Indlela Yokujongana Nokukhathazeka Kwezenhlalakahle Kwiintlanganiso EziSebenzayo
Ukuxhalabisa kwiintlanganiso emsebenzini kungabangela ingxaki kulabo abaneengxaki zokuxhalabisa abantu (SAD) . Mhlawumbi ulahlekelwe ngamathuba okunyusa ngenxa yokuba ungathethi kwiintlanganiso ezifana noogxa bakho. Okanye, mhlawumbi uye wagwema ukukhushulwa ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yokuba babeza kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ube khona kwiintlanganiso ezininzi.
Ukuba uxhalaba lwakho alubi okanye usule unyango lwe-SAD, kukho izicwangciso ezinokubambisana onokuzisebenzisa ukunciphisa ukuxhalaba kwentlalo kwiintlanganiso emsebenzini.
Zenza
Ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba unikeze ngexesha leentlanganiso, okanye nqwenela ukuphucula izakhono zakho xa uthetha neqela , akukho ndawo ithatha indawo yokuqhuba rhoqo. Ukongeza kwizinto eziphathekayo ngokwakho, kufuneka uqikelele ukujoyina iqela elinjenge-Toastmasters.
Abaphathi beeastmaster banikezela ngaphezulu nje ithuba lokuba isithethi sikarhulumente esingcono. Umbutho uza kukunceda
- phucula ukukwazi kwakho ukwenza izethulo,
- Cinga ngeenyawo zakho, kwaye
- kuthetha ngokungaqhelekanga kwiqela.
Ngethuba leeseshoni zokuqala ukhululekile ukugcina nokugqiba nokuba ngaba ufuna ukuthatha inxaxheba.
Ukuba i-Toastmasters ayinayo inketho kuwe, unokusasaza kwizakhono zonxibelelwano. Yenza iphuzu lokuxelela ibali phambi kwabahlobo okanye ucele umbuzo wabo bonke abavakalisi kwiqela elilandelayo oya kulo. Jonga zonke iintlanganiso zoluntu njengethuba lokuziqhelanisa kwaye ube ngcono xa uxoxisana.
UkuLawula ukuPhukisa
Mhlawumbi uye wakwazi ukufikelela kwiintlanganiso zezoshishino ngokulungiselela kakuhle ukuba unempendulo ebhaliweyo kuyo yonke imibuzo.
Nangona ukulungiselela kubalulekile, ukulungiswa ngokugqithiseleyo kuyindlela efihlakeleyo yokuphepha .
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzithemba ukuba ukwazi ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza imibuzo kwaye uxoxe ngemiba engacwangciswanga ngaphambili. Qaphela ukuba kule meko, kulungile ukutsho ukuba awuqinisekanga ngento kwaye uya kujonga kuyo.
Ezinye iindlela zokuziphepha zingabandakanya ukungakhangeli mntu kwiso, ukugubungela umlomo xa uthetha, okanye ugweme ukuthetha konke kwintlanganiso. Ukuba uzifumanisa ukuba uzibandakanye ekuziphatheni kokuphepha, zinike imvume yokuziva uxhalabisayo kwiintlanganiso. Qaphela ukuba akusiyo isiphelo sehlabathi ukuba abanye babone ukuba unomdla, kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuziva ukhululekile.
Yazi Amandla Akho
Ukuba unobandezeleka ngokuxhamla kwiintlanganiso, mhlawumbi ungaze ube sisithethi esivela kakhulu kwiqela. Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukuphucula ngokuthe ngcembe izakhono zakho zokuthetha ukuya kwinqanaba oza kulufumana njengoluchwepheshe kunye nolulungekileyo. Ukongezelela ekubeni sisithethi esihle, ukuba ngumphulaphuli obalaseleyo kuyinakhono ebalulekileyo kwiintlanganiso. Ukuba oku kuzwakala ngathi, sebenzisa izakhono zakho zokuphulaphula ukuze uzuze. Ukuba uphulaphula ngokunyamekileyo oko abanye bathiyo kwaye ukhethe amagama akho ngokucophelela, abanye baya kukumkela ubulumko bakho nomonde.
Lungiselela
Inani elaneleyo lokulungiselela liyakushiya unesiqiniseko kwaye ulungiselelwe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukulungelelanisa okanye ukulungelelanisa kunokukushiya uzive unxhala-ngakumbi kuba ezi zinto zihlala zibonisa ukuxhalabisa kwakho. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungayilungisa kangakanani, funda ngeengcebiso ezingezansi ukunika ingqiqo yento enengqiqo yokucinga ngayo kwangaphambili.
- Lungiselela uphando kunye nemiba yophando phambi kwentlanganiso ukuze ukhawuleze.
- Gqoka ingubo ephoqelekileyo kunye nezobugcisa, kwaye oko kukukwenza uzive ulungile.
- Thetha kwifowuni nomhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho elenza uzive ukhululekile phambi kwentlanganiso, uze ubeke loo mvakalelo kunye nawe kwiintlanganiso.
- Fika ubuncinane imizuzu eyi-10 ukuze udibana nabantu xa befika.
Sebenzisa iziboniso
Iimpawu ezibonakalayo zixhobo ezinkulu zokufumana umyalezo kunye nokubonisa ingqalelo kude nawe. Ukuba uthetha kwiqela, sebenzisa uhlobo oluthile lokubonakalayo njengengxenye yenkcazo yakho. Oku kungekukuphela koko oku kuya kuphucula umyalezo ozama ukumnxibelelana nawo, kodwa kuya kuthatha uxinzelelo kuwe wedwa ekuboneni.
ILizwi
Ukuba unenkxalabo enkulu yentlalo, akukho nto ithatha indawo yonyango olunjengezonyango okanye unyango lwe-behavioral (CBT) . Ngokudibanisa neengcebiso ezingentla, kufuneka ube kakuhle endleleni yakho ekulawuleni ngempumelelo uxinzelelo loluntu kwiintlanganiso emsebenzini.
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