Ukuba ungumzali wentsha engasenokuba nengxaki, ndifuna ukuba wazi ezi zinto zibini ezibalulekileyo: Awodwa kwaye uncedo kwintsapho yakho kunye nosapho.
Amanqaku amkelekileyo eUnited States ekudakaleni kwentsha evela kwi-SAMHSA kunye noDokotela-Jikelele weDiorge wathi abantu abangama-20% abatsha baya kuba nolunye uhlobo lokudakumba ngaphambi kokuba babe ngumdala, phakathi kwe-10-15% yabaselula banempawu yokudandatheka kwentsha nawuphi na ixesha kunye ne-5% yabaselula banokuxinezeleka okukhulu.
Ngoko ngokwale manani, ukuba ngaba abafundi bakho abayi-100 bahlala esikolweni esikolweni esiphakamileyo, abaneminyaka engama-20 kubo baya kuba neengcinezelo ngenye indlela ngaphambi kokuba babe ngabantu abadala, aba-10 ukuya ku-15 kubo baya kubonisa iimpawu zokuxinezeleka kwentsha kunini nayiphi na ixesha-nokuba okanye kungekhona le miqondiso ibe yinto yokudakumba - kunye no-5 kubo baya kuba neengcinezelo ezinkulu. Aba bafana banabantwana onjengawe - awodwa.
Xa wakho umntwana uhamba nayo nayiphi na ingxaki, ingakumbi abo bafika ngempilo yengqondo bayicala njengokudakumba, abazali banokuziva bazimele okanye bahlazekile. Le miva yesiqhelo kwaye kulungile ukuba nawo. Kodwa uya kufuna ukulawula, ubeke eceleni kwaye ufune uncedo ngokubiza udokotela wakho osemtsha okanye iinkonzo zentlalo zengingqi . Kukho uncedo kwintsapho yakho kunye nosapho lwakho. Okwangoku, iinani labafana abadandathekileyo abafuna uncedo bangaphantsi kwama-33 ekhulwini, kodwa i-80 ekhulwini yabashumi abanokuxinezeleka bangaphathwa ngempumelelo xa befuna uncedo kumgqirha okanye kumgqirha.
Ngaba Abazali Bayayazi Njani Intsha Yabo Ingcinezelo?
Abazali bayazi ukuba umntwana wabo unentsholongwane ngokugqithisa ugqirha onokufumana ingxaki yokudandatheka kwengxaki. Ayikho enye indlela ejikeleze loo nto. Ngokungafani nentsholongwane yesisu okanye isondo eliqhelekileyo elinokunyangwa ngekhambi lekhaya elifana nesobho senkukhu, ukuxinezeleka kwentombazana kufuneka kuhlolwe ngugqirha, njengoko kukho izizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo zokudandatheka - ngoko ke unyango oluthile.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga into yokuba umntwana wakho uhlangabezana nokudakumba, ungasebenzisa ezi zixhobo ukuze uncede:
- Iimpawu zoxinzelelo lwabantwana
Ukudakumba kwengqondo, yintoni imiqondiso? Ndiyazi njani ukuba umntwana wam osiswini udimazekile? Ubuncedo kubazali ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho osenokuba ngumxinezelekileyo, uludwe lweempawu zokudandatheka kwentsha. - Izinto Ezifanele Uyenze Ukuba Ucinga Ngomntwana Wakho Uxinezelekile
Ukuxinezeleka yingxaki abaninzi abafana nayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo uziguqula njengesiqhelo "ukuguquka kwemizwelo" ngenxa yokutshatyalaliswa okanye ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsha. Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo ukunyanzeliswa kude kube yinto enzulu kakhulu eyenzekayo, njengokuzama ukuzibulala okanye ukubeka ingozi enkulu ekutheni ukuziphatha kwenza umntwana ukuba abe yingxaki. Nazi izinto ezintlanu abazali abafanele bayenze ukuba bacinga ukuba umntwana wabo unentshutshiso.
Yintoni eyenza Iimvakalelo Zethu Zontlungu Zidini?
Ukudandatheka kwintsholongwane kungabangela iziganeko ezahlukeneyo: umcimbi osisigxina ebomini bentsholongwane, i-genetic predisposition to depression, okanye ukuphuma ngaphandle kweentlalo ngeentanga zontanga ukubiza ezimbalwa. Nangona useneminyaka elishumi elivisayo kwaye uhamba ebusheni kubangelwa ukuguquka kwemizwelo kunye nemizwelo ecindezelekileyo. Uxinzelelo lokuba ngumntu omdala osemdala kunye nayo yonke imiba yakhe yentlalo kunye nozimeleyo kunokubangela ukukhathazeka nokudandatheka. Zonke ezi zinto zifaka ingxaki kwingxaki yoogqirha abanokuxilonga abafana abadandathekileyo.
