Izinyathelo ezilula zokunqoba ezi Mvakalelo
Cishe wonke umntu ufumana uxolo ngezikhathi ezithile, abantu abaninzi becinga ukuba baziva bebuhlungu bexesha leholide, uSuku lweValentine , kunye nexesha loxinzelelo olunzulu. Nangona inani labantu abafumana uluntu lukhulu kakhulu (i-poll kule sayithi ibonisa ukuba iholide yedwa ihlanganiselwe ngumlinganiselo omangalisayo wabafundi, umzekelo), abantu abasoloko bethetha ngeemvakalelo zodwa, kwaye Ndisoloko ndiyazi into enokuyenza ngayo le mvakalelo.
Ngaphandle kokuva buhlungu ngokomzwelo, ubunyulu bunokuchaphazela abantu ngeendlela ezininzi:
- Ubuhlungu Bomzimba: Uphando lubonisa ukuba iingingqi zengqondo ejongene nokukhutshwa kweentlalo ziindawo ezifanayo zenza intlungu engokwenyama, yongeze inkcazo yesayensi kwimeko yamava "entliziyo ephukileyo."
- Uxinzelelo: Olunye uphando lufumanise ukuba abantu abanesizungu babonisa iimpawu ezixinzeleleyo kunye nokuba abantu abadaka kunye nabanyanisekileyo bazama ukufumana "ubuninzi" ekuhlaleni. Uphando luye lwafumanisa ukuba ukudakumba nokulondeka kunokunxila omnye komunye, nganye iqhube enye.
- Impilo Yomzimba : Izifundo eziliqela ziye zaxinisa uxinzelelo lwengqondo ngokuxhomekeka komzimba. Olunye uphando ludibanisa uluntu kunye nokudakumba kwezempilo kunye nempilo empofu. Oko kuthetha ukuba abantu abajongene nesizungu banomdla kwiintlobo zempilo.
Ukuba unesizungu, kukho ezinye izinto onokuzenza ngazo.
Joyina iCandelo
Ingaba kukho iklasi yobugcisa, iklasi yokuzilolonga, okanye iklasi kwindawo yekholeji yasekuhlaleni, ukujoyina iklasi ngokuzenzekelayo kukubonisa ukuba iqela labantu abelana ubuncinane omnye wenu. Iyakwazi ukubonelela ngengqondo yokuba ngumntu oza kunye nokuba yinxalenye yeqela . Oku kunokuvuselela ubuchule, kukunike into ekhangele phambili emini, kwaye uncede unqande ulwalamano.
Lontiya
Ukuba yivolontiya ngenxa yeso sizathu okholelwa kuyo kunokubonelela ngeenzuzo ezifanayo njengokuthatha iiklasi - ukuhlangabezana nabanye, ukuba yinxalenye yeqela, ukudala amava amatsha-kwaye izisa neenzuzo zokwenza izinto , kwaye unokukunceda ukuba ufumane intsingiselo ebomini bakho , zombini ezo zinto zizisa ulonwabo olukhulu kunye nokwaneliseka komphefumlo, kunye nokunciphisa ubulunge. Ukongezelela, ukusebenzisana nabanye abangaphantsi kunokukunceda uzive unomxholo ojulileyo wokubulela into onayo ebomini bakho.
Fumana inkxaso kwi-Intanethi
Ngenxa yokuba i-loneliness iyinkqutyana ephakamileyo, kukho abantu abaninzi kwi-intanethi abafuna abantu ukuba baxhumane nabo. Kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ngubani odibana naye kwi-intanethi (kwaye, ngokucacileyo, unganiki naluphi na ulwazi oluthile olufana nenombolo yakho yebhanki yebhanki), kodwa unokufumana inkxaso yangempela, uxhumano kunye nobuhlobo obungapheliyo kubantu odibana nabo kwi-intanethi.
Ukuqinisa ubudlelwane obukhoyo
Mhlawumbi sele ubenabantu ebomini bakho ukuze ukwazi ukuba bhetele, okanye udibaniso nosapho olunokuba lunzulu. Ukuba kunjalo, kutheni ungabizi abahlobo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, uphume kunye nabo, kwaye ufumane ezinye iindlela zokuzonwabisa nolwalamano lwakho olukhoyo kunye nokomeleza izibophelelo? (Jonga eli nqaku ngokudala ubudlelwane obusondayo ngeengcinga ezingaphezulu.)
Fumana iPet
Izilwanyana - ingakumbi iinja kunye neekati - zithatha inzuzo eninzi, kwaye ukuthintela ukulondeka ngenye yazo. Ukuhlangula isilwanyana kudibanisa izibonelelo zokubambisana kunye nobudlelwane, kwaye kukushiya kunye nabaninzi abanamahloni. Ingakwazi ukudibanisa nabanye abantu-ukuhamba inja kukuvula kwindawo yoluntu inja-abahambahambayo, kunye nenja enhle kwi-leash ivame ukuba ngummori. Ukongezelela, izilwanyana zinika uthando olungenammiselo , olunokuba luncedo olukhulu lokulondeka.
Unyango lweZenzo zoLwazi kunye nezinye iindidi zonyango
Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba isilulu kunye nesifo sokunyamezela sisifo sinokuthi senze umonakalo wokunciphisa inhlalakahle, oku kuthetha ukuba uhlala unesizungu, uziva ucinezelekile, kwaye ngokufanayo.
Kuye kwafunyanwa ukuba abantu abanesizungu bavame ukuziva benesizungu kunabanye xa bekunye nabanye abantu, oko kuthetha ukuba nangona bahlala nabanye abantu, abantu abanesizungu bavame ukugcina isohlwayo. Ngenxa yoko, ngamanye amaxesha "ukuphuma ngaphandle" kunye nokuhlangana nabanye abantu akwanele. Ukuba ngaba kunjalo kuwe, ingaba yinto efanelekileyo yokufuna i-psychotherapy ukukunceda uzive unesizungu, ingakumbi ukuba uvakalelwa neempawu zokudakumba ezifana nokulahleka kwizinto oye wazifumana. Ezinye iintlobo zonyango, ngokukodwa unyango lwezengqondo , luyakunceda ukuba utshintshe iingcamango zakho kunye nezenzo zakho ukukunceda ukuba ungabi nelulunge, kodwa wenze okungakumbi kwimpilo yakho ukukhusela ulunwabo.
Nantoni na oyenzayo ukulwa nesilungu, yazi ukuba awukho yodwa, kwaye kukho izinto ezininzi ongayenza ukuze uzive uxhunyiwe.
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