Funda Indlela Yokuzikhuthaza Ekusebenzeni Kwenu Nobomi Bakho
Ukuba ukwesaba ukugqamisa iimpawu zakho ezilungileyo, unokubandezeleka ukwesaba ukuzithuthukisa. Nangona uloyiko lokuzikhuphaza alinalo igama elisemthethweni elingu-phobia, ukwesaba okuqhekezayo kunokuba kungonakalise ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Abantu abanoyikayo ukukhuthaza ukuzinyusa bangadluliselwa ukukhushulwa kwamathuba emisebenzi, balahle amathuba okudibanisa kunye nemihla enokwenzeka kwaye ugweme ukuzalisekisa izinto zokuzilibazisa.
Ngoko kulungele ukukhupha loloyiko kuwe.
Imposter Syndrome
Uloyiko lokuzikhuphaza lunxulumene nesifo sengqondo somzimba, esingabonakaliyo kodwa esicatshulwa kakhulu ngengqondo. Bobabini abesilisa nabasetyhini banokuxhatshazwa yi-imposter syndrome, nangona amadoda angenakukwazi ukuzimela. Ukuba unengxaki yolu daba, unalo inkolelo enzulu kakhulu yokuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba uphumelele kangakanani, uya kugqitywa nje ngobuqhetseba.
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo apho loloyiko lungavela khona. Unokwenza ngenjongo okanye ungayiqondi kakuhle ukuphumelela kwakho. Unokuba ukhangele kwabanye ukuba uqinisekise ukuba uqobo lwakho lufanelekile njengomntu onobuqili, onolwazi. Unokuba unqwenela ukuzithobela ukuhlolisisa. Enyanisweni, unokuba ngumtsalane wokugxeka, usibone njengobungqina bokungakwazi kwakho.
Ingaba Uloyiko Lokukhuthaza Kwenu Lungakulimaza
Imiphumo yokwesaba ukuzithumelela ixhomekeka kakhulu kwiimeko zakho.
Abaculi, abadlali, abaculi, abalobi kunye nabanye abaculi kufuneka bahlale bekhuthaza, abavoti kunye nabaphulaphuli babo. Kodwa kukho nawuphi na umsebenzi onokuphinda uhlaselwe yintlonelo yokuziphakamisa. Enoba ukhuphuka kwinqanaba leenkampani okanye ucinga ukuhamba neshishini, ukuthengiswa kuyinkalo ebalulekileyo yempumelelo.
Abantu abanokwesaba ukuzithuthukisa bavame ukuzikhethela kwimisebenzi yamanqanaba aphantsi abavuza umxhelo kwaye banqwenela ukuzimisela, nangona bafumana umsebenzi onzima okanye ongazalanga.
Uloyiko lokuzikhuphaza lunokuphazamisa ubomi bakho. Ukuzithemba kuyimpawu ebalulekileyo kwiqabane elinokuthi, nokuba yindoda okanye ibhinqa. Imihla yokuqala idinga ibhalansi enobunzima: ukubonisa ubulumko bakho xa ugwema ukukhala njengokuba uziqhayisa. Ukufika komhla wokuqala kungenza umngeni xa ukwesaba ukuvumela abanye bazi izinto ezikhethekileyo okanye ezizodwa malunga nawe.
Ukwesaba kokusilela nokuphumelela
Uloyiko lokuzikhuphaza luhlala ludityaniswe kunye neentswele zokutya nokungaphumeleli . Ukuzikhuthaza kukuthatha umngcipheko, uzibeke ngaphandle kwabanye ukuba ugwebe. Isinyathelo sokuqala sisoloko sikhokelela kwesinye seziphumo ezimbini: impumelelo okanye ukuhluleka.
Ukwesaba nokuphumelela maxa wambi kubakho kumntu omnye ngexesha elinye. Xa udibaniswa ukwesaba ukuzithuthukisa, malunga nazo zonke izigqibo ozenzayo kufuneka zilinganiswe ngokucophelela. Kulula ukuzifumana ngokuqhoqhekileyo, ungakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezincinci kuwe.
Ukuphatha Ukwesaba Ukukhuthazwa Kwakho
Ukwesaba ukuzithuthukisa, njengoloyiko olukhulu, kubonakala kuphendule kakuhle kwiinkqubo zokuqonda-zokuziphatha .
I-psychotherapy yokuhlola okanye yengqondo ingasinceda ekuqondeni iingxabano ezisemgangathweni ezikhokelela kulo mbandela.
Iziqinisekiso zilula kodwa zinamandla ezinokuthi zitshintshe ukucinga kwakho. Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa ezinokukunceda unqobe ukwesaba ukuzithuthukisa:
- Ndinento ekhethekileyo yokunikela.
- Ndineentalente, ndiyilumko kwaye ndinako.
- Andikho bhetele okanye ndibi ngaphezu komntu endifuna ukummisela. Sonke sibini abantu.
Ungabhala kwakhona iziqinisekiso zakho. Ukuba uloyiko lwenu lugxininisa ukuzithemba okanye imeko ethile, bhala uqinisekiso olujongene nemeko yakho.
Funda okanye ufunde ngokuqinisekileyo ukuqinisekiswa kwakho ubuncinane kanye ngosuku, mhlawumbi ngaphezulu. Ukujonga ngokwakho kwisibuko kunokuncedisa ukuxhomekeka kokungena kwiinjongo. Injongo kukuthatha indawo yakho yokuthetha engalunganga ngemilayezo emihle kwaye uphinda loo myalezo uze ukholelwe ngokwenene.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukwesaba ukuzithuthukisa kukugxininise ngakumbi kwezinye iinkxwaleko okanye iinkolelo malunga nawe. Ukuba uloyiko luthintela ubomi bakho, okanye awukwazi ukusebenza ngalo ngokwakho, cinga ukufuna unyango. Umgqirha unokukunceda ukulungisa imiba echaphazelekayo ekukwenzeni kwakho kwaye uphuhlise isicwangciso sonyango ukunqoba.
Ukwesaba ukuzithuthukisa kunokuba ngumngeni, kodwa ngokusebenza kanzima kunye ncedo oluncinane, akukho sizathu sokuba kufuneka uqhubeke uhlupheka.
Imithombo:
Umbutho wezeMpilo waseMelika. Uvakalelwa Njengekhwabaniso? > http://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2013/11/fraud.aspx.
Psychology Namhlanje. Ukulawula i-Imposter Syndrome yakho. > https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/self-promotion-introverts/201304/managing-your-impostor-syndrome.
I-Coaching Success Women > http://womenssuccesscoaching.com/tag/fear-of-self-promotion/.