Iindlela zokuLawula iimvakalelo zakho zokuzihlukanisa kunye nokuxhalabisa uluntu
Ukulondeka kunokuchazwa njengengqondo yokwahlukana kunye neemvakalelo zokungabi nalutho. Xa ufumana unesizungu , unokuziva uzihlukane nehlabathi okanye ukholelwa ukuba abanye abakwamkeli. Ngexesha elifanayo, unomdla wokuthatha inxaxheba ngakumbi ebomini kwaye ujabulele inkampani yabanye abaxhasa kwaye bakuqonda.
Uninzi lwabantu luvakalelwa uluncedo ngamaxesha ngamaxesha.
Nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo zisoloko zifaneka kubantu abaye bafumanisa ukuba baneengxaki zokuphazamiseka kunye / okanye i- agoraphobia . Ukongezelela, ukunyaniseka kudibaniswa nokudakumba , ukuxhaphaza okuqhelekileyo kwempilo yengqondo.
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwenzeka ngokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye nokukhathazeka . Abantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zokuphazamiseka bahamba kunye, ukwesaba abanye abayiyiqonda. Basenokuhlazeka ngenxa yokuhlaselwa kwesifo okanye ezinye iimpawu ezixhalabisa. Kukho neengcinga ezininzi malunga nokuphazamiseka kwesifo esingaba negalelo leentloni.
Nangona abantu abaneengxaki zokuphazamiseka, ukuhlaselwa kweentlanzi kunye ne-agoraphobia banelungelo lokuvalelwa yedwa, zikhona iindlela zokudlulela le miva kwaye zixhumeke ngakumbi kwabanye. Ezi zilandelayo ngamanyathelo anokuthatha:
Zikhathalele
Izicwangciso zokuzinakekela zizo nayiphi na imisebenzi ongayenza ukuphucula impilo yakho yonke kunye nokuphila kakuhle.
Umzekelo, ukuzinyamekela kunokunceda ukuphucula umzimba wakho, ngokwengqondo, ngokomoya, ngokobudlelwane nangokomzwelo. Ukujongana neemfuno zakho zokuzinakekela kunokuba yindlela enkulu yokuphucula ukuzithemba nokuzithemba kwakho.
Izinto ezininzi zokuzinakekela ziyakunceda ukulwa nomntu onesizungu kunye nokunciphisa iimpawu zesifo sokuphazamiseka.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuzivocavoca umzimba kungasinceda ukunciphisa i-hormone yokunyamezela nokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwe-muscle. Ukuphulaphula umculo oyithandayo kunokuphucula umvakalelo wakho kwaye kugcine uhlala kwiindawo zokucinga ezingalunganga . Ukusebenzisa iindlela zokuphumla kunokuncedisa ukukhawulelana neemvakalelo zakho. Unokufumanisa ukuba ngokuzikhathalela, iimvakalelo zakho ziphakanyisiwe.
Yiba nxaxheba kwi-Life
Enye indlela yokunqoba iimvakalelo zakho zokuzihlukanisa kukuba uzibandakanye apho ngokubandakanyeka eklasini, kumaqela, kwiiklabhu okanye kwimibutho. Ngaba unandipha nayiphi na imisebenzi ethile, njengokuhamba, ukufunda okanye ukufotowa? Kukho iziganeko zentlalo kunye neentlanganiso malunga nantoni nayiphi na inzala.
Ukuze uthinteke ngakumbi, cinga ukujoyina ibhola lebhulabhu kwilayibrari yakho yasekuhlaleni, ukuthatha iklasi yokuzilolonga kwi-gym, ukuya kwiklasi yobugcisa kwisitoreji somsebenzi okanye ukuya kwintlanganiso yonqulo. Imisebenzi yeqela inokufunyanwa ngokukhangela i-intanethi kumaqela athile anomdla, njengokuhamba, ukukhwela, okanye ukunyuka kwamatye.
Unokufumana amaqela anomdla kwi-intanethi ekudibanisa nabantu kulo lonke ihlabathi ngokusebenzisa iiforam, i-imeyile kunye nokuxoxa. Amaqela alungileyo ayenenjongo enkulu xa unesidima malunga nokuhlangana nabanye okanye uhlala ngaphandle ngenxa yeemeko zempilo yengqondo, njenge-agoraphobia okanye ingxaki yokuxhalabisa abantu .
