Indlela yokukwazi nokwenza ntoni Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Unemibuzo Yokuzibulala
Ngelixa abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuxinezeleka njengomntu omdala, malunga neepesenti ezimbini zezingane zibikwa ukuba zinexinzelelo. Ukuba loo nto ayiyikukhathazeka ngokwabo, iingcamango zokuzibulala, okanye iingcamango zokuzibulala zingahamba nokudandatheka nakubantwana. Unokwazi njani ukuba umntwana wakho unengqondo yokuzibulala kwaye unokwenza ntoni?
Indlela Yokuxelela Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Unemibuzo Yokuzibulala
Iingcamango zokuzibulala, eziyaziwa nangokuzibulala , zingenakuhlala zicacile kwabanye ... nakubantwana babantwana. Ingxenye yesi sizathu kukuba abantwana abaneengcamango zokuzibulala baya kuba bathethe ngokuthe ngqo malunga nabo njengabantu abadala.
Kunoko, iingcinga zokuzibulala kubantwana zingabonakalisa ngentshisekelo kunye / okanye ukukhathazeka ngokuzibulala okanye ukufa. Unokwazi ukubona iimpawu zale nkxalabo kwimpahla yengane yakho, umboniso obukele kumabonwakude, iiwebhsayithi ahambela kwikhompyuter, ngokubhaliweyo abhalayo kwiimagazini okanye nakumsebenzi wesikolo, okanye ngendlela achonga ngayo abanye udandathekile okanye uthethe ukuzibulala.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uya kuthetha ngqo ngokufuna "ukufa" okanye unqwenela 'ukuzibulala.' Unokuthi uthethe ngokungaqondile ngokufuna "ukwenza konke kuhambe" okanye ucinge ukuba "ihlabathi liya kuba yindawo engcono ngaphandle kwam."
Ngokuqhelekileyo, zimbalwa iimpawu zokuzibulala kubantwana, ngakumbi kubantwana abanamahloni okanye ngaphezulu. Ukuba kunjalo nangomntwana wakho, ungazi njani njengomzali ukuba unengqondo yokuzibulala? Isibalulekileyo sinokuqonda imiqondiso yokudakumba, ukwazi ukuba iingcinga zokuzibulala nokuxinezeleka kunokuhamba ngesandla.
Ukunyanzeliswa kwabantwana kuyingozi yengozi yokuzibulala
Ukuba umntwana wakho akakubonanga ngokucacileyo nayiphi na ingcinga yokuzibulala, kubalulekile ukuqaphela iimpawu zokudandatheka kwabantwana , kuba ezi zinto zihlala zihlanganiswa neengcinga zokuzibulala. Oku kunokubandakanya iimvakalelo ezinjengezinto ezingenanto , ukungaphumeleli , kunye nokuhlaliswa kwezenhlalakahle .
Ngoxa bengekho bonke abantwana abadandathekileyo abaneengcamango zokuzibulala (zixhaphake kakhulu kubantwana abanokudakumba kokuqala kunye nexesha elide leempawu,) ukuxinezeleka kuthathwa njengengozi yeengcinga zokuzibulala nokuzama . Ukongeza, ngelixa iingcinga zokuzibulala azikholoko zikhokelela kwisilingo sokuzibulala, iingcinga ezinjalo zikholelwa ukuba zandisa ingozi yomntwana.
Ukuzibulala ngenye yemiphumo eyoyikisayo yokuxinezeleka ezingaphendulwanga kubantwana , kodwa ukuxinezeleka kwabantwana kungonakalisa ngezinye iindlela ngokunjalo.
Oko Ukwenza Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Unemibuzo Yokuzibulala
Njengoko kuchazwe ngasentla, iingcamango zomntwana akunakwenzeka ukuba zihlale zicacile, kungenxa yoko kufuna unyango kubandezeleka kwengane yakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Umniki-mpilo oqeqeshwe ngengqondo unokukwazi ukufumana iingcamango ezizifihlakeleyo zokucinga ngokuzibulala ngokuthetha nomntwana wakho, ukuqhuba iimvavanyo zengqondo, nokuvavanya izinto ezinobungozi, ezifana nokuzama ukuzibulala kunye nokunyaniseka kwengcinezelo yengane yakho.
Ukongezelela, unyango lwonyango lokudakumba lunokunceda ukunciphisa iingcinga zakho zokuzibulala xa unayo. Ukuba ugqirha wakho ubonisa amayeza, yenza umsebenzi wesikolo sakho. Uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwezixhobo ezithile ze -serotonin reuptake inhibitors (i-SSRIs) kunokunyusa ukuzibulala kwabantwana. Indlela eyahlukeneyo yokulawula umntwana wakho iya kuba yinkqubela ngakumbi.
Ukuba unomdla, cela umntwana wakho ngqo ukuba ucinga ngokuzibulala. Ngokuchasene noko kwakukholelwa kwixesha elidlulileyo, oku akuyi kunika iingcamango zakhe. Endaweni yoko, uya kuziva exhaswa ukuba uye waxinezeleka.
Enyanisweni, inkxaso yabazali (ukuthatha ixesha lokuthetha nomntwana wakho ngeemvakalelo ezinjengezo malunga nokuzibulala) kudibaniswa neengxaki ezisezantsi zokuzibulala ezisekuhlaleni abantwana.
Ukuba kukho naziphi iinkxalabo zokukhusela, musa ukunika isigwebo okanye uqeqesho; mkhuphe nje kumngcipheko, musa ukumshiya wodwa, kwaye uncedo lwakhe olukhawulezileyo.
Ungalokothi uchithe iingcinga zokuzibulala komntwana emntwaneni, kwaye ungalokothi uthembise ukugcina imfihlo. Naliphi na iingcinga zokuzibulala okanye iimpawu zokuziphatha kufuneka zihanjiswe ngunyana wengane yomntwana okanye umboneleli wezempilo yengqondo ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, mbuyisela umntwana kwigumbi elingxamisekileyo okanye ubize i-ambulensi.
Ngaphantsi kweengcinga zokuzibulala ezinganeni
Iingcamango zokuzibulala kufuneka zithathwe ngokungathí sina kwaye akufanele zicatshangelwe ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna kuphela ingqalelo. Soloko ufuna uncedo kwaye udibanise le ngcamango njengempawu zokuzibulala. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayesaba ukuvakalisa ezi ngcamango baze baveze ngendlela ehlekisayo. Ukuzibulala kuxhaphake kakhulu kubantwana, kwaye nayiphi na ingcinga kufuneka iqwalaselwe.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba ubona umboneleli wezempilo ongenakholelwa ukuba iingcinga zakho zokuzibulala ziyinto enzulu nangona wenzayo, fumana enye imbono. Thembela izilwanyana zakho xa kuziwa kumntwana wakho. Uyamazi kangcono kunanoma ubani.
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