Kukho inani leendlela zokuziphatha zabantwana abazali abafanele bajonge ngazo ezinokuba zibonakalisa ukuba umntwana uyabandezeleka. Abazali abasebenzisa ukunakekelwa kwabantwana bahlala bexhalabele ngokukodwa ukuba iziphathamandla ezithile zingaxhomekeke kumgangatho weenkonzo zokunyamekela.
Uninzi lweengqondo zengqondo ziyavuma ukuba xa ukunakekelwa kwabantwana "kumgangatho ophezulu, akufanele kube nesizathu esithile sokulindela iziphumo eziphuculweyo".
Enyanisweni, kukho ubungqina bokuba ukunakekelwa kwondlo oluphezulu kunokuba luncedo ekuphuculweni kwengqondo kwabantwana ngaphezu kokunyamekela ekhaya.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba abazali bahlale bejonge ngokuziphatha komntwana wabo. Ubuntwana bokuqala ngethuba lokukhula ngokukhawuleza nophuhliso, yingakho kubalulekile ukuba abantwana babe neenkathalo kunye nenkxaso efanelekileyo ngeli xesha elibucayi.
Ezi zilandelayo zimbalwa zezibonakaliso zokuziphatha zomntwana zokuzibukela. Ukuba umntwana wakho uqala ukubonisa utshintsho ngokukhawuleza ekuziphatheni, kusenokuba ixesha lokuphanda kwaye uphinde ucinge ngemeko yakho yokunakekela abantwana.
Umntwana Wakho Uqala Ukunyaniseka Kakhulu
Nangona bonke abantwana befuna ukuxhaswa kunye nokuqinisekiswa, ukugqithisa ngokweqile kungabonakalisa ingxaki. Ukuba uqaphela utshintsho olusenyakatho kumntwana wakho, qalisa ukuphawula ukuba nini kwaye kuphi ukuziphatha okubonakala ngathi kwenzeka njalo.
Ingaba umntwana wakho uyakunamathela ngaphambi nangemva kokuya kwi-sitter?
Ukuba kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuba kutheni umntwana wakho adinga ingqalelo eyongezelelweyo kuwe ngeli xesha. Okunye ukuxhalabisa ukuxhatshazwa kunokuqhelekileyo, kodwa umzekelo oqhubekayo ungabonisa ukuba umntwana wakho akafumani unyameko kunye nengqalelo ayifunayo kwi-sitter.
Umntwana Wakho Ukhala Ngokungaqiniseki Ngengcamango Yokushiywa NgeSitter
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bathande ukuba nabazali babo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba neempembelelo ezintle ezingathandekiyo kumntu othile othize yi-flag ebomvu. Ingaba umntwana wakho ukhalela ngokuphendula kwabo bonke ukuhlukana kwabazali, okanye kuphela ekuphenduleni kule ndawo? Ukuba ingxaki ibonakala ilala ne-sitter, lixesha lokuhlola kwakhona imeko yakho yokunakekela umntwana.
Umntwana Wakho Unobungozi Osoloko Uhlawulela KwiCuts and Bruises
Amancinci ambalwa kunye neentlobo zeziqhelo ziyingxenye eqhelekileyo yentsapho esebenzayo, esebenzileyo, kodwa umzekelo wengozi engaqondakaliyo ingabonakalisa isilumkiso sokunyamekela okanye ukuphathwa kakubi ngokomzimba. Ukuba umntwana wakho unobungozi obuninzi kwiinkathalo ze-sitter, phanda ngokukhawuleza ukufumanisa ukuba ngaba kuyimfuneko engaphezulu.
Umntwana Wakho Akaxhamli Ukuthetha Nomntwana
Umntwana wakho kufuneka azive ekhululekile kwaye ekulungele ukwabelana ngemibono, ukukhathazeka, iimvakalelo kunye neengxaki kunye nawe kunye ne-sitter. Ukuba umntwana wakho unzima ukuthetha kunye ne-sitter, kusenokuba ngumqondiso wokuthi umntwana wakho akafumani inkxaso nenkxaso-mva ayenayo.
Umntwana Wakho Uba Ungathobeli okanye Ukhohlisi
Ukubonakaliswa ngokukhawuleza kokungathobeli okanye ukungcikiva kungachaza inkathazo engundoqo kunye nomnikezeli wakho wokunakekela abantwana.
Ukuze ugcine ukuzinza nokuzimelela, kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso sendlela yokuziphatha kunye nomnakekeli wengane yakho.
Umnikeli ononophelo lomntwana uya kukulungele ukunyanzelisa imigaqo kunye nezenzo zoluleko ozimiselayo. Ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi kukuba yingxaki, kungaba ngumqondiso wokuthi i-sitter ayihloneli iminqweno yakho kwimicimbi enjengokuqeqesha, ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo kwezentlalo kunye nokuphuhliswa komlingiswa.
Umntwana wakho ubonisa ukutshintsha kweendlela zokuziphatha
Ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza okanye ukuguqulwa okuphawulekayo ekuziphatheni mhlawumbi izibonakaliso eziyingozi kakhulu. Ezi ziphatha ziyakuboniswa ekhaya, phakathi koontanga okanye ngexesha lokulala.
Umntwana ophumayo usenokuba ngumdla okanye uhoxiswe, okanye umntwana onomsindo unokukhawuleza aqalane nokufumana umsindo obushushu. Ukuba ubona utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha komntwana okanye iipatheni zokulala, jonga kwimeko ngokukhawuleza ukuze ufumane isisombululo okanye ulungiselele ingxaki kwaye ucebise uncedo lwezengcali kumgqirha okanye kwi- psychologist .
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