Kubazali, oku kuthetha ukuba zonke iimpawu zoxinzelelo kufuneka ziphawulwe, kufuneka uqhubeke uqonda imizwa yengane yakho kwaye uxoxe nayiphi na impawu ngogqirha wakho.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi oko kunokubangela ukuxinezeleka kwengane yakho, ungaya kumthombo uze uthethe kwintsapho yakho. Basenokukwazi ukunika impendulo - okanye abanokuba bazi ngokwabo. Ngandlela-thile, ukuthetha nentombazana yakho kukunceda ugcine imigca yonxibelelwano evulekile kunye nabo ngelixa besebenza ngokudakumba kwabo.
- Ukubangela Ukuxinezeleka Kwabantwana
Ukudandatheka kwintsholongwane kungabangela iimeko ezininzi, kubandakanywa ukuphendulwa kwengcinezelo okanye ukungalingani kwemvelo kwiingqondo. Ezinye zezizathu zokuqalisa ukuxinezeleka kwabaselula ziyamangalisa.
- Ukuxinezeleka Kwabantwana - Akusikho Oko Ucingayo
Ukuxinezeleka kwiminyaka emininzi kuthintela kakhulu abo bahluphekayo, kodwa iimpawu zihlala zihluke kakhulu kunokudandatheka kubantu abadala. Nakhu okufuneka ukwazi malunga nendlela ukucindezeleka kubonisa ngayo intsha.
Ndingayifumana njani Intsha yam Ixinzelelo?
Qala ukuba umntwana wakho ancedise uxinzelelo ngokuthetha nogqirha ukuba amxelele ukuba ufuna ukufumana ingcali kwintsimi yempilo yengqondo. Ukusebenza nesifo sengqondo okanye ukudibanisa kwengqondo yengqondo kunye nodokotela wentsapho yakho isicwangciso esilungileyo sokuqala esicinezelekileyo. Olu hlobo lwesicwangciso sonyango aluyi kunceda kuphela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlangabezane neengxaki zabo zangoku kodwa uya kuthintela ukuxinezeleka ukuba kungabi nakakhulu kwaye kubangele ezinye iingxaki esikolweni, impilo yabo yentlalo kunye nophuhliso lwabo.
Abanye abaselula abanokuxinezeleka abafuni ukufumana uncedo. Bangacela, bakucasuke kunye kunye / okanye ubenobundlobongela xa uphakamisa. Oku kwenzeka kwaye sinokuba yinxalenye yoxinzelelo. Ukuba ngaba kunjalo kufuneka ufune uncedo wakho kumntwana wakho.
- Indlela Yokunceda Intsha Yakho Exinezelekileyo
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali kufuneka bathathe uxanduva lokufumana uncedo olutsha oludandathekileyo. Funda xa ufuna ukufumana uncedo lwezakhono kulutsha oludandathekileyo kunye namanyathelo okuqala ukwenza oko. - Izinyathelo Zonyango kwiNtshutshiso Yakho Exinezelekileyo
Emva kokuba intombazana ihlolwe ukuxinezeleka, ukhetho lwezobugcisa kunye neyeza luya kucetyiswa kwaye lubandakanye umntu, iqela, intsapho, amayeza kunye neendlela zokunyanga. Yintoni eyenza umntwana osemncinane angase asebenzele omnye. Qhubeka uphonononga ukhetho uze ufumane abo banceda umntwana wakho ukuba azive kwaye asebenze ngcono. - Ndingamnceda njani Umntwana Othe Wenqaba Ukufumana Uncedo Lokudandatheka?
Ndingamnceda njani umntwana wam osemva obonakala ehlwilizeka kodwa enqaba ukufumana uncedo? Ukudandatheka kwintsholongwane kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kudinga unyango. Nazi iziphakamiso ezibonisiweyo zokuncedisa umntwana ukuba athathe amanyathelo adingekayo ukuphilisa ekudakaleni. - Amacandelo okuNceda abantwana baphulukiswe ekudandeni
Indlela epheleleyo yokuncedisa intsha ecindezelekileyo idibanisa unyango lobugcisa kunye nezicwangciso zokunceda. Ezi zicwangciso zokunceda ziyakunceda ukutshintsha iipateni ezingenanto kwaye zinikeze abatsha izixhobo abanokuzifezekisa nokuzihlola zona.