Nceda Umntwana Wakho Myeke Ukusika kwaye Ufunde Iindlela Zokuphilisa Ukuphila
Ukusika kukuhlobo lokuzilimaza apho abantwana banqumla ngamabomu okanye baziqhayisa ngamacu, i-razor blades, okanye ezinye izinto ezibukhali, kodwa kungekhona nangenjongo yokuzama ukuzibulala.
Ezinye iindlela zokuzilimaza zingabandakanya ukubetha kwekhanda, ukutshitshisa uphawu okanye ukutshisa isikhumba sabo, ukugqithisa ngokugqithiseleyo kumachiza kunye nokuqhawula.
Ezi ziphatha ziqhelekileyo kunokuba ungacinga kwaye zichaphazele ukuya kuma-16 ekhulwini olutsha kunye nabantu abadala.
Kutheni AbaNtombi Bakha
Abazali kunye nezingane zakudala kunzima ukuqonda ukuba kutheni abatsha banqumla okanye benze ezinye izinto ukuba bazilimaze ngokwabo. Akumangalisi kukuba, ukusika ingxaki yokuziphatha eyinkimbinkimbi kwaye ihlala idibana neengxaki ezahlukeneyo zengqondo, kubandakanywa ukuxinezeleka, ukuxhalabisa kunye nokukhathazeka kokutya. Abaselula abazinqumlayo banokuba nabahlobo abazinqambileyo, ukuzithoba kwabo, imbali yokusetyenziswa kakubi , kunye / okanye iingcinga zokuzibulala.
Nangona ngamanye amaxesha kubonwa njengendlela yokufuna ingqwalasela, ukusika kuyinto yindlela yabantwana yokukhulula ukuxhatshazwa, ukunciphisa iimvakalelo okanye umsindo, okanye ukuphazamisa zabo iingxaki. Kakade ke, nayiphi na inkululeko yesikhashana.
Nangona abanye abatsha abanqunyayo banokuba nomhlobo otyunayo okanye owake wafunda ngaye okanye uyakubonayo kwiTV, abaninzi abantwana abaqala ukusika bathi abazange baphenjelelwe ngabani na okanye nayiphi na into kwaye beza nale ngcamango ngokwabo.
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Ukucheka kuqhelekileyo kubaselula kunye nabantu abadala-ngokukodwa phakathi kwamantombazana amantombazana-kwaye ahlala eqala malunga ne-14 okanye 15 ubudala, ngexesha leminyaka yokuqala yesikolo esiphakamileyo.
Iintsholongwane eziziqhekezayo zivame ukuchazwa njengento engachukumanga. Ezinye zichazwa ngokuba ziphezulu.
Ngokomqondiso wezilumkiso kunye neeflegi ezibomvu, wakho umntwana usemncinci ukuba anqumle ukuba:
- Uhlala enxiba iikhati ezinde okanye ezisebhentsheni ezide (nangona iimozulu zifudumala) ukugubungela amanqaku amancinci okanye amanxeba angaphezulu kwiingalo zakhe, izibonda okanye iintamo (ezo ziindawo eziqhelekileyo zomzimba apho kunqunyulwa khona)
- ngokuqhelekileyo unokrokra, utyatye, okanye uvutha kwisisu sakhe, imilenze, izibonda, okanye iingalo
- liphuhlisa iimpawu zokudakumba, ukuxhalaba okanye ukugula okuphazamisayo
- unenkathazo yokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe (ngathi ukuba umntwana wakho akwazi ukuba aziphathe njani xa eziva edabukile okanye enomsindo)
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uyakunqumla, mbuze ngenyameko. Ukuba impendulo nguwewe, kubalulekile ukuba ungabi mhlanya okanye ungaphatheki. Awufuni ukumenza azive kakubi ngokwenza oko. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukusika ngokuqhelekileyo kuyimpawu yenkxalabo enkulu, kwaye wena njengomzali, unokunceda umntwana wakho abone isizathu esiyimbangela ngokufuna uncedo lwezakhono (ngaphezulu ngaphantsi).
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Kubalulekile ukufuna unyango wakho kwintsana ngokukhawuleza, ukuba uncedise ukunyanga naziphi na iingxaki zengqondo zengqondo, njengengcinezelo okanye uxhalabisayo, nokukhusela ekubeni ngumkhwa omubi. Umntwana osemncinci uyanqumla, kunzima ukuphula umkhwa.
Ukukhahlela kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezininzi emva koko.
Enyanisweni, i-SAFE Alternatives (I-Self Abuse Abuse iphelile) inkqubo yonyango ichaza ukusika njengokuthi 'ekugqibeleni isicwangciso esilukhuni kunye nesicatshulwayo esichaphazela ukusondelana, ukuvelisa kunye nolonwabo.'
Le ndlela yindlela yokonyango enokukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba ayeke ukusika kwaye afunde izicwangciso zokuhlangabezana nokuphilisa.
- I-Psychotherapist: Iintsholongwane ezinqunywe zifanele zihlolwe kwaye ziphathwe ngabacebisi okanye iingqondo ze-psychologists abanamava ekuphatheni abafana nale meko ethile. Ezi ntlobo zengcali ziyakwazi ukuthetha unyango kwaye ziyakwazi ukubonelela indawo ephephile, engekho isigwebo apho umntwana wakho angathetha ngokucacileyo ngeengxaki ezijongene nazo. Khumbula, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuba umntwana avulekele ngokupheleleyo umzali, ngoko ukuthetha nomntu ongeyena mntu angaqhelekanga kuba lula kumntwana wakho.
- Isazi sengqondo: Uvavanyo ngunyango wengqondo yomntwana (ugqirha onogqirha onokumisela izidakamizwa) usenokuba nengcamango efanelekileyo yokufumana iingcinga zonyango, ezingabandakanya ukuxhatshazwa kwengqondo xa kuyimfuneko.
- Iziko leZonyango: Unokufuna indawo yeziko lonyango kwindawo yakho ejolise ekunqumeni. Igama leziko lonyango linokuquka iincwadana "ukuzilimaza," "ukuzilimaza," okanye "ukuziqhenqa."
- Iqela leNkxaso: Intsha yakho inokufumana uncedo ngokujoyina iqela lokuxhasa inzakalo. Ukudibana nabanye abancincileyo kunokumnceda ukuba azive ephantsi kwaye angamnceda ukuba afunde indlela abanye abaye bayeka ngayo ukuzicima.
Ukwelashwa kokusika kuya kuba kukugxila ekuncediseni umntwana ukuba ahlakulele iindlela zokuhlangabezana nokuphila xa ejongene nengqumbo, uxinzelelo, okanye intlungu. Kuya kuncedisa ukuzithembela kwentombazana, kukunceda ukulawula nayiphi na ingxaki yengqondo, kwaye uncede uqinisekise ukuba umntwana ongenayo ingcinga yokuzibulala .
Imithombo:
I-American Academy yabantwana kunye ne-Adolescent Psychiatry. Iinkcukacha zeMindeni. Ukuzilimaza Kwi-Adolescents.
Ukuzilimaza okwenzululwazi ebusheni: uphando olwenziwa ngabantu. I-Nixon MK-CMAJ-29-JAN-2008; 178 (3): 306-12