Enye yezona zinto ezintle onokuzenza kubantwana bentsapho yengqondo kukubanceda bahlakulele ukuqonda kwabo kunye nokuqonda kwengqondo (EQ) . Intelligent intelligence kuthiwa ibaluleke kakhulu njengengqiqo yengqondo (IQ) njengoko inceda abantu baqinise ubudlelwane babo nabanye kwaye bafumane impumelelo enkulu kwimisebenzi yabo, phakathi kwezinye izinto ezininzi.
Intelligence Intelligence Unokuphuhliswa
Ngelixa abanye abantu bebebekwa phambili ekuphuhliseni amanqanaba aphakamileyo okhungulukisayo kunabanye, uphando kwiinkalo ezinjenge- neurobiology kunye neengqondo zengqondo eziqhubekayo ziqhubeka zibonakalisa impembelelo enkulu ukuba ubudlelwane bokuqala bube nokubunjwa kwengqondo yomntu. Ngamanye amazwi, unempembelelo enkulu ekubunjweni kwengqondo yabantwana bakho kwaye unokubanceda ekuphuhliseni iingqondo zabo. Eli nqaku linika amaqhinga ambalwa, ngokusekelwe kumsebenzi kaDkt. Daniel Siegel, ukukunceda ukuba uncede ukuqinisa ingqondo yabantwana bakho.
Encwadini yakhe, Ingane Yomntwana Yonke: I-Revolutionary Strategies yokukhulisa Ingqondo Yomntwana Wakho , uSiegel unikeza igama elithi "SIFT" ukunceda abazali babonise abantwana babo indlela yokuhamba ngamava abo kwihlabathi. Ukwanda kokwazi ngokwabo kunceda iindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bezingane zisebenza kunye, zidibanise ngakumbi kwaye zivelise ingqiqo enkulu yengqondo kunye nokuphucula impilo yengqondo.
U-Siegel ukhuthaza abazali ukuba bancede abantwana "BENZE" ngamava abo ngokubakhokela ukuba bahambe kwiimbambano, i- mages, i-eelings kunye nezinto ezivela kuyo nayiphi imeko. Ukwenza lo msebenzi okanye ukudlala "umdlalo wokuhlunga" akufanele ube yingxoxo engathà sina kodwa unokufezekiswa ngethuba lemihla kwimisebenzi yosuku njengokugxotha abantwana esikolweni okanye ukuhamba.
S - Iingcamango
Ngokukhuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba banake ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo zabo zomzimba, baya kuqonda ngakumbi oko kwenzekayo emzimbeni wabo. Baya kuba banako ukukuxelela, umzekelo, ukuba balambile, bathemba ngaphambi kokuba bafumane i-cranky. Baya kuba nako ukudibanisa imizwa ethile yemvelo, njengama-butterflies esiswini, kunye neemvakalelo, ezifana nokuxhalabisa. Oku kwandisa ukuqonda ngokwayo kukuguqulela ukuqonda kwengqondo kunye nempilo yengqondo.
I - Iifoto
Ukuphazamiseka kweemeko, nokuba zivela kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye zikhona kuphela kwiingqondo zabantwana bakho, ngokuqhelekileyo zithatha uhlobo lwemifanekiso. Le mifanekiso, nokuba ingaba yingozi okanye i-monster yasebusuku, ingaba nempembelelo enkulu kwindlela abantwana abavakalelwa ngayo. Njengomzali, unokunceda umntwana wakho achaze loo mifanekiso kwaye uyazi ukuba abantwana bakho babe ne-arhente enkulu kunye nokulawula kwabo. Ukwenza ingqiqo yale mifanekiso kunceda abantwana bakho ngeemeko ezibuhlungu.
F- Feelings
Ukwenza indawo yengqondo yabantwana ngokubabuza indlela abavakalelwa ngayo abanokuhamba ixesha elide ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo engqondweni. Unokuzama ukunceda abantwana bakho baqonde amava abo xa bebonakala bexinekile kwaye bengakwazi ukubiza imizwa yabo.
Ukucinga ngokubuyisela kubantwana bakho indlela abanokuvakalelwa ngayo kunye nokujonga ukuba ngaphandle kwabo kubancedisa ukuba baqonde iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bancede bazinciphe.
T - Thoughts
Iingcamango zibaluleke kakhulu kwaye zinempembelelo kwindlela abantu abazijonga ngayo ngokwabo kunye nokwenza izinto kwihlabathi, kodwa abantu bahlala bengakwazi ukuba ziphi iingcinga zabo eziphambili. Unokukunceda abantwana bakho baqikelele ngeengcamango zabo ngokubabuza ngezinto abacinga ngazo. Ukuqonda ngokubanzi malunga neengcinga kunye "nokwenza intetho" kwenza ukuba ulawulwe ngokubanzi kwiingcamango ezinjalo, okubangela ukuzithiba okukhulu ngokubanzi kunye nempilo yengqondo engcono.
Ngexesha elizayo xa unabantwana bakho, dlala umdlalo "SIFT". Buza malunga neemvakalelo, imifanekiso, iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango zabo. Ukunceda abantwana bakho bakwazi ukuqonda ngokwabo ukususela kwiminyaka emininzi kuya kubakho ekubancedeni ukuphuhlisa ingqiqo enkulu yengqondo nokuphucula impilo yengqondo ngenxa yoko.
Umthombo
Siegel, DJ kunye no-Payne Bryson, T. (2011). Ingqondo yomntwana wonke: izicwangciso ezili-12 zokuguqulwa kwengqondo yokukhulisa ingqondo yengqondo yomntwana wakho. I-Random House: eNew York.