Ngokufuna nokubandakanya ngamaqela okanye kwiiklasi, usebenza ngokukhawuleza ekudluleleni iimvakalelo zakho zodwa. Ukusekwa kweqela kunokukunceda ufunde isakhono esitsha okanye wabelane ngentshiseko nabanye abantu abanomdla. Amaqela kunye neeklabhu zinika ingqiqo yokuba ngumntu kunye noluntu kwaye ingaba yindlela ejabulisayo yokugcina ekubeni yedwa.
Yiba ngeNkonzo kwabanye
Ukuze uzive uxhumeke ngakumbi kwihlabathi elikujikelezayo, cinga ngokuzithandela ngenxa yezizathu. Unokufumanisa ukuba kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zendawo. Bangabandakanya ukuncedisa kwibhanki yokutya, ukunyamekela izilwanyana okanye ukuncedisa kwiziganeko zengxowa-mali yokuxhasa imali.
Ngokuzivolontiya, unokuphazamiseka kwiimpawu zakho kunye neemvakalelo zodwa, ngelixa udibanisa nabanye.
Unokuba uncedo kwabanye ngokufundisa oko uyaziyo. Unokuba ne talente okanye isakhono abanye abangathanda ukufunda. Ingaba unesakhono kwipeyinti, ukulima okanye enye inzondelelo, kunokubakho abantu abafuna ukufunda kuwe. Ngokufundisa abanye into oyaziyo, ungazigcina uziva uzimele, ukhethe ukuzithemba kwaye uncede omnye umntu afunde isakhono esitsha.
Ukunceda abanye akudingeki ukuba bahambe kude nekhaya. Kubantu abahlala behlaselwa ngokwesifo okanye i-agoraphobia, ingcamango yokufikelela kwabanye ingabonakala ingenakubekezeleka, ukuba ayinakwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amathuba okuba yinkonzo ngelixa elikufutshane nekhaya. Isaziso ukuba unabo nabamelwane abanokufuna uncedo oluthile lokugcinwa komtshini okanye ngubani ofuna ukuthetha. Unokumangaliswa ukufumanisa ukuba abanye abantu abasemzaneni wakho - abadala abadala, abahlala emakhaya okanye abazali abangabodwa - bafumana isohlwayo.
Ukongeza, isilwanyana sinokuba yindlela enhle yokuba umntu ongeyedwa ufumane ingqiqo. Cinga ukunceda ngokuthatha ikati okanye inja. Isilwanyana sakho sinokukubonelela ngothando nomfesane. Ngaphezulu, ukuhamba inja kunokukunceda udibane nabanye kwindawo yakho.
Ukwakha Inethiwekhi Yokuxhaswa Kwengxaki Yengqondo
Ukufumana inkxaso kunye nokuqonda abantu kunokukunceda ukuphelisa uluncedo kwaye kukuncedise endleleni yakho yokubuyela. Unxibelelwano lwenethiwekhi lunokwenziwa ngabaqeqeshi, ukuqonda abathandekayo kunye nabanye abachaphazelekayo ngamava akho ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwesifo. Oogqirha bakho kunye nabanye ootitshala abaphatha ingxaki yokuphazamiseka sele beyingxenye yenethiwekhi yakho, njengoko banokunceda ngokucwangcisa nokucwangcisa unyango. Abahlobo nabanentsapho abathembekileyo banokuchaphazela ukukhula kwakho.
Kukho nabanye abaninzi abanxulumene nomqathango ofanayo nabanokuziva iimvakalelo zakho zodwa, kwaye banokukwazi ukwabelana ngamava. Olu hlobo lwenkxaso lunokufumaneka ngonyango lwamaqela okanye mhlawumbi, ngokusebenzisa iifom zenkxaso ye-intanethi. Kukho abanye abaqondayo kwaye banokuba yinxalenye yenkqubo yakho yokuxhasa. Ukuxilongwa kweengxaki zesifo akuthethi ukuba ufanele uhlale unesizungu kwaye uhlala wedwa.
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