Amanyathelo okufumana Uncedo lwabantwana bakho
Iintsapho ezidandathekileyo zihlala zifumana ubuhlungu obuvakalelwa kukuba buhlungu nangokwamaxesha, kodwa kaninzi abanalo nantoni na into enokuyenza ukuze bazive bebhetele. Abazali bahlala besesimweni esihle kakhulu sokuba bathathe inxaxheba ekuncedeni okokuqala intombazana ecinezelekileyo . Nantsi indlela yokwazi xa ufuna ukufumana uncedo lobuchwepheshe.
Ukufumana Uncedo Oluphilileyo Ngomntwana Oxinezelekileyo
Ukuchonga ukudandatheka kwintsholongwane kunokuba nzima kuba akubonakali kuyo yonke imiba yobomi bentsha kwaye ingaba yi-episodic, ebonakala izayo.
Kodwa ukuxinezeleka kwintsholongwane kubonakala kunzulu. Kuyiphutha ukulinda kwaye ithemba lokudakumba liya kulungela ngokwakho kuba ngokuqhelekileyo akunjalo. Ukudandatheka okungekho nto kungakhokelela kwezinye iingxaki ezinzulu, ezifana nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi, iingxaki zokuziphatha kunye nobunzima bokulwa nezifo eziphambili.
Ngoko nini ixesha elifanelekileyo lokufuna uncedo lokudandatheka okusemandleni kwintsha? Esinye isikhokelo esisetyenziswayo yilo: Ukuba wakho umntwana usetshintsho olukhulu kwiimvakalelo, ukuziphatha okanye ubuntu obudlulileyo ngaphezu kweeveki ezimbalwa, kuluvo oluhle ukufuna uncedo lwezakhono ukuzama ukucacisa isizathu esiphezu kwezi nguqulelo.
Akunakuba yinkxalabo, kodwa nayiphi na inguqu yesikhathi eside ekusebenzeni kwentombazana yakho ibonisa ingxaki ebalulekileyo ekufuneka ichongwe kwaye iqwalaselwe. Kukulungele ukuphosakela kwicala lokulumkisa xa kunokwenzeka ukuba ukuxinezeleka kwentsha kubakho, njengoko kunokuqhubeka nokubi kakhulu kwaye kunokukhokelela ekuzibulaleni .
Ukufumana Umntwana Wakho Ovavanywayo
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekuncediseni intombazana kunye neempawu zokudandatheka kukuhlolwa ngokuthe ngcaphephe ngophando.
Le nyathelo elibalulekileyo linceda ukubonelela ngolwazi oluxabisekileyo malunga nokuba umntwana wakho ohlala ebhekene nokudakumba, ubunzima beengxaki kunye naluphi ukhetho lwonyango oluya kusebenza kakhulu.
Ngokuxhomekeka kwizibonelelo ezifumanekayo kunye nokuba kuthatha ixesha elide ukuseta ukuqeshwa kokuqala, cwangcisa uvavanyo lwakho kwintsapho yakho kunye nodokotela wakho wezonyango okanye uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ogxile ekuncediseni intsha.
Izinketho zokuHlola kwiNtsapho yakho
- Udokotela ogqirha unokuyalela iimvavanyo zegazi, ubuyekeze imbali yentsapho, ukuvavanya amayeza enje, iipatheni zokulala kunye nokutya kwimizamo yokufumanisa ukuba kukho isizathu esibangela ukudandatheka.
- Umgqirha ngamnye ochwepheshayo ekuphatheni abantwaba angakwazi ukuhlola iimpawu ezisekelwe ekutheni akhulume nabantwana abaselula kunye namalungu entsapho. Le ngcaciso inceda ukubonisa indlela yokwenza iingcebiso ezithile malunga namanyathelo alandelayo anokunceda intsha yakho.
- Ukuphonononga kwengqondo okanye ukuphononongwa kwengqondo, okugqityiweyo ngengqondo yeengqondo kwiiseshoni ezininzi kunika ulwazi olunzulu malunga nobukhulu kunye nobume beempawu, iimpembelelo, kunye neendawo ezinokwenzeka zokuzibulala . Olu khetho lufanelekile kwiimeko apho ukuxilongwa akucaci.
Ulwazi olubonakaliswe malunga neempawu zakho zentsholongwane kuhlolo kunye neengcebiso zengcali ezilawulayo, ziya kwenza kube lula ukucacisa amanyathelo alandelayo athathwe.
Unyango lweNtshukumo yoLutsha
Ukudakumba kwengcinezelo yonyango kunonyango, unyango lwe- psychotherapy okanye udibaniso lwababini. Ingcali yakho yezempilo yengqondo iza kunceda wena kunye nentsha yakho inqume kwisicwangciso sonyango .
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyisigqibo sokuzibulala, unokufuna ukuba abe esibhedlele.
Indlela Ongayinceda ngayo
Ukuba umntwana wakho ufumaneka ukuba unenkxwaleko , kukho iindlela onokukuxhasa ngazo. Zifundise malunga nokudandatheka ukuze ube neengcinga ezibhetele kwizinto ezithatha umntwana wakho. Yiba lula ukuphulaphula nokukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba akhulume nawe malunga nantoni na enokumkhathaza. Ncedisa inkqubo yakho yeselula yemihla ngemihla, njengokuthatha unyango kunye nokutya okunempilo, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ikhaya lakho likhuselekileyo, liduduza.
Umthombo:
"Ukunceda Ingane Yakho Yokuxinezeleka." ILayibrari yeSizwe kaMatriki ka-US (2014)