Izinto ezi-5 ezimbi kunazo zonke zokuthetha kumntu onenkathazo yokuphazamiseka
Kungaba nzima ukuqonda oko kuthanda ukuhlala nokuphazamiseka kwengxaki. Unokufumanisa kunzima ukuhambelana nokuxhalaba kunye nokuxhatshaza xa ungakaze uzive ngale ndlela. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uzame ukuthetha ngokucokisekileyo nangokwemvakalelo phambi kokuba ungatsho ngokungazi into into enokuba yenzakalisa, ikhungathekise, kwaye ikhutshise umntu ngokuphazamiseka kwesifo.
Udweliswe ngezantsi kwezinye zezinto ezimbi kunazo zonke ongatsho kumntu onokuhlaselwa kwesoyiki okanye ezinye iimpawu ezibangelwa ukwethuka. Ezi nkcazo zilandelwa ziziphakamiso zendlela ezingcono zokusondela kumntu onengxaki yokuphazamiseka.
1 - "Yonke into engqondweni yakho."
Kukho iingcinga ezininzi malunga neengxaki zokuphazamiseka ezibangelwa ngokungafanelekanga abo bajamelene nale meko. Enye yeengcamango ezigqithisileyo zicinga ukuba iimvakalelo zokuxhalaba kunye nokuxhalaba kuphela ziphumo zengcamango yomntu. Iinyaniso kukuba ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki yinkqubo yokwenene kunye nokuxilongwa okuqhelekileyo ibandakanya iimpawu ezibonakalayo ezinokwenyama, ngengqondo nangokomzwelo. Le miqondiso ingaba nzima kakhulu ukulawula kwaye ayikho uphawu lomntu obuthathaka.
Impendulo engcono: "Ndilapha ngenxa yenu."
Ukuxelela umntu ogxekayo ukuba unengqondo yakhe, ucacisa ukuba ubeka isohlwayo ngeempawu zakhe. Iinkcazo ezinjalo zingabangela inxaxheba kwimibandela enjengeemvakalelo zodwa , ukunyuka kwengcinezelo, nokunciphisa ukuzithemba , ukuba abantu abaneengxaki zokuphazamiseka sele bekulungele ukufumana.
Esikhundleni sokumangalela umntu, zama ukuthumela isigidimi sokuba ukhona kuye ukuba ufuna. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuvumela umntu ukwazi ukuba ufumanekile kunokumenza azive ekhuselekile kwaye ekhuselekile xa ejongene nexhala kunye nexhala. Ukongezelela, ezinjalo iingxelo ezintle nezixhasayo zinokubangela ukuba umntu osikiweyo enze ukunyuswa okuthe xaxa ukuze akwazi ukujamelana neempawu zesifo .
2 - "Zilawule uze udibane."
Oku mhlawumbi enye yeengxelo ezingenakukhathazeka ukuba zenze umntu onentsholongwane yesifo. Ukuba umntu onenkxwaleko yokuxhalabisa "unokucima nje," kholelwa mna, uya kuyenza. Ukulawula ukwesaba, ukuxhalaba kunye nokuhlaselwa koyiko akulula. Kungabonakala kungenangqiqo kumntu ongaphandle, kodwa umntu ojongene noxinzelelo olunzima okanye ukuhlaselwa yintlanzi ujongene nempawu ezininzi ezinzima ezinzima ukulawula.
Impendulo engcono: "Ngaba ndinokunceda?"
Ukuxelela umntu ukuba ahlalise phantsi kuthetha ukuba uhlaziswa nguye. Ukuba unomntu onokuhlaselwa yintlanzi okanye ufumana amanqanaba aphezulu okuxhalabisa, into enokuyenza yinto exhasa. Makhe umntu azi ukuba ukhona ukuncedisa ukuba kuyimfuneko, kodwa ukuba uzimisele ukumnika nayiphi na indawo efunwayo. Ukubonakalisa ukuzimisela kwakho ukuncedwa kunokuba kukho konke okuyimfuneko ukukhulisa ukuphazamiseka kwesifo. Umntu unokufuna ixesha elithile ukuba asebenzise izakhono zakhe zokujamelana nokuzolalisa ukuphazamiseka nokuxhalabisa.
3 - "Uyancipha."
