Nciphisa phantsi Uxinzelelo oluzimeleyo
Sibhekana noxinzelelo olubomi ebomini ngaphandle kokubeka ngaphezulu, kodwa yile nto eninzi thina engaziyo, ngenye indlela. Ngaphandle kokuzitshitshisa ngokwenza lo mkhuba oqhelekileyo, kutheni ungafundi into ongayenza ukuyeka ukuzincama kwaye ube ngumlingani wakho oqinileyo ekukhutsheni uxinzelelo? Nazi ezinye zezona ndlela zona ndlela zilungele ukwenza ubuninzi bomphefumlo wakho kwaye unqande uxinzelelo oluzimeleyo.
1 - Qonda ukuhluka phakathi koPhumelelo oluPhezulu nokuPhelela
Abantu abaninzi banamathela kwimilinganiselo yokugqiba, bengayiqapheli ukuba kukho indlela engcono yokwenza okusemandleni abo ngaphandle kokubetha ngendlela. Abaninzi abaphelelisileyo, kwinqanaba elithile, bakholelwa ukuba kufuneka bafezekise okanye bahlulekile; le ntembelo ayikwazi ukukhokelela ekunyamezelweni kuphela, inokubangela ukuba uphumelele ngaphantsi kwesimo sengqondo sokuhlala ephezulu! Xa kuziwa kuxinzelelo, "yenza okusemandleni akho" lungcono kunokuba "uphelele," kwaye ekugqibeleni, uphile impilo. Ukuba uzifumanisa ngokwemvakalelo "ukubamba" iimpazamo ozenzileyo, uqaphele okungakumbi oko ukwenzile okungalunganga kunokuba wenze kakuhle, kwaye ukuxhalabisa xa wenza umsebenzi ontle-kodwa ungaphelelanga, qaphela ukuba kukho indlela engcono. Nantsi indlela yokuyifumana.
2 - Fumana ukulingana phakathi koba ngumsebenzi onzima kunye nohlobo lwe-A
Ukusebenza kanzima kunokubangela uxinzelelo oluncinci xa luguqulela kwizixhobo ezininzi kunye nomsebenzi wokufezekisa, kodwa "Uhlobo lwe-A", olunokudibaniswa nenguqu ephezulu yomsebenzi oqinileyo, lunokuba nzima kwimpilo yakho yengqondo kunye nempilo, kunye nobudlelwane bakho. "Thayipha A" abantu banomdla kwimibandela yempilo kwizinga eliphezulu kunabasebenzi abanomdla kunye nabasebenzi abanzima, kwaye banokuzibandakanya kwiimpawu ezingaphantsi kwezempilo. Akunakukwazi ukutshintsha ubuntu bakho, kodwa ungancwitshisa imida kwaye utshintshe ugxininiso lwakho ekukhuliseni ngakumbi, kwaye oko kunokukwenza yonke imohluko. Funda kabanzi ngohlobo lwe "Thayipha A".
3 - Dweba umgca phakathi koPhambili Ubomi obupheleleyo kunye nokuxhatshazwa
Ukuqala ubomi obulisekileyo bukhulu, kodwa ukuba awuhlali ubomi obulinganisiweyo, unokuziva ukhululekile kakhulu, ixesha elininzi. Ungayifaka njani umgca phakathi kokuxakeka ngokukhawuleza kwaye ugxininiswe? Unokuqala ngokuqwalasela indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ekupheleni kosuku, ekupheleni kweveki (xa uqala ukuqala iveki entsha kunye nemingeni emitsha), kwaye ukhangele ngokucophelela ebomini bakho ukuze ubone ukuba Unayo ixesha elaneleyo lokukhulisa ubudlelwane, ukubandakanya ukuvuthwa rhoqo, ukulala ngokwaneleyo, nokugcina ezinye izinto zokuzinakekela rhoqo. Ukuzinyamekela kubalulekile ekulawuleni uxinzelelo, kwaye akukho zinye iinjongo kufuneka zifakwe ngaphaya kwayo, okanye awuyi kukwazi ukufikelela ezi njongo njengoko abantu abakhathelekileyo baphelelwa yimpumelelo ekugqibeleni. Nantsi into ongayenza ukuze ugcine umlinganiselo wokuphila ophezulu.
4 - Cinga NjengeNkolelo Yokwenene Eyona Inkolelo Kunokuba Uxineke
Abantu abaninzi bayesaba ukucinga okulungileyo, bayifanisa nokuqhatha ingqondo apho ungayihoxisi iingxaki ezibalulekileyo okanye izinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini, kwaye ekugqibeleni wenze iimpazamo ezenza uxinzelelo olungakumbi. Ngokwenene, ukucinga ngokuchanekileyo (ukugxila kwizinto ezintle ngaphandle kokungahoywa ngokupheleleyo kwaye ukuhluleka ukujongana nemiba efuna impendulo) kunokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngakumbi empilweni yakho, kwaye ungagxininiswa ngaphantsi kwendlela. Esinye sezicwangciso zokucinga ezilungileyo kakhulu ongayifumana ukucinga, ithemba elithile elikuvumela ukuba ugxininise ingqalelo kwimpumelelo eyenza ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwaye ikuvumele ukuba wenze okusemandleni akho kwixesha elizayo. Funda ukucinga njengomntu othembekileyo , kwaye ufumanisa ukuba kutheni le nto ingcinga .
5 - Vumela ukuba uzive, uze uzive ungcono
Usenokuva ukuba akuphilile ukuba "ubeke iimvakalelo zakho" - ukuphika ukuba uzive ngendlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Lena Yinyaniso. Nangona kubalulekile ukufumana ukulinganisela phakathi kokuvuma iimvakalelo zakho nokubandakanyeka ekuhlaleni, ukuhlala ekuphikeleni akunakho impilo. Indlela efanelekileyo yokuzinceda ngamaxesha oxinzelelo kukuba uqaphele ngakumbi indlela ovakalelwa ngayo kunye nokuba kutheni ngeendaba , ukuthetha izinto kunye nomhlobo osondeleyo, okanye ukuthetha nomgqirha ukuba kuyimfuneko, uze usebenze ekubandakanyekeni kwimisebenzi eya kunika ukuba uphakamise ngokomzimba kwaye uqhubele phambili. Nazi ezinye izinto ezinokukunceda uzive ungcono emoyeni .
6 - Yamkela Ubuthathaka Bakho, Nabo bonke abantu
Usenokuba wazi ngesihloko salo nqaku ukuba indlela enkulu yokunciphisa uxinzelelo kukuba uzinyamezele ngokwakho-zinike ikhefu. Ungakwazi kwakhona ukunciphisa uxinzelelo ngokunika wonke umntu ikhefu - ungathathi izinto njengokuba uqobo, ungabambeli kwiingqungquthela, uze uzame ukubona okulungileyo kubantu ngokuqonda indlela izinto ezivakalelwa ngayo. Funda ukuzixolela nabanye ngamaphutha adlulileyo. Kukho iindlela ezininzi ezifanelekileyo zokwenza oku, kodwa ukucamngisa inceba yinto ebandakanya isixhobo sokulawula uxinzelelo sokucamngca ngendlela ekunceda ukuphakamisa imizwa yakho kwaye kukunceda ukhululeke. Funda indlela yokucamngca inceba.