Oko Abazali Abafuna Ukukwazi Ngokuzibulala Kwezingane
Nangona abazali abaninzi bethetha nabantwana babo malunga neengozi zokungahlambululi izandla okanye ingozi yokudibana nabantu abangaziwa kwi-intanethi, abazali abambalwa abaye bathetha nentsha yabo ngokuzibulala.
Oku kubi ngenxa yokuba abantwana abaninzi bafa ngokuzibulala kunomdlavuza, isifo se-pneumonia, i-influenza, isifo esingapheliyo samaphaphu, isifo senhliziyo, i-AIDS kunye neziphoso zokuzalwa ezidibeneyo. Ukuzibulala kuyinto yesithathu ebangela ukufa phakathi kwabantu abaselula.
Iingxaki zempilo yengqondo kunye nokuzibulala zingaba yinto engathandekiyo yokuxoxisana-ngakumbi xa ungaqiniseki ukuba ungathini. Kodwa ukuthetha ngayo kungasindisa ubomi bakho bentsha.
Zifundise ngokuzibulala. Akukuphela nje okukukunceda ukuba ukhangele iimpawu ezinokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho usemngciphekweni, kodwa ukuqonda ukuzibulala kuya kukunceda ukuba ube neengxoxo ezinentsingiselo kunye nentombazana yakho kwisifundo.
Kukho ezininzi iingcinga ezingaqhelekanga ngokuzibulala ezivimbela abazali ukuba bathethe nabaselula. Ezinye iingcamango zokuzibulala zivimbela abazali ukuba baqonde indlela enokuzibulala ngayo ingxaki.
Nazi iingoma ezisixhenxe eziqhelekileyo malunga nokuzibulala kwentsha:
1. Intsha esongela ukuzibulala ifuna nje ingqalelo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana banokuzimela ekufihla iingxaki, ngakumbi kubantu abadala. Umntwana osetsheni othetha ngokuzibulala kufuneka aphulaphule ngokunyamekileyo aze athathwe ngokunyanisekileyo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha ukuzibulala, thabatha ngokubaluleka kwaye ufune uncedo lwezakhono ngokukhawuleza.
2. Ukucela abafana ukuba babe neengcamango zokuzibulala bongeza ingozi.
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bayesaba ukuba ukuvelisa umxholo wokuzibulala kuya kubakho ukutshala imbewu. Kodwa ukubuza imibuzo ngokuthe ngqo malunga nokuzibulala akuyi kukunyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba abulale. Kodwa ukuba unayo nayiphi na ingcinga yokuzibulala, uya kuziva ekhululekile ngemibuzo yakho.
3. Intsha engaphumeleli ekuzaliseni ukuzibulala yayingabalulekanga.
Umntwana ozama ukuzibulala uzama ukuyeka intlungu kunye nosizi. Abaselula abazama ukwenza umngcipheko omkhulu wokuzama kwakhona. Imizamo yabo yesibini inokuba yingozi kakhulu.
4. Iintsholongwane ezenza ukuzibulala zisoloko zenza buhlungu ngaphambili.
Ukuxinezeleka kwabaselula kuyabonakala behluke kwixinzelelo kubantu abadala. Iintsholongwane ezinexinzelelo zihlala zibuhlungu. Basenokucaphukisa okanye bahoxiswe kwaye banokubonakala bevuya ngamanye amaxesha. Ukuzibulala kunokusabela ngokukhawuleza kwisiganeko esinzima.
5. Iintsholongwane ezenza ukuzibulala zichitha ixesha elininzi zicwangcisa.
Isigqibo sokuzibulala sinokucetywa-kodwa sinokuba yinto enomdla. Ukuzibulala kunokuvakalelwa njengendlela engcono yokubaleka intlungu. Umntwana osemncinci oye wahlaziswa, walahlwa, okanye oxhatshazwayo, umzekelo, unokucinga ukuba ukuzibulala yindlela kuphela yokuphuma.
6. Ukuzibulala phakathi kwentsha kubunqabile.
Uninzi lwabantu aluqapheli ukuba le ngxaki eqhelekileyo. Ukuzibulala akuqhelekanga ukuba iindaba kunye neentsapho ezininzi zizibulale ngokuzibulala njengabucala njengoko kunokwenzeka. Abantwana abanomdla wokugula ngengqondo , njengokudandatheka, kunye nabasebenzisa kakubi izinto ezisengozini enkulu yokuthatha ubomi babo.
7. Isicwangciso sokuzibulala asisho ukuba umntwana usemngciphekweni wokulandela.
Umntwana osemtsha kunye nesicwangciso esithile sokuba njani kwaye nini ukuzibulala ngumntwana osemtsha kwiinkathazo ezinzulu. Xa ingcali yengqondo yengqondo ihlola umntwana osemtsha ngenxa yokuzibulala, ukudibana nale nkcazo kuthetha ukuba umntwana usemngciphekweni osesikweni kunye namanyathelo kufuneka athathwe ukuqinisekisa ukukhuselwa.
Qala Ingxoxo namhlanje
Gxininisa ingxoxo kunye nentombazana yakho ngemicimbi yengqondo yengqondo, uxinzelelo kunye nokuzibulala. Unokuqala ngokukhankanya ibali olifunde malunga neendaba okanye umboniso weTV owawubukele kwisihloko.
Unokubuza kwakhona imibuzo enjengaleyo, "Ngaba kukho nawuphi na esikolweni wakho othetha ngokuzibulala?" okanye "Ngaba isikolo sakho sikufundisa ngemicimbi yengqondo yengqondo?"
Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba umntwana wakho ucinga ukuzibulala , okanye umntwana wakho okhulayo unenkxalabo yempilo yengqondo okanye isiganeko esichukumisayo sisandul 'ukuza, xela udokotela wengane yakho. Udokotela wezilwanyana unako ukubhekisa umntwana wakho kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.
Imithombo:
I-Jason Foundation: Iinkcukacha zokuzibulala kwentsha .
I-American Psychological Association: I-Teen Suicide iyakukhusela.
I-American Academy ye-Child & Adolescent Psychiatry: Intsha yokuzibulala .
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