Xa kuziwa ekungabikho kompembelelo kunye nobudlova, ukudandatheka kwabantwana kunokudlala indima. Olunye uphando lubona ukuba ukuziphatha okugwenxa kunye neentlonelo kudibene nokuxinezeleka kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo.
Kwabanye abantwana abadandathekileyo kunye nabantwana abaselula, iimvakalelo zabo zingabangela ukuba bacaphuke ngabantu okanye izinto abacinga ukuba ziyimvelaphi yabo intlungu, ekhokelela ekuziphendululeni.
Izinto zobungozi
Ukudakumba okukhulu kunye neengxaki zokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kubangelwa yimingcipheko yobundlobongela, ngokutsho kukaChristopher J. Ferguson, uF.D. kunye nabalingane, abashicilele uphando olutsha malunga nokuzibulala kwimiba yeeNgqondo zekota ze-Psychiatric Quarterly ngo-2005.
Enyanisweni, ukwahlukana kwezentlalo kunye kunye nokudakumba kuyingozi yendlela yokuziphatha kakubi kubantwana abaneminyaka esikolweni. Yingakho abantwana ababethelelwe esibhedlele ngenxa yokukhathazeka kwengqondo-kwaye banokubeka ingozi yokuzihlalisa abantu - bavavanywa ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yobungozi obungathandabuzekiyo nokuziphatha okubi.
Iimpawu ezinomdla kunye nezobugwenxa zivame ukuxelwa kumakhwenkwe ecindezelekileyo kunamantombazana kodwa angenzeka kuzo zombini.
Ziziphi izinto ezithintekayo kunye neentlungu ezibukhali
Ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo kukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwiziganeko (ngokuqhelekileyo kungenanto) ngaphandle kwemiphumo. Umzekelo, umnxeba weefowuni ekutyhileni iindaba ezingafunekiyo okanye ezimbi zingakhokelela kumntwana ukuphosa ifowuni aze ayiphule.
Ukuziphatha okuphambanisayo rhoqo, kodwa akusoloko kukhokelela ekuziphatheni okubi. Iziphathamandla ezinokunyamezela zingahanjiswa kwangaphakathi ngendlela yokuzilimaza, okanye kumntu okanye ngenye into ngokugquma, ukuxhatshazwa, umonakalo wepropati okanye ugonyamelo .
Ukuze uqhubeke nomzekelo, ngenxa yeendaba zesiganeko esibi, umntwana unokufuna ukuthetha ngomlomo okanye ukulimaza umntu owanikele iindaba ezimbi.
Le mizekelo ayimeleli ukuba bonke abantwana abanexinzelelo baya kuthatha njani imeko engalunganga. Enyanisweni, ukuziphatha okungachukumisi kunye neentlonelo zihlala zixhatshazwa ziziphazamiso eziphazamisayo ezifana nokukhathazeka kokuziphatha kunye nokunyamekela ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki (hydactivity disorder) (ADHD), kunye nokuphazamiseka komntu onjengomda we- edgeline, i-narcissistic kunye ne-histrionic personality disorders.
Umntwana onokunyamezela okanye ukuziphatha kakubi kwezinye iimeko angachazwa ngokuthi "unomthi oshushu," "ulaka," "unomsindo" okanye "ungenakuqikelela."
Oko Abazali Bangakwenza
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa iimpembelelo okanye izigwenxa ezilawulwa nguye okanye kwabanye, khuluma nodokotela wezilwanyana okanye omnye umboneleli wempilo yengqondo ukufumana umthombo wokuziphatha kwakhe kwaye ufuna unyango .
Amanqanaba aphezulu okuziphatha okungafunekiyo kunye nobudlova ahlanganiswe nomngcipheko wokuzibulala kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo, okwenza unyango olubaluleke ngakumbi.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unenkxalabo ngokuziphatha okungachukumanga kunye / okanye ukuziphatha kakubi, unyango oluthile lunokuba luncedo ngakumbi ekunciphiseni ukuziphatha, njengokulawula ukuqeqeshwa kwezakhono, ukuphathwa komsindo kunye neyeza ezithile ezijoliswe ekulawuleni umonakalo.
Imithombo:
Cristopher J. Ferguson, Ph.D., uPatricia M. Averill, Ph.D., Howard Rhodes, Ph.D., uDonna Rocha, MD, uNelson P. Gruber, MD, iPushpa Gummattira njengabalandeli beNgqungquthela kwi-Psychiatric Population Patient Population. Iigqirha zengqondo ngekota. > 76 (2); Ehlobo 2005: 123-137.
UJohn Renaud, uMarcel Berlim, uAlexander McGirr, uMichel Tousignant, uGustavo Turecki. Ukuxhatshazwa kweMpilo yengqondo, ukunyanzeliswa / ukuguquka komntu kunye nobunzima bokuzibulala kwabantwana kunye nabantwana abaselula. Umbhalo weengxaki ezichaphazelekayo . 2008; 105: 221-228.
ULarry J. Siever, MD I-Neurobiology ye-Impulsive-Ubundlobongela obuthathaka. http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/articles/neurobiology- i-impulsive-aggressive-personality-disordered-patients