Khawucinge ngomzuzwana ukuba bekuya kwenzeka njani ngokukhawuleza ukuziva uxhalabisayo. Intliziyo yakho iyabaleka xa uqala ukuthuthumela ngokweqile. Umzimba wakho uyagubha kwaye uyathuthuma njengoko ufumanisa nzima ukuphefumula. Isifuba sakho sigxininisa kwaye uqala ukuziva unesiqhelo. Unamahloni ukuba abanye baya kuqaphela iimpawu zakho. Uqala ukwesaba ukuba uya kulahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo. Uyazibuza ukuba unesifo senhliziyo okanye ukuba mhlawumbi uya kuhlambalaza.
Impendulo engcono: "Nenza okusemandleni akho."
Njengomntu ongenakufumana le mpawu, kunokubonakala ngathi umntu uphelele . Nangona kunjalo, le ngcamango yembono yinyani kubantu abaninzi abanenkinga yokuphazamiseka. Ukuba uhlala ujikeleze umntu ojongene nokuxhalabisa okukhulu okanye ukuhlaselwa kwexhala, enye yezona zinto ezinokubaluleka unako ukuzenza zihlala zikhuthaza. Makuxelele loo mntu ukuba uyakholelwa ekusebenzeni kwakhe ukusebenzisana noloyiko.
4 - "Udinga ukujongana nawe ukwesaba ukuza kubo."
Akuqhelekanga ukukholelwa ngokungafanelekileyo ukuba umntu onenkathazo yokuphazamiseka kufuneka aziphophelele kwiimeko ezinoyiko. Nangona kunjalo, ukwenza abantu abanesifo abanengxaki yokujamelana neengxaki ngokungaqinisekiyo okanye abanoyikayo abangekho ngempumelelo. Ngokuchasene nale nkolelo yamanga, ukunyanzela umntu kwimeko eyoyikayo ihlala ibuyela emva. Ukujamelana noyiko xa ungakulungele ukujongana nabo kunokubangela ukuba uxhalabise ngakumbi kunye nokuziphatha okukhusela .
Impendulo engcono: "Thatha ngokwakho ijubane."
Abantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zokuphazamiseka bavelisa i-phobia ebizwa ngokuba yi- agoraphobia . Le meko yezempilo yengqondo ehlukeneyo iquka ukwesaba ukuhlaselwa kwesoyiko kwindawo eza kuba nzima kunye / okanye ukuhlazisa ukubaleka. Xa kuziwa ekujonganeni neemeko eziyikisayo, umntu onenkathazo yokuphazamiseka kunye okanye ngaphandle kwe- agoraphobia kufuneka asebenzise ukubonakala kancinci. Ngokufunda ngokukhawuleza ukujongana neemeko ezibangele ukuxhalabisa, umntu angakwazi ukwakha umqondo wakhe wokuzithemba kwaye afunde indlela yokuphumelela ngokufanelekileyo ngoloyiko linye inyathelo ngexesha.
5 - "Uchitha izinto."
Ukuba wakho umthandayo unesifo sokuphazamiseka esichaphazela izicwangciso zakho, unokuba uzive ukhululekile. Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlazisa umntu ngenxa yeempawu zakhe zovalo kuya kubangela ukuba ube nemvakalelo eninzi kunye neentloni. Abantu abanenkinga yokuphazamiseka sele bexhalabele ukuba bahlazeke ngeempawu zabo. Umntu uya kuba noxinzelelo olongezelelweyo kunye netyala xa uyichazela oko.
Impendulo engcono: "Ndiyazi ukuba kunzima."
Esikhundleni sokuhlambalaza nokuhlasela umhlobo wakho, zama ukumphendula ngenyameko. Bhengeza ukuba uyayiqonda indlela inzima ngayo ukuba aphumelele ukuhlaselwa kweentlanzi . Nangona uziva udimazekile, ukuthetha iingxelo ezibuhlungu akuyi kuyenza imeko ibe bhetele. Zama ukuhlala uvelwano kunye nokuqonda kumzabalazo wesifo somdla.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngenjongo okanye kungenjalo, amagama akho angalimaza, agxilise, kwaye abangela uxinzelelo olukhulu kumntu onenkathazo yokuphazamiseka. Ukuba uhamba nomntu ohlaselwa yintlanzi, unokuba luncedo ngokuhlala ulungile, ukuqonda nokuxhasa. Zama ukukhetha amagama akho ngobulumko kwaye ucinge ngenceba xa uthetha nomntu onenkathazo yokuphazamiseka.