eyenziwa ngumntu ogunyazisiweyo. Into epheleleyo ngumntu njengoko ekhona, kunye nazo zonke iimpawu ezintle ezimbi ezizibandakanyayo. Ukuba siphumelele ngempumelelo kwizigaba zophuhliso, siyakwazi ukuxhamla nabanye ngokubanzi kunye njengoko kunjalo ngokwenene.
Into yangaphakathi yintliziyo yethu yomntu. Ngulo mbono esimele siwubambe xa umntu engekho ngokwenyama, kwaye ifuthe indlela esijonga ngayo umntu ebomini bokwenene. Ngenxa yoko, into yangaphakathi ichaphazela kakhulu ulwalamano lwethu nomntu olumele.
UkuQiniswa kweNjongo
Ubunzima bento ukukwazi ukuba izinto azitshintshi nje kuba asiziboni. Iintsana ziqala ukufunda into rhoqo xa abazali babo behamba ixesha elifutshane baze babuyele. Njengoko abantwana bekhula, baqala ukuchitha ixesha elide ixesha nabazali babo. Ukuxhalabisa uxhala kunye nokwesaba ukulahlelwa kuqhelekileyo kubantu abangaphumelelanga ngempumelelo ingqiqo yento.
Umama woMama: Ukuqhawula konke
Ubungcali bobudlelwane bezinto ezibandakanya ukuba indlela oomama nabantwana abasabela ngayo kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwabantwana kunye nophuhliso . Ukuba ukunakekelwa okwaneleyo okanye "okwaneleyo" abantwana banako ukuphuhlisa abo ngokwenene, leyo yinxalenye yentsana ebenzileyo kunye nangokoqobo, kanti ukuba ayenjalo, badala uqobo okanye umntu odlala kwiimfuno zabanye kwaye kusekelwe ekuthobelaneni nokulindela abanye, endaweni yokuzimela komntwana. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukhathalelo lwabazali olwamkelekileyo oluya kudala uqobo loqobo luquka izigaba ezilandelayo:
- Ukubamba - uthando lomzimba kunye nokubamba okubandakanya ukukhwabanisa, ukuphatha izandla, okanye ikhwebu ehleliyo eyaziwayo nokuziphatha rhoqo ekunakekeleni ukondliwa kwabazali.
- Umama kunye nosana abahlala kunye kunye nokuhlangabezana nenkqubo yemihla ngemihla yokunakekelwa kwengqondo nangokwenyama njengokutya, ukulungiswa kunye nokusebenzisana ngemisebenzi ebalulekileyo kubalulekile ekuphuculeni kakuhle umntwana.
- Ubaba, unina kunye nosana, bonke abathathu bahlala kunye- njengoko umntwana ekhula ekuxhomekeke ngokuxhomekeke kuye kwaye emva koko abe ngumntu ozimelayo, ukubaluleka kokufakaza ukusebenzisana komama noyise kubalulekile ekufundiseni umntwana ngokunyamekela kwakhe ngaphandle kobuqu bakhe uyise nonina.
Ubungcali bobudlelwane bezinto ezibandakanya ukuba i-chink kwenye yale nyathelo ibalulekileyo inokubangela imiba ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane kamva ebomini.
KwiYunivesithi yaseRonoma. Ulwalamano loBudlelwane beNjongo.
I-Indiana Resource Centre ye-Autism. Iingcamango Zengqondo kwi-Autism.