Usuku Ndafunda Ngendlela Enamandla Ngayo Ingcinga
Andiyi kukulibala imini endiyiqonda ngayo ukuba ukunyanga kwengqondo yokuziphatha kuyasebenza kwaye ndinokutshintsha iimvakalelo zam nje ngokutshintsha iingcamango zam. Yatshintsha ubomi bam ngonaphakade.
Ndandifunda incwadi ethi Feeling Good: Ulwaphulo olutsha lwe-Mood uDkt. David D. Burns, kodwa andizange ndibeke nayiphi na into. Nangona kwakubonakala kunomdla, andizange ndikholelwe ukuba kuya kusebenza.
Ngaba kwakungeke kwenzeke ingqiqo yokuba ukudakumba kubangela iingcinga ezimbi kwaye kungekho enye indlela? Kwakhona, ukuba iingcamango zam zibangelwa iimvakalelo, oku kuthetha ukuba ndenza oku kum kwaye loo mbono ayizange ihlale kakuhle nam.
Ewe, ngalo mhla othile ndenze izicwangciso kumyeni wam kunye nohlamba kwaye sihlambulule imoto yethu xa sifika kwindlu yabazali bakhe. Xa sifikile apho, ndaqalisa ukusebenza ekuhlanganiseni izixhobo zethu. Yonke imizuzu embalwa, ndamnika isikhumbuzo sokuba izinto zilungele ngoko makhe siqalise, kodwa waqhubeka ephazamisa. Mhlawumbi uvumelekile ukuba uhlambe imoto, kodwa ndabona ukuba wayengafuni kwaye ndandiba nomsindo kwaye ndicaphukisa ngomzuzu. Ndaqhubeka ndicinga izinto ezinjengalezi: "Wenza njalo eli xesha, kufuneka abe ngaphandle apha kundinceda, kodwa uyayeka kwaye undivumele ukuba ndiwenze umsebenzi. Emva koko i-lightbulb iqhosha. Imoya yam ihambe ukusuka kokuhle ukuya embi kwimizuzu embalwa ngenxa yokuba ndicinga ntoni ngale meko.
Ndagqiba kwelo xesha ukuba ndiza kuzama ezinye zezinto endazifundile kwincwadi kaDkt. Burn. Kwakuyithuba eligqibeleleyo lokubona ukuba lisebenza ngokwenene.
Njengoko ndaqala ukuphinda ndihlaziye iingcamango zam kwaye ndiziphendulele kwizinto ezinengqiqo kunye ezintle, uqeqesho lwam luqala ukuhamba kanje: "Akenzanga oku njalo.
Inene kakhulu endikuncedayo ngaphandle kokuba enomnye into engqondweni yakhe. Wayeqhuba nje indlela ende ukuze afike apha kwaye ngoku uyavuya xa ebona intsapho yakhe. Kakade, akayi kufuna ukuhlambulula imoto kwangoko. Unelungelo lokuphumla nokutyelela kunye nentsapho yakhe. Ngaphandle koko, akukho mntu unokukukhathaza ngaphandle kwakho kwaye ndiya kukhetha ukungafuni ukuthukuthela. "Kungekudala ndandicula kwaye ndonwabela ubuhle bemihla. Yintoni eyandikrakra kukuba kukuqonda ukuba ngoku ndivakalelwa phezulu kwihlabathi , ngenxa yokuba nditshintshile into endiyicinga ngayo. Ngaphambili, ndandiyicinga kwiingcamango zam kwaye ndonwabise lonke ixesha.
Ingaba unyango ojongene noKhuseleko olusebenzayo lusebenza kuwe? Abanye bayakufuna imishanguzo ngaphezu kwonyango ; kodwa, ndiyakholelwa ukuba inokuba luncedo kunoma ubani, ngaphandle kokuba beyifumana ngokuzimisela ukukholelwa ukuba inokusebenza. Ukuba uzive usongelwa ngcamango yokuba uncedisa ekudakagxininiseni kwakho, usenokugqiba ukuzincama.
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