Ukuba unengxaki yomntu ongenamkhawulo (BPD) , kuyaqheleke ukuba uzive ngathi ufuna ukuyeka unyango. Enyanisweni, kuyinto engokwemvelo ukukhungatheka ngonyango okanye umgqirha wakho okanye uzive ngathi i-psychotherapy ayisebenzi. Kodwa abaninzi abantu bashiya unyango ngaphambi kokufikelela kwiinjongo zonyango-uphando lubonisa ukuba malunga neepesenti ezingama-47 zabantu abane-BPD bayeka unyango ngaphambi kwexesha.
Ukuyeka unyango yisigqibo esikhulu, ngoko cinga ngezizathu zakho kunye neenjongo zakho zonyango.
Ziziphi Izizathu Zakho Zokuyeka unyango?
Ngaphambi kokuyeka ukunyanga, cinga ngezizathu zakho zokufuna ukuhamba; unokufumana kukunceda ukubhala uluhlu. Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zibandakanya:
- Andivanga ukuba unyango lusebenza
- Andiyithandi i-myrapist
- Andikho ixesha lokuya kwiiseshoni
- Ndicinga ukuba ndiphucule kwaye ndikulungele ukuhamba ndedwa
- Izinto esizithethayo ngeeseshoni zinomzwelo kakhulu
- Andiyicingi ukuba umthandi wam undithanda
- Andiyi kuphinda ndibe ngcono kungakhathaliseki ukuba ndenza ntoni
- Ndiyakholelwa ukuba umgqirha wam ungekho
- Andinayo imali eyaneleyo yokuhlawula iiseshoni
Ukuthetha Nogqirha Wakho
Ngoku ukuba unoluhlu lwezizathu zakho zokufuna ukuyeka unyango, faka inkwenkwezi ngezona zizathu ezinkulu ukuze uxoxe ngazo kunye nomgqirha wakho.
Mhlawumbi unamahloni ukuxoxa ngokuphuma kunye nomgudu wakho ngenxa yokuba ungafuni ukudumazeka okanye ukumcaphukisa.
Okanye mhlawumbi ungamthembi ngokwaneleyo ukuba uxoxe naye. Kungakhathaliseki isizathu sakho, ukujongana neenkxalabo zakho malunga neyeza kunye nomcebisi wakho unokunceda.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukuyeka ngenxa yemali okanye ngenxa yeshedyuli yakho, umgqirha wakho unokuthi asebenze isicwangciso sokuhlawula okanye avumelane ukukuhlangabeza emva kweeyure eziphambili zeofisi.
Unokukunika nokudluliselwa komnye umphathiswa xa uvakalelwa ukuba awukhethi kunye naye okanye wenze inkqubela phambili.
Ungesabi ukuqala le ngxoxo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umgqirha wakho akazange abe nengxoxo njengaleli ngaphambili. Ulwaphulo luveza iimvakalelo ezininzi, kwaye kuyaqheleke ukuba abantu bafune ukuyeka okanye bazive ukuba akukho nto iya kunceda. Yinyaniseka ngendlela onokuyenza ngayo. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ugqirha wakho wenza oko akwenzayo kuba ufuna ukubanceda abantu.
Ngaba Ingxaki Yokuthetha?
Kwezinye iimeko, iimpawu ze-BPD zinokukunceda ukuba ushiye unyango. Ukuba ufumana ukwahlukana , unokujonga ukuba ugqirha wakho unolumkiso okanye ungamthandi oku kunokubangela ukuba uphuphe kwangoko unyango. Abantu abanexinzelelo njengengxenye ye-BPD bangaba nexesha lokungathembeki kunye nefuthe eliphantsi kakhulu, okubangela ukuba bafune ukuyeka ukunyango kwakhona. Kuzo zombini ezi zimeko, ugqirha unokukunceda ukuba ucinge ngeyona nto inomdla wakho ngokubhekiselele kulokho i-disorder yakho "ikuxelela" ukwenza.
Yiyiphi Inzuzo kunye neNgxaki?
Enye inqubo enokukunceda ukuba unqume ukuba ukuyeka ukunyangwa kweyeza kubizwa ngokuba yi " Pros and Tool Tool ". Esi sixhobo esifundiswa kwiNyango yoLungiso lwezoLimo kunye nokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokucinga ngeentlobo ezininzi zezigqibo.
Emva kokuba uzalise i-pros and tool tool, cingisisa ngakumbi malunga naluphi na ulwalathiso ofuna ukungena ngalo. Ngaba ukuyeka unyango kubonakala ngathi yinto efanelekileyo? Okanye, ngaba kuyacaca ukuba enye indlela ingenza ingqiqo? Ukuba ukuyeka unyango kubonakala ngathi ukhetho olufanelekileyo, ngaba oku kuthetha ukuthintela unyango ngokuthe ngqo, okanye ukutshintsha nje iiphrothera okanye uhlobo lweyeza ofumanayo? Cinga ngezo zonke iinketho zakho zokwenza isigqibo esiphezulu kuwe.
Ngaphantsi
Umgca ophezulu kukuba kukho ezininzi izizathu zokuba abantu bayeke ukunyanga kwaye ngamanye amaxesha oku akunakunqandwa. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abantu baphumela ngaphandle kweyeza ngaphambi kokuba baqikelele kwaye bathethe nabachaphazelekayo malunga nabo.
Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba kufuneka ulahle, cinga ezinye iindlela zokonyango . Kwaye, nokuba ukhetha ukuqhubeka usebenza nomgqirha okanye cha, qhubeka usebenza kwizakhono zakho zokujamelana nokukhathazeka komntu ongenamkhawulo .
Ekugqibeleni, ngaphambi kokushiya unyango, qiniseka ukuba unesicwangciso sokhuseleko seBPD endaweni.
Imithombo:
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