Yintoni eqhelekileyo kunye neyiphi na?
Ukuxhalabisa ngokuxhatshazwayo kuchazwa ngokucacileyo njengokuba ukwesaba ukungabikho komncedisi oyintloko kunye nezona ndlela eziqhelekileyo kubantwana ukuba benze ukwesaba kwabo kukudityaniswa kunye nokunamathela. Ingxenye ephilileyo kunye neqhelekileyo yentuthuko yabantwana phakathi kweminyaka eyi-8 neye-14.
Ingxaki yokuxhalabisa ixilongwane kubantwana abawela ngaphandle kwemida yale nqanaba eliqhelekileyo yophuhliso.
Iimpawu ze "Oqhelekileyo" Ukuhlukana Ukuxhalabisa
Iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa kohlulo njengentlupheko yophuhliso zijongwa njengesiqhelo ukuya ku-2 ubudala kwaye zihlala ziquka izinto ezibangela umzali ukuba aphendule ekushiyeni, kuquka:
- Ukukhala ngokweqile
- Ukubambelela ngamandla kumzimba womzali okanye iimpahla
- Ukumemeza
- Ukula ukubandakanya nomnakekeli okanye nabanye abantwana
Iziqhamo zangaphandle ziyakwenza ukuxhalabisa kunye nokuquka:
- Iimeko ezintsha ezithatha abantwana ngaphandle kwenkqubo yabo, kubandakanywa nomncedisi omtsha, ukuhamba kwangoko okanye umntwana omtsha.
- Ubunzima beentsapho, ezinjengeengxaki zomtshato okanye imiba yezemali , ezibeka uxinzelelo kubantu abadala ekhaya zichaphazela abantwana.
Ukuhlukana Ukuxhalabisa kwabantwana abadala
Kuqhelekileyo kubantwana abadala, ngakumbi abo banamahloni, ukuba bahambe ngesigaba sokungafuni ukuba abazali bahambe. Nangona kunjalo, umnakekeli unakho ukuqondisa umntwana ukuba ahlanganyele kwimisebenzi yeqela.
Abantwana abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-2 abangaphenduliyo ukubuyela kwi-redirection okanye ukubonisa iimpawu ezinzima kunokubandezeleka ngenxa yokukhathazeka ngokwexhala.
Xa Ukwahlukana Ukuxhalabisa Kuba Ngxaki Yokuxilongwa
Ingxaki yokuxhalabisa ingxaki yintlupheko yengqondo eyahlukileyo eyahlukileyo nokuxhalabisa ngokuqhelekileyo, nangona kunzima ukuchazela umahluko ngenxa yokuba iimpawu zingaphaya.
Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo kwiinkxalabo zokuxhalabisa ziquka:
- Intloko
- Ingcinezelo yesisu
- Ukwesaba okugqithisileyo okanye ukhathazeke kukuba into ethile iya kwenzeka kumzali okanye umntwana xa ahlukeneyo
- Ngokukhawuleza ukwenqaba ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi eyahlukileyo kunye nokukhala okungenakunyakazela ixesha lokuhlukana
- Ukuhlukana okungafanelekanga ngokwexesha elidala kubantwana abadala okanye abadala
Ukujamelana nokuxhalabisa ngokuqhelekileyo
Ukuxhalabisa ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxhatshazwa kulawulwa ngumzamo odibeneyo phakathi kwabazali kunye nabanonophelo, ngokubeka isimiso njengento ebaluleke kakhulu kwimpumelelo. Musa ukungena kwisilingo sokukrazula, njengoko oku kunokwenza abantwana banelise ngakumbi. Ngexesha elizayo umntwana wakho uyaxhalabisa:
- Cacisa oko kuza kwenzeka kumagama alula, ngqo ukuba uchaze apho uya khona, ngubani oya kuba ngumphathi, kwaye xa uza kubuya.
- Nika unyana wakho ixesha lokutshintshela ngokuvakashela isikolo esitsha okanye indlu yomntwana kunye kunye namaxesha ambalwa. Makhe aqheleke kumntu omtsha ngaphambi kokuba uhambe.
- Hlalani nizolile kwaye niphakamise, gxininisa kumnandi oza kuba nawo, kwaye uphathe ukuhlukana njengento eqhelekileyo.
- Yitsho enye into enoba ingaba umntwanakho umemeza kangakanani okanye akhala, mnike ukumbumbana kunye nokumanga, ukuthetha kunye nokuphuma emnyango.
- Yakha kwimpumelelo encinane ngokumshiya ihora okanye ezimbini ngosuku lokuqala kwaye ungeze ngokukhawuleza ubude bexesha, uhlale ubuya xa uthembisa.
Ukufuna unyango lweengxaki zokukhathazeka kwezentlalo
Ingxaki yokuxhalabisa ixinzelelo ingadinga ukungenelela kobuchwepheshe kunye noqeqesho lwezempilo yengqondo .
Hlanganisa ulwazi oluninzi ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphambi kokutyelela kokuqala unyango , kuquka iinkcukacha malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakho kokubili xa ushiya kwaye xa uhamba. Umphathiswa ontle uya kuba yinxalenye yeqela elibandakanya wena, umntwana wakho kunye nomnakekeli, wenze amacebiso enu ukuba nilandele.
Emva kwexesha, unokufumana ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi emitsha yemihla ngemihla.
Imithombo:
> IzeMpilo zeNtwana: Ukwahlukana nokuxhalabisa (2012).
Amaziko eZiko lezeMpilo: Ukwahlukana ngokuxhalabisa (2011).